In-law problems?

[janet88]

This old couple rented out their flat so that they don't ask son for allowance...moved their stuff to son's condo. Staying there, the mother did the housework but complained about the daughter-in-law's habits. :slapshead:

[Chenonceau]

My MIL also volunteered to do everything for me. It gave her a reason to exert control over me, mine and my household. First, I had to slowly edge her out of doing stuff for me. She didn’t like that and we had some tense moments. Then, I could tell her to stop trying to tell me what to do because I was doing it, and I wanted to do it my way. She did not like that either.


Accepting a MIL’s help is a 2-edged sword. I would rather stay away from it.

[DesertWind]

LOLMum:

maybe it is a good idea to marry an only child. at least you only have 1 set of pil to deal with. no siblings or siblings inlaw.


no wonder my dd (after reading some pages here) doesnt feel like marrying anymore.

not a good idea. i thought so too then found out otherwise. only son = total reliance. old folks lonely and only looking to us for company.

[Pen88n]

Chenonceau:

My MIL also volunteered to do everything for me. It gave her a reason to exert control over me, mine and my household. First, I had to slowly edge her out of doing stuff for me. She didn't like that and we had some tense moments. Then, I could tell her to stop trying to tell me what to do because I was doing it, and I wanted to do it my way. She did not like that either.


Accepting a MIL's help is a 2-edged sword. I would rather stay away from it.

Agreed, Chenonceau. I insisted in not asking my MIL to look after my kid when they were young, and rather put them with my nanny friend and cared for them myself after work. It was hard work, but a lot of conflict was avoided and I would not \"owe\" MIL a \"favor\" that she could harp on for ages to come.

My MIL is a very clever woman and she is still very \"sour\" about this arrangement, but she cannot exert her control in this case due to my exclusion of her running my household. Better to keep it this way for me.

[janet88]

Chenonceau:

My MIL also volunteered to do everything for me. It gave her a reason to exert control over me, mine and my household. First, I had to slowly edge her out of doing stuff for me. She didn't like that and we had some tense moments. Then, I could tell her to stop trying to tell me what to do because I was doing it, and I wanted to do it my way. She did not like that either.


Accepting a MIL's help is a 2-edged sword. I would rather stay away from it.

I didn't allow her to control how I want things done. Accepting her help is as good as owing her a big favor. No thanks. I rather do things my way, as and when I feel like. My hubby knows I am fussy where housework is concerned. I don't want her to boss me around, in my own place. Most importantly, don't want her to know what I have in my place. Not that I have gold bars lying around :rotflmao:

[Chenonceau]

My MIL moved in today!! I am so scared.

[hquek]

Chenonceau:

My MIL moved in today!! I am so scared.

I have much faith in your way of handling...still...GOOD LUCK GOOD LUCK GOOD LUCK GOOD LUCK.

[coolit]

Chenonceau:

My MIL moved in today!! I am so scared.

Oh dear..really wishing you the best, would not like to be in your position but I have benefitted much from reading your posts and if anyone can handle a MIL living in the same house, it would be you. Jia you!

[jtoh]

Chenonceau:

My MIL moved in today!! I am so scared.

Good luck!!!!

[Pen88n]

Chenonceau:

My MIL moved in today!! I am so scared.

If there is someone who can handle the situation and handle it well, it will be You! So, be :imcool: and believe you can DO it!!!