One of the slowest kid in class...

[Seekinghelp]

Ty all for yr advices. It's true that whenever he knows that I'm going to give him some more work, he can really take his own sweet time to complete his work. Especially, when no one is sitting besides him to supervise him, he really takes it for granted. A few pb sums, he can take hrs to complete it only after I woke up and get scolding from me.

He is extremely lazy too! Lazy to brush his teeth, bathe on his own, go toilet to pee, drink water etc...awaiting orders from us before he does all those things. It is damn tiring and piss off, everyday has to repeat the same old thing just to tell him what to do....my sis expects him to do well in his studies but on the other hand, ask me to let go of him. Thinking that he will do well in studies under no pressure. That's impossible! I do feel stress teaching her son. Talk to him nicely, he ignores u. Always loves to ask stupid ques in wrong timing and love to argue with u. Whenever I ask him to be more serious, he always up to mischief. I really duno how to discipline and communicate with her son. I'm not the patient type. I can be nice to him if he knows how to respect me but when he starts his nonsense, I really can't take it. :x
His form teacher does punish her students for not completing their work on time, ask them to complete it during recess time or P.E. But it seems like not working for my nephew. He can't be bother most of the time.....

[James Ang]

Seekinghelp:

Ty all for yr advices. It's true that whenever he knows that I'm going to give him some more work, he can really take his own sweet time to complete his work. Especially, when no one is sitting besides him to supervise him, he really takes it for granted. A few pb sums, he can take hrs to complete it only after I woke up and get scolding from me.

He is extremely lazy too! Lazy to brush his teeth, bathe on his own, go toilet to pee, drink water etc...awaiting orders from us before he does all those things. It is damn tiring and piss off, everyday has to repeat the same old thing just to tell him what to do....my sis expects him to do well in his studies but on the other hand, ask me to let go of him. Thinking that he will do well in studies under no pressure. That's impossible! I do feel stress teaching her son. Talk to him nicely, he ignores u. Always loves to ask stupid ques in wrong timing and love to argue with u. Whenever I ask him to be more serious, he always up to mischief. I really duno how to discipline and communicate with her son. I'm not the patient type. I can be nice to him if he knows how to respect me but when he starts his nonsense, I really can't take it. :x
His form teacher does punish her students for not completing their work on time, ask them to complete it during recess time or P.E. But it seems like not working for my nephew. He can't be bother most of the time.....

It is very difficult to teach your own relative and family member. My own experience as a child back then is that I detested my own aunt to teach me because firstly I don't have faith that she knows/understands my work, also she cannot give an objective amount and level of work, and she is too familiar to me that I fear she can tell my parents that I am \"stupid\" or \"lazy\", and she teaches me when \"she is free\" not when I need help or according to schedule. She is better to remain my aunt, not my teacher. Rather my school teacher and tuition teacher commanded my respect then as a student because I had faith in them.

[qms]

watmekiasu:

A meal can take up to 2-3 hours, a shower 1 1/2 hrs etc.

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[jedamum]

are you the caregiver of your nephew? how is your relationship with him?

usually parents or relatives with closer relationship with the student can motivate the kid to work towards a certain goal. he is simply not motivated as it does not affect him if he can’t please you as you are afterall, only an aunt.

[concern2]

Agree with jedamum. Maybe by behaving the way he does, he is hiding some true feelings. Maybe he is a softie at heart! Need some "man-to-man" bonding perhaps, a role model of some sort. Or perhaps he has some interests in art/music/sports, something non-academic to channel his energy?


I know of a tuition teacher who spends part of her tuition hour telling stories and getting her students to think. It is her way of understanding her students and bonding with them.

[Guan Hui]

Be angry but please do not give up on him.=D

[Seekinghelp]

Hi all,

I dun just teach him when I'm free. I teach him all the times. I will go through all his hmworks and even make notes of what to study before teaching him. Most of the times, I felt like I'm the student not him. I felt that he doesn't appreciate my effort.

He does like art alot. So long he has finished his homework, basically, we let him do what he wants. He is afriad of his dad, but his dad is a terribly sux guy. All he does is staying out late, drinking and womanising. I really wish my sis will have the courage to file for a divorce. He din set a gd example to his son. What his son does, exactly like his dad. Like father like son, unfortunately, my nephew is not as smart as his dad. :roll:

I only hope that he can just sit still and pay attention to what I say when I'm teaching him, that's not asking for too much. But whenever I ask him to complete the assessment book in given time, he will come up with lots of pbs. Going toilet to shit, feeling hungry, drinking water, scratching here and there or feeling sleepy. I know he's trying to avoid. Always complaining there are lots of homework to be done. Compared to his other classmates, he is considered very lucky, he only have to do the school work but his classmates still have to do their tuition work as well. It's double of what he does. Besides, I dun always ask him to do his assessment book.

[turquoise]

Hi Seekinghelp,


Has your nephew always been this way? I’m wondering if he has a learning disability which has not been detected. For eg., dyslexia or ADHD etc. If so, he might be having problems reading, learning or sitting still and is avoiding studying because it frustrates him.

[Dharma]

Seekinghelp:

Hi all,

I dun just teach him when I'm free. I teach him all the times. I will go through all his hmworks and even make notes of what to study before teaching him. Most of the times, I felt like I'm the student not him. I felt that he doesn't appreciate my effort.

He does like art alot. So long he has finished his homework, basically, we let him do what he wants. He is afriad of his dad, but his dad is a terribly sux guy. All he does is staying out late, drinking and womanising. I really wish my sis will have the courage to file for a divorce. He din set a gd example to his son. What his son does, exactly like his dad. Like father like son, unfortunately, my nephew is not as smart as his dad. :roll:

I only hope that he can just sit still and pay attention to what I say when I'm teaching him, that's not asking for too much. But whenever I ask him to complete the assessment book in given time, he will come up with lots of pbs. Going toilet to shit, feeling hungry, drinking water, scratching here and there or feeling sleepy. I know he's trying to avoid. Always complaining there are lots of homework to be done. Compared to his other classmates, he is considered very lucky, he only have to do the school work but his classmates still have to do their tuition work as well. It's double of what he does. Besides, I dun always ask him to do his assessment book.

Try getting help from the school. You may wish to speak to the form teacher and explain the situation to him/her and discuss what best you and the school can help him. You must ensure all this must be done very subtly without the knowledge of the boy. The teacher or even a counsellor may be better able to relate to the boy and find out the root cause and find ways to motivate him and overcome his problems.

[Seekinghelp]

Hi,

He's quite ok in school. He's quite a smart boy if he wants to but lazy to use his brains to think. There's one time, my sis purposely pushed away the water bottle he's holding onto. It splashed onto the floor and he din even bother to get a cloth to clean it up, just let it be. Sometimes, really feel like strangling him.....

He can be very stubborn and insist his way. Always think that he's in the right...... :stupid: I've no idea how to discipline him. Another sis of mine always asks me to be more patient with him afterall he's still young. To me, he's already 8 yrs old, he should be more initiative in lots of things but he's not. How to train him not to be so lazy??