One of the slowest kid in class...
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concern2:
He needs to learn to love himself
Sounds like you may the one to turn his life around :shock: before it is too late 
My nephew doesn't like me to sit besides him to c him to do his homework. In fact, he felt pressurized with my presence. He wanted to do it alone but yet can spend hrs just to play with his ruler and eraser in his own room. Just to waste the time until it's bedtime or mealtime. :x How to make him love himself??? :? -
A person who hasn't received loved will not know how to love himself and love others. So you need to give him lots of love and show that you care, even if no one else in the whole wide world would. I know. It isn't easy, especially if he isn't your own child. But, like atutor2001 said, it should be the child's mother's responsibility, and not yours. But if you do love him as your nephew, you could at least be there if he needs someone to talk to. Prob. need some heart to heart talk, eye to eye, lots of hugs, like a mother, I suppose.
I am not an expert, but I grew up in a big family with lots of nephews and cousins, nieces..., and most of my uncles & aunts had to work. There were times, esp difficult times when they are the meanest and most unmanageable, and ironically, those are the times when the need the most attention... -
Seekinghelp, just my opinion, maybe since he likes art, instead of getting him to go straight into homework, can get him to draw you something. Whether it is nice or not, just appreciate it. Talk about what he draws, it is a way to reach out to him. Even if it is a scribble, try guessing what he is drawing, talk, talk, talk. communicate. let him open his heart to you, and later gently bring his attention back to the task at hand (homework). The bonding will help him relax and concentrate in his work. But all these takes time, and you need lots and lots and lots of patience with him. That's what I have to remind myself with my own son.
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Seekinghelp, your situation brings to mind a video I watched recently about a music teacher who gradually took on the role of a mother (for a short time) and inspired a child to become one of the greatest musician.
The name of the movie is For Horowitz, a korean show based on a true story of Horowitz (musician).
Watch this movie trailer on youtube.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ilx36vWPtZ4&feature=related -
Very grateful to u guys for giving me such wonderful advices, appreciate that.
It's an excellent forum for pple to communicate and get info from one another.... 
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atutor2001:
This is exactly what my dad did.
Now that they are much older and I am no longer able to help them in their study, I tried my best to stay awake to accompany them when they were struggling with their studies through the night.
I always complained that my brother & sister are very noisy in the day, I can't study. So I'll nap in the day. Then I'll have dinner & start studying when my siblings are in bed. I study till 3-4am, then back to sleep. & when I need to wake up for school in the morning, my dad will ask me to sleep later & he'll wake up early with me to fetch me to school. Everyday, without fail, my dad will send me to school. He only started to go on business trips (he rejected any business tt required him to travel) when I got my driving license & could drive myself to school.
I did not request for anyone to stay up and accompany me, neither did I demand for my dad to send me to school.
I like the peace & quiet of studying at night, alone in my room. I also like the 'daydream time' I get while travelling.
But my dad will ALWAYS, without fail, sits in the living room with the television on, but NO SOUND because he knows that I would get irritated by any sound.
I could tell my dad was very tired after work but he still made the effort to stay up with me. He'll make ice milo for me (my fave drink) & bring ice water for me (I don't drink plain water). Sometimes he sees me rummaging through the kitchen cabinets for food, he'll go out to buy supper back for me. & he always buys porridge cos he says it's easier on the stomach to eat porridge at such late hours.
He did not have to say much, but his actions were priceless. Though I always scold him (for his foolishness) & nag at him, he nvr scolds me & always supports me (even when I'm in the wrong - no scoldings at all but he'll show tt he is disappointed in his facial expression).
It's the silent support I've been getting that made our relationship very close. I can tell my dad all sorts of crap. I can even bitch to him about my unhappiness at work or with my hb. He'll just listen, smile & pat my back. No comments, no judging, no silly remarks.
My mum's just as supportive, but in a different way. She nags & scolds, but she also jokes & play. She's the problem solver in the family while my dad is the silent supporter. Whatever we need, just ask my mum & she'll always be there to solve it for us (even small minute things like helping me pay my bills cos I got no time to go AXS machine, my mum will gladly do it for me & sometimes she don't want us to pay her back). [u]
You can choose to be your child's friend, but at the end of the day, it's more important for you to be your child's #1 supporter
They may not show it, but they'll definitely appreciate it Maybe not now, but they'll definitely keep it in their hearts for the rest of their lives.[/u]
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seekinghelp
You may want to send him to those motivational workshop like adam khoo’s " I am gifted so are you" program
Do not misunderstand I do not work for adam khoo=D -
Hi Mrs Wong, u are so blessed to have such a gd parents.
If all the parents could be like yr parents, that would be great. Even though my nephew is the only son of my sis but I do feel that they dun love him that much. Sometimes I'm wondering, y in the first place still want to give birth to him, let him suffer in this world.....I must admit I'm not a gd auntie too, coz I will hit him too if he shows disrespect to me or din pay attention to what I said.
His parents would never send him to that workshop, Guan hui.... -
Guan Hui:
Please don't. That is all I want to say and please don't ask why. I will not answer.seekinghelp
You may want to send him to those motivational workshop like adam khoo's \" I am gifted so are you\" program
Do not misunderstand I do not work for adam khoo=D -
Seekinghelp:
Hi Mrs Wong, u are so blessed to have such a gd parents.
If all the parents could be like yr parents, that would be great. Even though my nephew is the only son of my sis but I do feel that they dun love him that much. Sometimes I'm wondering, y in the first place still want to give birth to him, let him suffer in this world.....I must admit I'm not a gd auntie too, coz I will hit him too if he shows disrespect to me or din pay attention to what I said.
His parents would never send him to that workshop, Guan hui....
\"Even though my nephew is the only son of my sis but I do feel that they dun love him that much. Sometimes I'm wondering, y in the first place still want to give birth to him, let him suffer in this world\"....hi seeking help, maybe that is the root of the problem. this child could be yearning for love and attention...
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