How to teach children to handle bullies
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DD is taught to ignore bullies and teasing at first. If that fails, she is to avoid the bully and stay with her friends. A few months ago, 2 incidents happened, one at sch and one at BASC. A boy in her class kept annoying and irritating her. Since it was non-threatening (she just needed the human equivalent of a bug spray to deal with this pest), we told her to retaliate physically (push offender away) and report the incidents to the teachers. So she kicked him in the shin once before stomping off to report him to her teacher. This was after she warned him to leave. For the incident at BASC, it was a bit more intimidating and involved more children so when DD brought it to our attention, DH mentioned it to the teachers and they took over from there. DD continued to ignore and report them while the teachers monitored and stepped in when needed. Luckily, the situation improved.
Oh, since I’m 6 years older than my sis, and my sis was the "keep quiet when bullied kind", I used to step in to deal with bullies and pests for her. Can you imagine a sec sch girl going up to a pri sch kid and warning him to behave himself and stay away from my sis or else… LOL Also helps that my sis and I came from the same pri sch so I knew who to approach for help should the situation get out of hand. -
jedamum:
he is very good at ignoring people and sometimes can be seen as arrogant, so i am not so worried about bullies for him.
Maybe that's why that pest didn't annoy him. Perhaps, next time, if the pest is \"activated\" again, DD can get your DS1 to deal with him. LOL -
Children at different age, would meet different type of bullies. And different type of bullies must be deal with differently. I guess this is a challenge most parents would face, on how to teach their children to identify what type of bullies and how to deal with them.
My girl met many bullies since primary school and now in Sec, there are cases too. I always tell her, she must first understand the character of that bully and the surrounding situation before she takes any action. -
schellen:
A few months ago, 2 incidents happened, one at sch and one at BASC. A boy in her class kept annoying and irritating her. Since it was non-threatening (she just needed the human equivalent of a bug spray to deal with this pest), we told her to retaliate physically (push offender away) and report the incidents to the teachers. So she kicked him in the shin once before stomping off to report him to her teacher. This was after she warned him to leave.
You forgot, darling, that it WAS threatening. The boy verbally expressed the intention to beat her up physically. That's why we instructed DD to be prepared to retaliate as a means of defence. Remember? -
sashimi:
don't tell me that the boy is thAt boy from school.....
You forgot, darling, that it WAS threatening. The boy verbally expressed the intention to beat her up physically. That's why we instructed DD to be prepared to retaliate as a means of defence. Remember?
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Yes, thAt one.
Seriously ah, fellow parents, please bring up your boys from young as gentlemen. Gentlemen who defend good girls, not threaten to beat them up. To me, a boy who threatens to beat a girl is a despicable coward.
As it is, boys continue to maintain a very bad reputation with my girl (and me). Few exceptions. -
haha...interesting...but some gals also take advantage of good men leh...
I think whether ur child is boy or gal, good upbringing is important.
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smurf:
Yeah lah, of course.haha...interesting...but some gals also take advantage of good men leh...
I think whether ur child is boy or gal, good upbringing is important. But as far as I can tell, statistically and by actual experience, most bullies and troublemakers in school are male. It's a male thing... Hence, my (yes, one-sided) plea.
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hmm, does verbal abuse considered bullying? DS1 told me his friends (dunno true or not lah, cos he doesn't like going to sch and ill come up with all sorts of reasons not to go) call him 'papaya man'. cos they dun like him.
what's papaya man by the way? :? -
sashimi:
She didn't tell me that leh. She only described him as pesky and irritating and annoying. Is it that one who made a big fuss at the very start of the year? If yes, he seriously has issues.schellen:
A few months ago, 2 incidents happened, one at sch and one at BASC. A boy in her class kept annoying and irritating her. Since it was non-threatening (she just needed the human equivalent of a bug spray to deal with this pest), we told her to retaliate physically (push offender away) and report the incidents to the teachers. So she kicked him in the shin once before stomping off to report him to her teacher. This was after she warned him to leave.
You forgot, darling, that it WAS threatening. The boy verbally expressed the intention to beat her up physically. That's why we instructed DD to be prepared to retaliate as a means of defence. Remember?
Actually, the one I find more threatening is the destroyer who joined them at BASC. I wish he would do something so stupid to get him withdrawn by force. If this one dares to do anything stupid to DD anymore, I WILL pay him a personal visit and use THAT VOICE and THAT LOOK on him. :x
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