What should I do?

[buds]

insider:

PS:

Keep this theory in mind and recall it sometimes when you are tempted to buy things for yourself. ‘Experiment’ it a few times and you may get to see after you dig a hole, your husband may tell you later that he receives some extra-ordinary income from somewhere somehow to fill up that hole…

Wow! Got big tip of the day lesson some more!

insider:

Best of all, there maybe lesser money that needs to be spent on unnecessary / unfortunate / ‘mozzie’ things…

:goodpost:

In short...

He got money to spend, dun spend properly..
We help him spend. Gotcha.

I can spend in good ways mah.. perfume.. lingerie.. cosmetic..
gadgets.. oil rubs.. :evil: .. it's ok right..? Since i'm going to be
shameless for his benefit aniwaes. :imanangel:

[buds]

YES! YES! I DESERVE IT! YES!


GOSH!

This session is so therapeutically orgasmic!

:celebrate: Thank you! :celebrate:

I needed it.... needed the release.

[Funz]

ok ok. I go home tell him 'I need, I neeeeeddd'


Sure get the wrong idea.

I never say dun need lah. Just not in the habit of asking him for stuff. But if he buys, of course I take.

Ok, from now on, gonna tell him, in order for your wealth to grow, I will first spend it for you. So first item, you gotta pay me for the Chanel handbag that I just bought. :evil:

Ok, jokes aside, I know what you mean.

[sall]

So pinky, you must start splurging on the supp card. JIAYOU

[Cathy Wu]

pinky:

Need your advice on this dilemma:

My husband's sister recently divorced with 2 teenage kids and she is working full time. Recently, he told me that his sister wants to send her daughter to stay with me bec :
1. I am a SAHM so I have more time to supervise her
2. We have an extra room (actually used for games/lounging around)
The teenage daughter is frankly out of control and ill disciplined ah lian who is currently repeating JC1 and lives in a world of her own.
I told my husband no way I am letting her come bec being a SAHM doesnt mean I am free and obliged to take on such a responsibility where I feel strongly the mother should be the one to be there for her and not just pass her to me :mad:
My husband is the type who never says no to his family and he told me she will be be ONLY until end of the year and if she pass her exam, till end of 2012 :stupid: :stupid: My son will be taking his O level next year so I dun want to freak out and carry such unnecessary burden. So far no confirmation from the girl yet but I know the decision is more or less final and no amount of quarrelling will change the situation.
I need your advice and what is the best solution to get out of this sticky problem.
I did consider renting a room in my estate for the girl and I am willing to pay for the rental as long as she doesnt step into my house.

Hi, I understand your point. Even if you're a Stay at Home Mom, you have a lot of free time. There are so many things to take care of including your own family. Adding more responsibilities might just stress you out. Try talking to your husband and create plans that can help his sister and her daughters.

I think getting the girl a rented room wont solve the problem. Your husband's sister wanted someone to supervise her daughter while she's not around and they trust you that you can take good care of your niece in that case. Try to suggest other relatives that are close to their family where her daughter can feel comfortable. They may also try getting some household help to keep her daughter company while she's at work.

[pinky]

insider:

buds:

Now back to sponging business... :rubhands:

pinky has to 'reflect' on her 'money management system'...

is she holding the purse string too tight that the bowl is full and therefore will inevitably 'attract' this mozzie to come sponging to make the money move?

pinky, pls don't be offended coz am into such 'cosmic energy study' as well and so I see things from 'tangible' and 'intangible' angles...

just read my input from 'extraordinary' angle... (in life, many things happen that are beyond our comprehension / logic / etc. Your hubby is definitely not a dumb person and so in him, there's also struggle for sure.).

we maintain separate accounts and there is a joint account for household expenses/tuition fees etc. The mozzie is sponging from his personal account and I don't control the purse strings- its shared by both of us.

will spend some time to analyse your 'cosmic energy study' theory - very
new to me :evil: :evil:

[pinky]

Hi Cathy, Happy new year to you.

Thanks for your comments.
I did not agree to letting her stay with me and she was sent to stay at one of her aunt's place for a few months but was asked to leave for some reasons. Now she's back with her mother.
Just :nailbite: :xedfingers: don't every come back to me because my son is taking his O levels this year and hell has no fury than
a kancheong mother being kachiau for all the wrong reasons.. :nunchuk:

[Busymom]

buds:

Hi pinky, hope your new year will be more peaceful n blissful with major hurdles out of the way. :hugs:


Don't understand why some hubbies allow themselves to be sponged. :scratchhead: Yeh.. I bet mine would say he doesnt mind cos its his money too. To think all this time I try to be an understanding n tolerant wife which includes not having to spend $ unnecessarily. Most times also $ usually spent on the children. Mebbe I should start learning how to sponge.. :idea:

Mine too... :gloomy: Old debts from FIL and BIL never get repaid...

One way to reduce the incidence of :moneyflies: you be in charge of savings for the household...

[BeContented]

Busymom:

buds:

Hi pinky, hope your new year will be more peaceful n blissful with major hurdles out of the way. :hugs:


Don't understand why some hubbies allow themselves to be sponged. :scratchhead: Yeh.. I bet mine would say he doesnt mind cos its his money too. To think all this time I try to be an understanding n tolerant wife which includes not having to spend $ unnecessarily. Most times also $ usually spent on the children. Mebbe I should start learning how to sponge.. :idea:

Mine too... :gloomy: Old debts from FIL and BIL never get repaid...

One way to reduce the incidence of :moneyflies: you be in charge of savings for the household...

Hmmmm same here. I believed DH when he lied that BIL had repaid all the loans. Luckily, MIL in a slip of tongue let out the secret, so no choice, BIL paid back cos he struck some lottery...... But frankly, is it really fully repaid I still dunno :skeptical:

[Busymom]

pinky:

buds:

Hi pinky, hope your new year will be more peaceful n blissful with major hurdles out of the way. :hugs:


Don't understand why some hubbies allow themselves to be sponged. :scratchhead: Yeh.. I bet mine would say he doesnt mind cos its his money too. To think all this time I try to be an understanding n tolerant wife which includes not having to spend $ unnecessarily. Most times also $ usually spent on the children. Mebbe I should start learning how to sponge.. :idea:

your poor husband will be a super dry sponge if both sides do the same :evil: :rotflmao: just joking
anyway, same as you even I have supp cards from him, sometimes I dont even use them for the entire month. Recently, to help cut down
unnecessary expenses, I forbid him to inform that SIL whenever he goes on overseas trips bec she will ask him to buy cosmetic at the duty free shops then again, never pay him. :mad: Mind you, the perfume that she buys are not cheap either and even have the cheek to buy for her 2 kids too :stompfeet:

Actually... if I were you... whatever that his sister is getting him to buy, I will ask him to buy the same for you and your kid. Then he has to pay x2, then maybe he will feel :moneyflies:? :evil: