Maid Keeping Items ??

[laughingcat]

tankee:

maybe she is keeping the food to eat and the magnet as a gift for someone back home?

Then what about the ginger? Eat raw ginger? :yikes:

[chixchix]

I personally have got nothing against maids eating whatever they want, but there is no need to lie. When I asked her last nite if she had thrown the cake ,as I forgot its not expired " she said u ask me to throw ,i throw lah "


So i kept quiet. but I knew that checking her drawer,half the cake was eaten, it was a liquor cake and i think she didnt know cos i thought muslims cant take liquor ( i may be wrong ,am not sure ) .

Today i saw,all the items no more there, i think she threw it.

I have already stated my expectations to the maid agency. i dont know where or which agency to go to, to get a maid. Now I am thinking of getting a Filipina who is more than 38 years old, i never kept a pinoy before , and I dont know how it will be.

Cos if something go wrong again, then my hubby will scold me that I keep experimenting ,and he has to pay agent fees.

[laughingcat]

Why don’t you have a heart to heart talk with her. Talk to her in a non-tense situation. Both of you sit down and really talk. Lay down your expectation and house rules. This is what I did. It is better for both sides.


BTW, my helper has been with us for 4 years (considering this year). Changing helper is not the solution. It is kinda of tiring teaching the helper all over again. Both of you require at least 3 months of getting use to each other. So what is the point if the next one also like that.

[peapot]

That’s true, changing maid is tiring.


Chixchix, she threw away the things because I think she knows that you went through her drawer. If you don’t like her, it’s best to send her packing. Try to go back to the same agency. Don’t you have a free replacement? Changing agency also means more costs involved and yr hubby may not like it.

[HAPPYH]

I think it is better to talk to your FDW first. if it does not work, then simply send her back.


I can understand how your hubby will react as I am also having some difficulty with my FDW (not the black magic issue; she always threaten me saying that she will go back home) and my hubby will say it is troublesome, I must close one eye, etc etc.....

I feel like sending her back, but I also dont like to train another one from the beginning according to our needs. Pay them money and yet need to face lot of unnecessary problems. :slapshead: :stupid:

PS: I really treat her well and she admitted this with the agent and her cousin several times. What can we do more than this?????

[peapot]

now maids are more demanding. No Hp and no off day, they don’t want to work. Like you, my maid wanted to go back if I don’t give off day. In the beginning I did promise her off day after 1 year and of course I had to keep my promise. With off day, Hp became a must. So maybe your maid also wants these 2 things?

[HAPPYH]

peapot:

now maids are more demanding. No Hp and no off day, they don't want to work. Like you, my maid wanted to go back if I don't give off day. In the beginning I did promise her off day after 1 year and of course I had to keep my promise. With off day, Hp became a must. So maybe your maid also wants these 2 things?

Yes, she just started taking one day leave from this month. But I used to pay $25/month for that off-day since she did not go out.

I wonder why does she want to go out especially when I am literally bringing her out whenever we go out (except parties). She can save that $25. I know she is from a very poor family. Can not understand.

[peapot]

Its "freedom" my dear. When she’s out on her on, she can do whatever she wants but when she’s out with you she still need to literally "do her job" like making sure kids are not running amok, help to carry things etc.

[laughingcat]

It really depends lah. Everyone has different needs.


I give my maid off day as and when she likes but she must let me know at least 5 days in advance. When she is off, i give her $10 for her lunch and my ezlink card to travel around. no deduction in her pay at all.

After that she became lazy to go out because she said she wants to save $. We work out for her how much she will have at the end of x years. So i guess the targeted $ deters her from spending too much.

I encourage her to have HP and radio. Why? Because they can be lonely. When you are lonely, you tend to feel you just want to give up and just go home. Also she is a mother and i also don’t want her to have strain relationship with her son since i am a mother myself. It is already heart pain that they have to leave their home to work overseas. So try to empatise on that.

Every year, we will bring her to overseas trip with us. Every fri, she will jalan at orchard for 2 hrs while bringing my boys to chinese class. Every year we will celebrate her birthday. We really treat her like part of the family. Every year, we will allow her to go back home for 2 whole weeks. If she doesn’t, the airfare cost will credit back to her account. Every year, she will have 1 mth bonus.

Why we do all this is because we really appreciate her and she knows that.

Despite us doing all this, she ever mentioned that she wants to go to other countries to work. I did give her my blessings. Not once or twice but many times. She was shock at my response. I told her that a person luck is limited. I show her that looking after kids are far easier than looking after elderly and special needs adults/children. After that she is woke up her senses and she told me twice that she wants to continue to work with our family until we say no. I really appreciate her gesture.

[HAPPYH]

peapot:

Its \"freedom\" my dear. When she's out on her on, she can do whatever she wants but when she's out with you she still need to literally \"do her job\" like making sure kids are not running amok, help to carry things etc.

Yes, I agree, it is the freedom.

But she does not need to baby sit for my DD since she is eight years old and my DD doesn't really like her. So we make sure she is safe whenever we are around. Yes, you are right to say that she can not do whatever she wants like wandering around the shops, etc....