Parents, not enrichment centres, are key to result
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Lance G. King:
Yes, that sounds most fine, but faced with current realities, that utopia is not always possible, even by parents who are trying their best to struggle against the tide.Some of these posts are very scary. An ambition to send your children to university at 11 or 14??? Why?
Is education a race?
It is first to finish who wins?
I don't understand what advantage it is for the child to be the youngest graduate from primary, secondary or university. Surely that would just place that child with other children at completely different stages of physical and mental development, out of sync and under pressure.
Surely the purpose of education is to develop a love of learning and all the skills necessary to continue learning for life?
I would think relentless pressure would turn a child off learning, would effect his or her motivation, desire and enjoyment of life.
But maybe I'm wrong?
I think a parents role (and I have 4 children, 3 of whom have completed university) is to help the child with different thinking and learning strategies, different ways of approaching their learning tasks, finding ways to study and learn that suit their particular ways of thinking, and with access to the best resources.
I suppose your children belonged to a different era, or even a different school system. Things seemed to have changed radically from the time we ourselves went to school here. -
Mychildren:
How can learning be MADE enjoyable when kids need tuition to pass exams ? My hubby doesn't even know how to solve a P5 Math problem sum even though he has NTU degree like many others here. Even when there were some problems he could handle, he doesn't know how to explain to son.Lance G. King, well said!
As adults we would like to enjoy life, so do kids too! Learning should be enjoyable too!
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janet_lee88:
SCHOOLS are scaring the hell out of kids/parents in P5.
Hubby and I were dealt a terrible blow last year...son's subjects ESPECIALLY MATH dropped to just 38% for CA1...that drop continued until SA1. His Math homework everyday was HELL bcos he didn't know how to solve the problem sums.
Hubby only knows algebra but he couldn't get it across to son.
The CA1 end of this month will be another heart-attack but I am reminding myself to look at the BIG picture ie PSLE.janet_lee88:
Oh man, I just dread the day when my kids get to this stage. janet_lee88, what are you going to do about this - is the school giving him and children in the same situation extra coaching?
How can learning be MADE enjoyable when kids need tuition to pass exams ? My hubby doesn't even know how to solve a P5 Math problem sum even though he has NTU degree like many others here. Even when there were some problems he could handle, he doesn't know how to explain to son.Mychildren:
Lance G. King, well said!
As adults we would like to enjoy life, so do kids too! Learning should be enjoyable too!
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Seriously, if I were to open a class for parents on how to teach Maths how many of you will sign up? :evil: :evil:
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tutormum:
Seriously, if I were to open a class for parents on how to teach Maths how many of you will sign up? :evil: :evil:
Interesting thought. I suppose you'd be directing at parents who are opposed to sending their children for tuitions, correct me if I'm wrong.
At this stage, I don't think I'd take up. I am not sure if I will think the same when my time comes - because it is ultimately the children who are doing the learning, not us - I mean, I don't expect myself to be his tuition teacher as he goes beyond what I am capable of helping. One way or another, the need to learn how to cope when things get tough is part of the learning, and I must say children are observing the way we find help too, which is why my first question was how much support the school provides. I know most schools pump up enrichment classes during this time, which is useful. I'll probably ask around myself rather than paying for help - I'd say that would be the last resort for me. HOWEVER, IF THE SCHOOL OFFERS THIS TO THE PARENTS FOR FREE, I'LL TAKE IT UP FOR SURE!!
Does this conclusion contradict what I've said above? Maybe I am plain stingy :rotflmao:
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Janet,
Its true that there are some who need tuition to pass their exam.
While there are others who are self driven who did not need tuition.
In fact, there are also others who attend tuition not only to pass but to pass with flying colours.
I do know the importance of passing exam, but I would like to stress the importance of making learning enjoyable. Learning can be interesting too! I try to make my lessons fun and enjoyable with my kids.
Even though some of the things that they need to learn are a bit dull, I try to add colours to it..... I do not want them to lost interest and passion in learning as they grow up. We also need to teach them a balance of play and work.
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tutormum:
Seriously, if I were to open a class for parents on how to teach Maths how many of you will sign up? :evil: :evil:
tie up with ChiefKS to come up with a seminar-cum-gathering just for us ksparents la. :evil: -
When we meet with difficult questions, we could consult those that know. Its like in life when we meet with problems, we can't solve, we ask for those experience one for help and advise.
In work life, there are also things or problems that cropped up, we also need to think of solutions to solve them, right?
When we meet with problems we can't solve, don't just give up so easily. I think this is a real life situation that we can teach our kids to handle difficulties in their studies. This could turn up to be a blessing in disguise. -
Mychildren:
my boy enjoys learning at his enrichment/tuition centre than learning with me leh.
I do know the importance of passing exam, but I would like to stress the importance of making learning enjoyable. Learning can be interesting too! I try to make my lessons fun and enjoyable with my kids.
to him, attending enrichment is enjoyable...as he need not work so hard (ie self discipline and selfreading up etc) at trying to attain the same results.... :skeptical:
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Just to share that I had always failed or border line case for my Literature, English and A Math in secondary 4 class tests and school exams but I managed to get B3 for all these 3 subjects in the O levels at the end of the year.
Not because I have tuition (cannot afford), not because I have parents or siblings or teachers or anyone for help (parents not educated, siblings busy with their own things, teachers don’t bother you pass or not), because I finally learn how to help myself.
I gave part time tuition to primary school children and use the $ to buy guide books to help myself. Nobody helps but myself. I do thank God that it provides me with a real life situation for me to learn to grow up and not fall into bad company then.
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