Talking about Death ...

[pinky]

concern2:

daisyt:

I feel very sad to see children not holding joss stick in their parent's funeral due to their religion belief.

I agree with you on this, daisyt. To us, it is a form of respect for the deceased. However, many who do not want to hold the joss sticks think otherwise. I am very surprised that foreigners who also have a different religion are willing to hold the joss sticks for the deceased, if not, to just put their palms together to show respect at the funeral. It is especially sad and disappointing when it is close relatives who refuse to do these things because of different religious beliefs.

there are also cases where the elderly were asked to change to another religion at their death bed by their kids(some of them against their wishes) and siblings arguing over which funeral rites to follow. it is very sad and painful to see especially if it happens to people closed to you :sad:

[dolphinsiah]

Today in the Straits Times it is reported there is a legal document \" Living Will\" to terminal your life if you become terminally ill.....


\"An Advance Medical Directive (AMD) is a legal document you sign in advance to inform your doctor that you do not want the use of any life-sustaining treatment to be used to prolong your life in the event you become terminally ill and unconscious and where death is imminent.\"

But it bit troublesome leh, must get a Doctor to endorse.... :roll:

Anybody done it before? Did the Doctor Charge ? :?:

I already made up my mind if I am diagnosed with uncurable illness, I will not spend a single cent on mediacl treatment....especially Cancer....
Till now I have no faith in Cancer BAttling.... :razz:

No point I spend lots of money on all the Chemical just to prolong my life.... :siao:
Eventually I will stay die.... :faint:

Now , I am a live , I will ensure I will fulfill my responsibilty as a mother and a daughter to my parents.... :imanangel:

When I leave this world , I will ensure my love ones will not suffer.... :love:

When I passed away , I already instructed my children , :snooze:
a)no burial ceremony...
I am nobody great ...no need to waste $$$ for the ceremony..., no need to advertise...
b)Just email to inform those who know me that I have given back my IC to the local authority...
c) Just have my ash scatter into the deep sea ,it would be best in Sentosa....
My favourite getaway in Singapore...

[laughingcat]

I have done it before…so long ago. Just print out the document and get it endorsed with the doctor. Charges like normal consultation fee only.

[pinky]

today's papers also mentioned that there is an increase in the no. of people who signed up, I guess many of us are put off at the ever increasing medical fees and aftercare services etc

[Funz]

Actually when DH and I were looking at the AMD, we were looking more at not prolonging suffering unnecessarily and also not spend too much money on a lost cause. The other reason is to remove the burden of this decision from our loved ones.


But hor, up until today, we have not gotten it signed by our doctor.

[FantasyLandDreams]

Another burial option:


https://zbschools.sg/cos/o.x?c=/ca7_zbs/zbs&func=view&rid=8701

[zac's mum]

Interesting! I never knew there was this thread. Thanks for reviving it.


I didn’t know that talking about death is still taboo today? In any case, DS encountered death in the family at age 2 (his own beloved Ah Kong, my own Daddy passed away from long drawn out cancer). At that point in time, he already could talk and understand that Ah Kong was leaving us. No way to shield him from this fact.

At preschool age he already asked us about what happens after death and we had an open discussion about all the different religions.

At age 7 we brought him to join our close friends at one of their father’s funeral. To comfort our friend (whom he already knew as a familiar Uncle) together and also to experience a Christian funeral service.

Once in a while we will remind him to treasure all his loved ones, because it’s a fact of life that death could happen when we least expect it. Vice versa, we try to treasure our time with him on this earth as much as possible.

[zac's mum]

FantasyLandDreams:

Another burial option:


https://zbschools.sg/cos/o.x?c=/ca7_zbs/zbs&func=view&rid=8701

This is an interesting perspective which was quoted in the article: “华人相信入土为安，有些人不会游泳，不想去世后骨灰被撒入海里。若把骨灰撒在陆地上，尽管亲人没有确切的安息处，但家属还是有个地方能探望亲人，而且相信会是更廉宜的选择。”

At least now there will be an extra option on top of the sea burial centre proposed at Tanah Merah.

[ssliana]

Stories might also be a really good way to introduce children to the concept of death. Packaged in a nonthreatening, engaging, and perhaps even beautiful way - I think that’s how I was introduced to it? I never feared it, but saw it as part of a larger cycle and process.

[Estéema]

Another way to introduce topic, esp to very very young kids, find chance when they step on an ant - draw the relation to recent demise of friends they know.


I find talking to kids abt animal death (pet fish, cats, dogs, etc) particularly helpful. DH refused to let kids get their wish to hv a doggy coz he says too painful to part. I wanna teach kids that it is normal to feel sad, just as we hv happy times, we will hv sad times. S’times kids’ll feel sad missing their favorite pets, but can gently tell them they’ve gone to a good place & that’s how human life like ours will end up too (in future).