Sometimes we forget to remember

[all.013398in.013398one]

:celebrate: Cheers to Point 5!

I am a kampong girl (Kranji) who plays boy's games too. And I loved to tell my girl my stories of being a kampong girl. She loves it. The most recent mention was about play marbles with the boys. She wants to know the rules of the game and me to demo and play with her! Die! Hard to find marbles now that its not available at my nearest provision shop anymore...

[vlim]

all.in.one:

:celebrate: Cheers to Point 5!

I am a kampong girl (Kranji) who plays boy's games too. And I loved to tell my girl my stories of being a kampong girl. She loves it. The most recent mention was about play marbles with the boys. She wants to know the rules of the game and me to demo and play with her! Die! Hard to find marbles now that its not available at my nearest provision shop anymore...

maybe u can find it in aquarium shop... :?

[exTEACHER]

Ahhh while u at the aquarium…


Check if they have eels…
lol

exTEACHER

[all.013398in.013398one]

exTEACHER:

Ahhh while u at the aquarium...


Check if they have eels...
lol

exTEACHER

Usually I will leave such things to my DH as he is the expert! :lol:

After reading the entire forum, I am so touched What a wonderful bunch of mums and dads (myself included haha..) who sacrifices so much for our children. I am begining to see light at the end of the tunnel. Ever since I became a SAHM also by circumstances (too stressed at work to conceive), I have been doubting my decision and my self worth so much! And there was no one for me to talk to about all these emotions inside! Now I am reassured that I have made a personal choice that I will never regret! Thanks to all of you (FTWM/D and SAHM/D) :lovesite:

[tamarind]

Try these places for longkang fishing(but no eels) :

http://www.qianhu.com/
http://www.prkidskampong.com/

[quote]Ever since I became a SAHM also by circumstances (too stressed at work to conceive), I have been doubting my decision and my self worth so much![/quote]Do not doubt your self worth. You are giving the best to your kids ! Kids of SAHM generally do better than kids of FTWM.
I know FTWMs who work all day, and spend almost no time with kids. The kids are practically raised by maids. I wonder why these mommies want to have kids in the first place ?

[kiasimom]

After reading the entire forum, I am so touched What a wonderful bunch of mums and dads (myself included haha..) who sacrifices so much for our children. I am begining to see light at the end of the tunnel. Ever since I became a SAHM also by circumstances (too stressed at work to conceive), I have been doubting my decision and my self worth so much! And there was no one for me to talk to about all these emotions inside! Now I am reassured that I have made a personal choice that I will never regret! Thanks to all of you (FTWM/D and SAHM/D) :lovesite:[/quote]


Hi all.in.one,
Just like you I am a SAHM, and whenever I have any questions on parenting, I will come to KSP and ask and talk, so you are not alone

[kiasimom]

tamarind:

Do not doubt your self worth. You are giving the best to your kids ! Kids of SAHM generally do better than kids of FTWM.
I know FTWMs who work all day, and spend almost no time with kids. The kids are practically raised by maids. I wonder why these mommies want to have kids in the first place ?

I think maybe they need to have dual incomes to support the family?

[schellen]

kiasimom:

tamarind:

Do not doubt your self worth. You are giving the best to your kids ! Kids of SAHM generally do better than kids of FTWM.
I know FTWMs who work all day, and spend almost no time with kids. The kids are practically raised by maids. I wonder why these mommies want to have kids in the first place ?

I think maybe they need to have dual incomes to support the family?

I understand that but if they want kids in the first place, they should make the effort to spend time with them, dual income necessity or not. I am a FTWM and I make sure to spend time with my DD even after a long day at work, reaching home late and having lots of chores to do with no maid.

If you think about it, what's the point of having dual incomes so that they can support the kids when they don't even have time for the kids? Might as well not have kids in the first place. Having kids out of obligation to elders, spouse, etc. is a no-no for me; if and when I want kids, it will be a mutual desire for them for me and DH.

[sunset_dae]

Agree. Im a FTWM and i rush home everyday to pick my son up. We will hold hand together and wait for Daddy car to reach the CCC. after his dinner, i will spend 2 hrs reading and doing writing activities with him, followed by documentary show of 15mins and finally a chit chat of 10 mins before he sleep.

If you are a FTWM that work all day long, at least spend time with yr kids on weekend. there is some FTWM that still leaves their child at home with maid on weekend and go for facial, meni and pedicure, shopping.. only to find their child sleeping when they reached home at night...
Its not surprising to find the child being attached to the maid instead of his/her Mummy..

schellen:

I understand that but if they want kids in the first place, they should make the effort to spend time with them, dual income necessity or not. I am a FTWM and I make sure to spend time with my DD even after a long day at work, reaching home late and having lots of chores to do with no maid.

If you think about it, what's the point of having dual incomes so that they can support the kids when they don't even have time for the kids? Might as well not have kids in the first place. Having kids out of obligation to elders, spouse, etc. is a no-no for me; if and when I want kids, it will be a mutual desire for them for me and DH.

[autumnbronze]

Hi all.in.one,


Don't despair You can still find 'old time' games like marbles, happy families, old maids (card games), yos yos, chaptek etc at the party shops near queen street. They were formerly from Concourse. That's where I got the cards and marbles from.

Some games I have fond memories of are 'catching', 'hopscotch', 'what is the time mr wolf' etc.. with the neighbourhood kids in the estate I used to live in. Somehow, I also had an affinity for drains - I used to love hiding there and would explore them. Really can't fathom why now.

Yes, hard to recreate a kampong environment now for our kids, but we can still improvise ... right?