In-law problems?

[racoon12]

He attributed that to her low education which was obviously more to her character. Her children now very paiseh about her ‘low education’ tongue and I thinks she somehow realised it already. In the end, actions speak louder than words. Over the years so many things happened that SIL3 had bitten her own tongue. [/quote]



Hey… that is the reason i got from my DH and other SIL when we had an argument but until today my that ‘problematic’ SIL still unable to keep her mouth zipped… haiz… still thinking that her way of doing thing is superior than others.

[janet88]

racoon12:

He attributed that to her low education which was obviously more to her character.

Hey... that is the reason i got from my DH and other SIL when we had an argument but until today my that 'problematic' SIL still unable to keep her mouth zipped... haiz.... still thinking that her way of doing thing is superior than others.[/quote]

SIL can't clam up and acts filial...couldn't resist saying something scarcastic to hubby :evil: . Fly 20+ hours back to 'REMIND' her mother not to leave her out of the share of the flat. Cheapskate angmoh husband of hers...supposedly a dentist with many patients.
I feel that it has nothing to do with her low education but more like poor upbringing.

[buds]

janet_lee88:

yanyan:

Now is slightly better.. But sometimes when we back home, my hb would call his sis to check on someting or vice versa..but whenever i ask wat they chat abt..my hb would refuse to tell me anything.. I feel uncomfortable lo.. But wat else can i do?


Am i being over sensitive?

My hubby is close to his sister...even accepting her damn rudeness :mad:
If your hubby doesn't want to tell you anything regarding their chat, then don't ask...ignorance is bliss.

Yanyan, your hubs is close with his sis still not too bad when they whisper whisper in your presence.. mine close to his mommy leh. I have loooonngg ignored the uncomfortable emotion just like janet_lee88 says.. ignorance is bliss.
They say... Say no evil... See no evil... Hear no evil...http://www.easyfreesmileys.com/facebook-smileys.html

Most of the time, even if you do get to know (what the whispers were abt) it either affects your mood through the day or week... or it may inflict feelings that may not be so healthy towards hubby. At first the sensitivity will be brushed often but after a while of training, hope you won't fret your pretty self over it. :hugs: It won't be worth it.

Janet_lee88.. i agree that they can be soo close that they ignore and give in to bloody nonsense attitude. I find because they don't make a stand and condone, they will show some more. :roll:

[jessrav]

Mine is a nightmare.it will take pages for me to pen it down.In short, a totally nightmarish experience.and I have to "report" to her house every once a week just for kids to play.if not hubby will have a war with me as he values close family ties. Yep,we are oth very different with our values…not that I am not close to my family.we have different styles in bringing up the kids, which is very stressful.

[janet88]

buds:

if you do get to know (what the whispers were abt) it either affects your mood through the day or week... or it may inflict feelings that may not be so healthy towards hubby. At first the sensitivity will be brushed often but after a while of training, hope you won't fret your pretty self over it. :hugs: It won't be worth it.


Janet_lee88.. i agree that they can be soo close that they ignore and give in to bloody nonsense attitude. I find because they don't make a stand and condone, they will show some more. :roll:

Honestly, why bother to know what they are so talking ? It's better NOT knowing bcos like what buds mentioned, it affects our moods for the day or even the whole week. Forget it...let them yak or whisper all they want...not worth it.
So long as SHE doesn't get in my way or my life.

[racoon12]

janet_lee88:

buds:

if you do get to know (what the whispers were abt) it either affects your mood through the day or week... or it may inflict feelings that may not be so healthy towards hubby. At first the sensitivity will be brushed often but after a while of training, hope you won't fret your pretty self over it. :hugs: It won't be worth it.


Janet_lee88.. i agree that they can be soo close that they ignore and give in to bloody nonsense attitude. I find because they don't make a stand and condone, they will show some more. :roll:

Honestly, why bother to know what they are so talking ? It's better NOT knowing bcos like what buds mentioned, it affects our moods for the day or even the whole week. Forget it...let them yak or whisper all they want...not worth it.
So long as SHE doesn't get in my way or my life.

Hear no EVIL, see no EVIL... Although sometimes I am curious what are their conversation is, but most of the time not knowing will be a blessing for me... they might nt appreciate my side of sharing n comment thou cos they tot they noe every single thing. As long as they leave me alone I will be more than happy.

[janet88]

Don’t find out what is going on in hubby’s conversations with his sister…it will drive you nuts and spoil your mood. Honestly, it’s so true that ignorance is BLISS.


Before his sister came back, she told him she wanted to get books to coach her angmoh son in basic Chinese. My hubby asked me if I had any. Told him sweetly, ‘All given away…younger one already in P2. Who wants them ?’

Actually deep down I am very pissed…I thought he wants to be secretive with the sister…why ask for things ? Although he is the one who paid for the books, I am the one who spent hours in Popular combing through suitable books. Why should I make it convenient for her ?

[racoon12]

janet_lee88:

Don't find out what is going on in hubby's conversations with his sister...it will drive you nuts and spoil your mood. Honestly, it's so true that ignorance is BLISS.


Before his sister came back, she told him she wanted to get books to coach her angmoh son in basic Chinese. My hubby asked me if I had any. Told him sweetly, 'All given away...younger one already in P2. Who wants them ?'

Actually deep down I am very pissed...I thought he wants to be secretive with the sister...why ask for things ? Although he is the one who paid for the books, I am the one who spent hours in Popular combing through suitable books. Why should I make it convenient for her ?

Janet... i like your eloquently tai chi style....

[janet88]

racoon12:

janet_lee88:

Actually deep down I am very pissed...I thought he wants to be secretive with the sister...why ask for things ? Although he is the one who paid for the books, I am the one who spent hours in Popular combing through suitable books. Why should I make it convenient for her ?

Janet... i like your eloquently tai chi style....

Hey racoon,
I love to do spring-clean ...once there is no use for certain books/stuff, I will bring them downstairs or else give them away.
Forgot to add this: books are not freehold property. :rotflmao:

[Zanonbu]

I’m blessed with great in laws, but some of my friends have real horror stories about theirs.