Parents, not enrichment centres, are key to result

[LOLMum]

unfortunately for chinese, some words have too many strokes and the strokes must be written in certain ways. wrong count of strokes and you would have a hard time looking it up in the dictionary. luckily we are using the simplified characters. i cant imagine writing the complex ones. :scared:


i cant even remember how i managed to learn to read the complex characters.

[LOLMum]

BeContented:

Oppsgal:

[quote=\"LOLMum\"]my friend sent her kid to a school in pandan valley daily for 2 hr of chinese when in nursery.


he is in p2 now, doing well in this subject.

i didnt send mine there. doing it with him at home myself but can vomit blood.

My kid too... haven't even sit down, already run off when see me with a stack of paper and a pen, screaming Noooo don't want writing.

:frustrated:

sometimes I wonder, do the kids behave this way in school. if yes, teachers mah damn busy ?!?![/quote]
that's why to not have so many problems in school, teachers are pushing learning to the parents who push it to the enrichment centres.

[Angelight]

:rotflmao: Oppsgal, your comment made me LOL. My DD also doesn't like writing very much, but at least she will 'guai guai' sit down and write the chinese characters when I ask her. :love:

Oppsgal:

My kid too... haven't even sit down, already run off when see me with a stack of paper and a pen, screaming Noooo don't want writing.

:frustrated:

[smartmummy]

Chenonceau:

LadyInBlack:

I dunnu if im out of topic...but i always feel teachers are very powerful people besides parents...and they have so much power with their words..to motivate or demotivate the children in their charges. sometimes a child may not be doing well..but when the teacher believes in them and encourages them...that may be all that the child needs.

My kids are finishing their ca today...and i hardly had the time to revise with them..im not expecting their results to be good..but really...is marks the only thing in life? i intend to recognise their effort and encourage them to try harder...even if they fail! ( i expect them to fail their MT)
I dunnu..i just felt like saying this..if im off topic..sorry!!

I've come to a point where I lift my child's chin upwards so that I can look in his eyes and say \"I don't care WHAT your Teacher says you can or cannot do. I don't care that your Teacher thinks you are slow and lazy. I am your MOTHER. I am more important than ANY Teacher. I, and only I, have the competence to judge whether you are good. Follow Mommy and I will guide you there. Wherever we end up, it will already be better than here.\"

In the beginning, it was tough because he thought I was biased. But after I guided him through to some successes, my DS realized that I was right to believe in him... and he learnt to believe in himself.

same story.
I want to make him become a confident person.He lost his confidence cos of the marks dropped.(he is not weak in Maths or in MT but not enough practise and he hated to do that).I tried very hard to prove he has the potential to do.But last year I couldn't make it.In dec holidays I made sure memorise the timetable and reading MT story books.I told him u can get band1 for all subjects in CA1.He didn't believe himself.He said how come I am in lower band2 for Maths and how come can get band1?.He felt it is a big jump.My T said can aim from lower band2 to higher band2.I told him u can aim band1 cos u r losing the marks cos of careless mistakes.Some kids they aren't understand the maths in lower band 2 then they can aim for higher band2. T told him to aim 42/50 for maths.But he got 46/50.Today he told me.I am soooooooo happy.I did it.I just wanted to I didn't expect from him this marks.I rather suspected where he would lose marks this time.But I didn't tell him.I just encouraged him.CA1 only few topics so u can make it.But MT haven't yet improved.I need to focus and work on it.His Maths T wrote careless whenever he did careless mistakes.I wonder how a T does that.They ever aware of basic psychology?

[janet88]

LOLMum:

too many unnecessary chit chats with other sahms which just added stress to a already kancheong sahm.

learnt my lesson.

Those women who make sickening comments should be avoided. I had bad experience of talking to women who are like this...some are FTWM, the others are SAHMs.

I am more kancheong than kiasu. As SAHM, we know our kids better than anyone...exams are getting tougher every year. The standard is also brought lower too. Dont allow such people to affect you...it's not worth it.
Jia you. :rahrah:

[PiggyLalala]

I would appreciate and thank the teacher for her effort to indicate the mistakes as ‘careless’ on the test/practice paper so that my child is more aware of his own careless mistakes and will try his best to avoid or correct them in the next test/practice.

[Oppsgal]

LOLMum:

too much emphasis on what others think of myself. \"oh you are sahm, why your child's result like that?? why you never do this and this and this for your child? \" those kinda remarks.


big mistake cos it resulted in pushing dd too hard in getting better grades. too many out of school classes. too many assessment books.

too many unnecessary chit chats with other sahms which just added stress to a already kancheong sahm.

learnt my lesson.

:yikes: So stress to be SAHM. SAHM means kids' results must be very good?
:siao:

[Oppsgal]

janet_lee88:

LOLMum:

too many unnecessary chit chats with other sahms which just added stress to a already kancheong sahm.

learnt my lesson.

Those women who make sickening comments should be avoided. I had bad experience of talking to women who are like this...some are FTWM, the others are SAHMs.

I am more kancheong than kiasu. As SAHM, we know our kids better than anyone...exams are getting tougher every year. The standard is also brought lower too. Dont allow such people to affect you...it's not worth it.
Jia you. :rahrah:

Each kid has a different capability. Not all the same.

Next time will keep a secret on the kid's results.

[1amber]

Oppsgal:

LOLMum:

too much emphasis on what others think of myself. \"oh you are sahm, why your child's result like that?? why you never do this and this and this for your child? \" those kinda remarks.


big mistake cos it resulted in pushing dd too hard in getting better grades. too many out of school classes. too many assessment books.

too many unnecessary chit chats with other sahms which just added stress to a already kancheong sahm.

learnt my lesson.

:yikes: So stress to be SAHM. SAHM means kids' results must be very good?
:siao:

That's right! To equate good results to SAHM is belittling the highest calling of motherhood. :hi5:

[1amber]

LOLMum,


Next time you hear those comments just ask them to go KKH and see those mums looking after young sick kids who had to go through brain surgery, heart surgery, all kinds of health problems. There are so many mothers who have be full time care giver to these kids who do not even have a chance to go to school.

I am happy just to see my kid strong and healthy. To be able to kiss her and say "I love you n watch her sleepy face." Good results are ancillary.

There is more to parenting then simply ensuring your kid gets good scores.