Is there a time when you are simply fed-up with your child?

[Emelyn]

ahkeong:

gosh.. my son is really very sweet when he is behaving


problem is, when he is with his brother.. they create havoc!!!
is there a way we can have them together but at the same time behave?

same same here.
I also want to know if there is a way.....

[ahkeong]

Emelyn:

same same here.
I also want to know if there is a way.....

lol separate them by a gate????

i notice when one of them is alone, they are super angels
but once together, they start comparing who is the bigger devil..
oh gosh..

[Emelyn]

ahkeong:

Emelyn:

same same here.
I also want to know if there is a way.....

lol separate them by a gate????

i notice when one of them is alone, they are super angels
but once together, they start comparing who is the bigger devil..
oh gosh..

same same la.
When they are not together, they keep asking for the other person.
When they are together, all hell break loose !!

[ahkeong]

Emelyn:

same same la.
When they are not together, they keep asking for the other person.
When they are together, all hell break loose !!

anything u have tried so far?

for me, nothing much.. except separate them to play with their own toys cos both have their own sets..

for awhile its fine.. den one of them will go over and disturb, and its usually the younger who is the provoker..

[Busymom]

FQW:

My P2 boy has lost 4 storybooks in school this year alone. All these books were what I carefully selected for him from Popular/amazon.


I was exemplarily patient the first time this happened - just reminding ds to be careful next time; went ballistic the second time (which happened the very next day :stompfeet: ). The third time, I made him pay for the lost book by deducting $1 from his daily allowance until I recovered the cost.

The fourth time happened yesterday. You know, when you're really disgusted with someone, you don't even want to look them in the face. I'm disgusted. :mad:

Like most parents, I think that I've made sacrifices for my child. Darn! I've made lots of sacrifices. I deserved better. :sad:

Mine lost 3 erasers (brand new ones) in the first 3 weeks of school this year. First one lasted 1 week while the second and third were both less than 1 week. :mad: Beats me that after reminding, threatening, scolding repeatedly, not only was there no improvement, it actually got worse? Ended up giving her an old eraser and that one lasted longer than its predecessors, but still suffered the same fate nonetheless.

To me, it boils down to her attitudes and this irks me even more. :pokeeye:

Anyway, from the day she started her primary school, I have diligently labelled her every single belonging (socks and shoes included). I also don't allow her to bring books that are new to school. A few had come back like \"salted vegetables\" with covers torn or folded. Told her that until she learns to take care of her books, she could not bring those new or thick books to school. Fortunately, we have quite a bit of second-hand books for her to bring to school.

Maybe you could try it out with your DS?

[Busymom]

cherrygal:

You are not alone... I just exploded yesterday and today...

I explode almost on a daily basis... :lightrod:

[MMM]

Busymom:

cherrygal:

You are not alone... I just exploded yesterday and today...

I explode almost on a daily basis... :lightrod:

:hi5: Having a peaceful day is a bonus.

Recently, I told the kids that.... make me angry some more, I will find an overseas assignment and leave all of you behind together with daddy.... Maybe it's tipping point for me already...

[Busymom]

2ppaamm:

FQW:

2ppaamm,


Don't mind me saying this, your story made me laugh. Your boy's problems made mine seemed insignificant, almost trivial. If my son manages to lose his tees or shoes, I would have ....... I think I would be so stressed I go see the psychiatrist. :yikes:

It goes without saying that it's not about the money. My anguish is that ds didn't correct his flaw despite past experiences - he's losing books at a rate of once every week since term starts. Surprisingly, dw who's usually more particular about all things financial, seems to take it quite well. Maybe sensing my anger, she decides to give ds a break.

So yesterday straight after roller blading, ds washed up and went to bed - Time out! Actually I only found out about the missing book late at night; otherwise ds won't even have chance to roller blade.

You have a lot of patience. If I had to wait till ds reaches teenage before this issue is corrected, I think I'll die of heart attack. :faint:

We have to remember our kids are all different. Everyone has their good and bad points. My son took a long time to learn these things, but he was very good at other things other parents would die to have.

Same for your little boy. He may be forgetful, but is a good reader, and probably that's where his attention is. Cut him (and yourself) some slack. In a few years, you will all laugh about it. Yep, when I was going through it, it was like my heartbeat very fast everyday... and I wonder what would go wrong/missing next. Even the expert told me she pities me. Every mother of an executive function deficiency child has a really hard time throughout their childhood, but things will iron out by 17 years old. Don't think your kid has any big problem. Just a little attention to these things that do not matter.

Have fun! I'm sure he'll be just fine. Patience, yes, patience is all we need. Tell me about it.

Hi 2ppaamm,

Thanks for sharing your story. Now keeping my fingers crossed that my DD will outgrow her forgetfulness sooner rather than later.

[Busymom]

MMM:

Busymom:

[quote=\"cherrygal\"]You are not alone... I just exploded yesterday and today...

I explode almost on a daily basis... :lightrod:

:hi5: Having a peaceful day is a bonus.

Recently, I told the kids that.... make me angry some more, I will find an overseas assignment and leave all of you behind together with daddy.... Maybe it's tipping point for me already...[/quote] :hugs:

It's not easy to manage three... I can already imagine what it's gonna be like... :frustrated:

[iRabbit]

Busymom:

Told her that until she learns to take care of her books, she could not bring those new or thick books to school. Fortunately, we have quite a bit of second-hand books for her to bring to school.

Maybe you could try it out with your DS?

Many of the books ds brings to sch are from the library. He's reading well and I won't want to do anything to discourage him. Fortunately the lost book counter remains at 4, currently. He managed to recover 2 of them from sch's GO.

I guess the penalty of making him pay for lost books out of his own pocket money is painful enough to remind him to be careful. :evil: