Why do they want to know?

[buds]

Being kaypoh is a Singaporean culture? :yikes:


Sorry orh.. not mine. :dowan:

[babyblissnz]

Thank you guys for many replies! I've gained an insight into your culture and learned new words. It is out of harmless curiosity - yes it must be.


As for my son's sec sch pursuit, I had encountered three persistent mums who had \"extraordinary\" curiosity. I finally explained them in separate occasions that my son didn't do well on PSLE and I would appreciate if she could spare me the question.
The first mum went to my other child to get a sch name. The second one called up my friends. The third one approached my son's ex-form teacher to find out. :scared: That was the reason I started this topic - to find out why they cared so much. I guess I can smell some sort of schadenfreude? Any other interpretation?

BTW, I do my best not to stand out and never brag about anything really; scratch that, ahem, I mean I don't have anything to brag about.

[Nebbermind]

er, so, babyblissnz, what's your son's t-score and which secondary school is he in!??

:cheeky: :peekaboo:

[Chenonceau]

babyblissnz:

Thank you guys for many replies! I've gained an insight into your culture and learned new words. It is out of harmless curiosity - yes it must be.


As for my son's sec sch pursuit, I had encountered three persistent mums who had \"extraordinary\" curiosity. I finally explained them in separate occasions that my son didn't do well on PSLE and I would appreciate if she could spare me the question.
The first mum went to my other child to get a sch name. The second one called up my friends. The third one approached my son's ex-form teacher to find out. :scared: That was the reason I started this topic - to find out why they cared so much. I guess I can smell some sort of schadenfreude? Any other interpretation?

BTW, I do my best not to stand out and never brag about anything really; scratch that, ahem, I mean I don't have anything to brag about.

You sound like such a gem. Welcome to KSP.

Acing the PSLE is nothing to brag about either. It just means you spent a lotta time trying to answer Science questions just so... write compos according to a strict set of criteria (which doesn't really define all that is good writing... but are used to get more marks)... etc... it's a uniquely Singaporean quirk.

Some people ask because they like you and wanna show they care. My mother-in-law does that. If you dun wanna answer just smile happily and say \"Aiya... donno lah... don care lah... why you ask so much?\" then give the person a nice pat on the back and ask a question.

[jtoh]

babyblissnz:

Thank you guys for many replies! I've gained an insight into your culture and learned new words. It is out of harmless curiosity - yes it must be.


As for my son's sec sch pursuit, I had encountered three persistent mums who had \"extraordinary\" curiosity. I finally explained them in separate occasions that my son didn't do well on PSLE and I would appreciate if she could spare me the question.
The first mum went to my other child to get a sch name. The second one called up my friends. The third one approached my son's ex-form teacher to find out. :scared: That was the reason I started this topic - to find out why they cared so much. I guess I can smell some sort of schadenfreude? Any other interpretation?

BTW, I do my best not to stand out and never brag about anything really; scratch that, ahem, I mean I don't have anything to brag about.

I've learnt a new word too - schadenfreude. Your friends were overly curious I have to say. Maybe all three are in the same gossip club? Take heart. Not all parents are like that.

[jtoh]

Chenonceau:

babyblissnz:

Thank you guys for many replies! I've gained an insight into your culture and learned new words. It is out of harmless curiosity - yes it must be.


As for my son's sec sch pursuit, I had encountered three persistent mums who had \"extraordinary\" curiosity. I finally explained them in separate occasions that my son didn't do well on PSLE and I would appreciate if she could spare me the question.
The first mum went to my other child to get a sch name. The second one called up my friends. The third one approached my son's ex-form teacher to find out. :scared: That was the reason I started this topic - to find out why they cared so much. I guess I can smell some sort of schadenfreude? Any other interpretation?

BTW, I do my best not to stand out and never brag about anything really; scratch that, ahem, I mean I don't have anything to brag about.

You sound like such a gem. Welcome to KSP.

Acing the PSLE is nothing to brag about either. It just means you spent a lotta time trying to answer Science questions just so... write compos according to a strict set of criteria (which doesn't really define all that is good writing... but are used to get more marks)... etc... it's a uniquely Singaporean quirk.

Some people ask because they like you and wanna show they care. My mother-in-law does that. If you dun wanna answer just smile happily and say \"Aiya... donno lah... don care lah... why you ask so much?\" then give the person a nice pat on the back and ask a question.

I like your response. Must remember it.

[jtoh]

Nebbermind:

er, so, babyblissnz, what's your son's t-score and which secondary school is he in!??

:cheeky: :peekaboo:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[iRabbit]

Oh dear, I just recalled that I pm vk2010 to ask about his ds's T-score and secondary school last year. Does that make me a kaypoh? Yes, but that's only because I'm a true blue born-and-breed Singaporean. :boogie:


The only time I'll refrain from asking this seemingly innocuous question is when I've advance knowledge that the student is academically weak. For this case, I'll not ask as I don't want to create any awkwardness.

Next time I better be careful, don't anyhow shoot my mouth off. Next time maybe I kay-kay say, 'Finally PSLE is over and your son must be enjoying himself now.' If the other parent keeps quiet, then I'll get the message and don't poke my nose in the wrong place.

[verykiasu2010]

FQW:

Oh dear, I just recalled that I pm vk2010 to ask about his ds's T-score and secondary school last year. Does that make me a kaypoh? Yes, but that's only because I'm a true blue born-and-breed Singaporean. :boogie:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: did I give any answer ? :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[iRabbit]

verykiasu2010:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: did I give any answer ? :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Your exact reply was 'He did ok.' So open in your sharing hor.

But in my defence, you're the only person I asked here in KSP - because I knew that your ds did extremely well.