In-law problems?

[janet88]

auntieM:

My DS only gets reminded of his paternal grandparents when they give him expired biscuits at dinner once in a blue moon, oh yes, not forgeting. The CNY dramas.. ..They don't care about DS and definitely not hiding their feelings. DS is fine with all the love from his maternal grandparents...

Those paternal grandparents don't even care about my son...still have the cheek to call themselves grandparents. There was one year his birthday happened to be on 1st day of CNY. She told hubby she dare not give red packet for birthday bcos she was afraid eldest DIL will be jealous. Whole lot of crap. I know my SIL is not that money faced.

[LOLMum]

huh, if truly afriad of eldest dil, still can give quietly right?


dont want to give, dont give lah and should not say anything at all. why need to bring up the topic and give silly excuses. sounds like trying to make trouble between eldest dil and you.

could have say the same thing to your eldest sil. :slapshead:

[janet88]

LOLMum:

huh, if truly afriad of eldest dil, still can give quietly right?


dont want to give, dont give lah and should not say anything at all. why need to bring up the topic and give silly excuses. sounds like trying to make trouble between eldest dil and you.

could have say the same thing to your eldest sil. :slapshead:

Aiyah, she has loads of excuses lah...she is paternal grandmother and yet never done anything...but wants to be remembered that she is of upper status. :mad: yes you are so right, she always creates trouble and misunderstanding between my SIL and I.

[racoon12]

Does MIL job is to create some excitement btwn her children n the extended family? I saw that wat my mil doing is nt uncommon. Is it kind of some entertainment to watch for them? When their words create conflict btwn her children they will put the blame on their Dil…haiz…

[janet88]

racoon12:

Does MIL job is to create some excitement btwn her children n the extended family? I saw that wat my mil doing is nt uncommon. Is it kind of some entertainment to watch for them? When their words create conflict btwn her children they will put the blame on their Dil....haiz....

Oh, mine here loves to create entertainment, not between children but between daughters-in-law...carrying tales to create misunderstanding. I've had enough of those days. Fortunately hubby knows I'm not a trouble-creator...and stay arms length from his mother.

[racoon12]

Janet - if ur sil is nt from the same genes as ur mil is nt so bad. Nt like mine, came from the same kampong ..... U can understand how draggy i am gg for the gathering...

[janet88]

racoon12:

Janet - if ur sil is nt from the same genes as ur mil is nt so bad. Nt like mine, came from the same kampong ..... U can understand how draggy i am gg for the gathering...

My SIL gave me some problems earlier...in the past, I just swallowed it, and that allowed her to sit on my head. So now, I tell her off. Why should I be at her mercy ? I've enough. I stay many many arms length away from his family.

[fifiyeo]

Wah, I tell all of you good news. Now I’m very angry with and not friendly to my ILs already. Just basic addressing and exchange a few simple words. Instead of being fierce and sarcastic, they suddenly became so ‘nice’. Wanted to celebrate my B-day in some fancy resturant and gave a big red packet. First time in more than 10 years of marriage that I got the same angpow $$ as hubby and my kids. Previously just 20% of what they get! Plus last B-day dinner at hawker centre (chosen by them) with black faces was years ago!


Sometimes I don’t understand these people. When you are nice to them, they treat you like floor mat and say all kinds of untrue and hurtful things. They have to push until you can’t take it and about to completely stop talking to them, then for the sake of "face", they try to be nice. Really tired of this cycle. DH said to keep my distance. Once they think everything is ok, they’ll start all their nonsense again.

[janet88]

fifiyeo:

First time in more than 10 years of marriage that I got the same angpow $$ as hubby and my kids. Previously just 20% of what they get! Plus last B-day dinner at hawker centre (chosen by them) with black faces was years ago!


Sometimes I don't understand these people. When you are nice to them, they treat you like floor mat and say all kinds of untrue and hurtful things. They have to push until you can't take it and about to completely stop talking to them, then for the sake of \"face\", they try to be nice. Really tired of this cycle. DH said to keep my distance. Once they think everything is ok, they'll start all their nonsense again.

Not bad, you still have ang pow...my kids and I don't even have. Only hubby and his siblings have.

This year CNY, the old one gave odd amount. I find it absurd bcos she should know odd number is inauspicious. Young people perhaps don't know, but I was shocked. She gave $20 all these years, so I was shocked she gave kids $5 each. Times are bad, i understand cut costs. But my hubby gives them monthly allowance and this year we had to buy food for first day of CNY as well, bcos she claimed she lost her wok and can't cook. :yikes:

[fifiyeo]

Janet as I mentioned, my ILs face very important. They will need others to think that they are wonderful people. So red packets sure will give but will purposely do things like tell me \"oh, I care and love for you the same as my children\" after that the red packet amount I'm the only one way lesser. DH and DC all celebrate their B-days and they claim they just remembered mine afterwards...my MIL is not someone who can't remember things and dates. You should see her record book!!! If it is forgotten, it is forgotten for a reason - they are trying to tell you that they don't like you. This year some more come and hug me!!! :yikes: Dh commented afterwards that it was so drama!!