2 is enough? 2nd can wait?

[MrsSeah]

Yes remember some of them. Not all. I was still very small that time. Oppss… I am disclosing my age.

[Oppsgal]

MrsSeah:

Yes remember some of them. Not all. I was still very small that time. Oppss... I am disclosing my age.

I remember NONE of them... Opps, I also disclose my age.

Either I am too young to remember any or walk with my eyes close most of the time :?

[verykiasu2010]

MMM:

I only remember the 2 girls under umbrella.


Quite interesting as it reflects the situation at that point. The government was trying to promote :

* Early marriage spells troubles. My aunties married at the age of 16-18. One of them is a great grandma at 68 years old. My mum got married at 25 which was considered late. Mum also said that a no. of them had shotgun marriage..... Interesting :scratchhead: as we expected the older generation to be more conversative.

* Having 2 daughters is good enough.... target at the population who think it is incomplete without a son. My dh is the only son and he has 4 sisters. He is no. 4 in the family. When the parents had the youngest sister, mil had to deliver at private clinic. There are still traditional thinking of having a son these days. More to carry on family name. However, girls these days can do just as well if not better. So it doesn't really matter. But I love my boy. It's just a opposite attracts thing where fathers just have soft spot for their daughters.

with regard to carrying on the family name, it is now an accepted norm in China that girl can have two family names in her name

also in S'pore, there are families that sign marriage contract that stipulate the first child will carry the family name of the daughter (if she has no brothers) and the rest of her kids will carry the family name of the husband

[MMM]

verykiasu2010:

also in S'pore, there are families that sign marriage contract that stipulate the first child will carry the family name of the daughter (if she has no brothers) and the rest of her kids will carry the family name of the husband

Really??? That shows like those Taiwan drama. I wonder if I will let my ds do such things :scratchhead:

[fightingmom]

verykiasu2010:

MMM:

I only remember the 2 girls under umbrella.


Quite interesting as it reflects the situation at that point. The government was trying to promote :

* Early marriage spells troubles. My aunties married at the age of 16-18. One of them is a great grandma at 68 years old. My mum got married at 25 which was considered late. Mum also said that a no. of them had shotgun marriage..... Interesting :scratchhead: as we expected the older generation to be more conversative.

* Having 2 daughters is good enough.... target at the population who think it is incomplete without a son. My dh is the only son and he has 4 sisters. He is no. 4 in the family. When the parents had the youngest sister, mil had to deliver at private clinic. There are still traditional thinking of having a son these days. More to carry on family name. However, girls these days can do just as well if not better. So it doesn't really matter. But I love my boy. It's just a opposite attracts thing where fathers just have soft spot for their daughters.

with regard to carrying on the family name, it is now an accepted norm in China that girl can have two family names in her name

also in S'pore, there are families that sign marriage contract that stipulate the first child will carry the family name of the daughter (if she has no brothers) and the rest of her kids will carry the family name of the husband

Girls in China now very 搶手 cos there are more men than ladies due to the old time one-child policy. So many families prefer boys than girls then so that they can carry on the family name.

I have a friend whose auntie adopted a baby girl from china whom her biological parents dumped her in a trench after knowing it was a girl. Lucky some kind souls found her and put her up in an orphanage. :sad:

[verykiasu2010]

MMM:

verykiasu2010:

also in S'pore, there are families that sign marriage contract that stipulate the first child will carry the family name of the daughter (if she has no brothers) and the rest of her kids will carry the family name of the husband

Really??? That shows like those Taiwan drama. I wonder if I will let my ds do such things :scratchhead:

if your DS marries his GF who is the only child in her whole generation, you won't disagree .... and could always adopt the PRC way of naming with two family names .... Tan-Lim Ah Kow .... for example

[MrsSeah]

MMM:

verykiasu2010:

also in S'pore, there are families that sign marriage contract that stipulate the first child will carry the family name of the daughter (if she has no brothers) and the rest of her kids will carry the family name of the husband

Really??? That shows like those Taiwan drama. I wonder if I will let my ds do such things :scratchhead:

Marry the same surname lor. LOL!!! My colleague has the same surname as her hubby. Both are TAN. So her kids \"carried\" her surname too. :please:

[verykiasu2010]

MrsSeah:

MMM:

[quote=\"verykiasu2010\"] also in S'pore, there are families that sign marriage contract that stipulate the first child will carry the family name of the daughter (if she has no brothers) and the rest of her kids will carry the family name of the husband

Really??? That shows like those Taiwan drama. I wonder if I will let my ds do such things :scratchhead:

Marry the same surname lor. LOL!!! My colleague has the same surname as her hubby. Both are TAN. So her kids \"carried\" her surname too. :please:[/quote]same surname very risky ..... must check how many generations apart, in case high risk for \"in-breeding\"....that is why traditionally Chinese don't permit same surname marriage

there are some surnames descended from Tang dynasty and part of the clan of a few million are in south east asia ..... same surname risky

[MadScientist]

Oppsgal:

kiddo:

[quote=\"MadScientist\"]Evidence of generations lost... And the start of SGporeans decline.

yes you said it ........2 is now too little ...........
when the minimum in my time is 5 ....most with 7, 8, 9 or 13 in a family
sharing is fun, fighting for food is also one of the joy of eating and
enjoying food hahaaa

DONT WAIT go for it :rahrah:

If have more, probably have more things to fight for. Not enough rooms, Not enough toilet at home, Not enough money... maybe cannot even afford housing next time.

Anyway, I didn't recall see this poster before. What generation is that?[/quote]those who remember are Gen Xers...

I remember seeing half of them...

Anyways, I do what I think is best... have 4 already.
Clearly, the environmment is not helping one bit, but that will change - big time.

[kiddo]

MadScientist:

those who remember are Gen Xers...
I remember seeing half of them...
Anyways, I do what I think is best... have 4 already.
Clearly, the environmment is not helping one bit, but that will change - big time.

Good on you with 4 why you stop Sir ? :evil:

no R&D,you are a scientist :hi5: