2 is enough? 2nd can wait?

[kiddo]

MadScientist:

those who remember are Gen Xers...
I remember seeing half of them...
Anyways, I do what I think is best... have 4 already.
Clearly, the environmment is not helping one bit, but that will change - big time.

Good on you with 4 why you stop Sir ? :evil:

no R&D,you are a scientist :hi5:

[janet88]

Singapore fertility rate is at all time low, but it is not unusual. Taiwan and Japan facing same problems.

How to have more kids when education is so stressful ? Can’t wait for CA/SA to be over every 10 weeks. My kids are 4 (almost 5) years apart but syllabus is so different. My younger one in P2 was taught models for Maths when her older sibling learnt it later. The Chinese exam (whole textbook of 12 chapters) yesterday had so many sections to revise. It will be a miracle if she passes it.

[daisyt]

For me, 1 is enough, 2nd no need wait because it would never happen. Haha

[Oppsgal]

daisyt:

For me, 1 is enough, 2nd no need wait because it would never happen. Haha

:rotflmao: :hi5:

With so many external pressure, I also will have only 1.

Got some people ask me when the 2nd one coming, tell me only have 1 kid, kid will be very lonely. I doubt my kid is lonely from the look. Always fighting toys with mummy.

[Wan]

Those were the days. I was the 2nd girl in the family and the government influenced my parents not to have a little brother for me. Our next door neighbor had a 3rd child who was fined and penalized, faced difficulty in enrolling in pri school.


30 years later, they realized the mistake. But the 70s campaign is so successful that I’m stopping at 2. 

[janet88]

Wan:

30 years later, they realized the mistake. But the 70s campaign is so successful that I'm stopping at 2. 

The govt worried our parents will go on producing and producing like our grandparents' time mah. They forgot that our parents are educated and know how to plan...whether they can afford to have more kids or not. I have 'closed shop' already no matter how govt dangles goodies in front of me. The cost of bringing up 2 kids is stressful enough.

[daisyt]

Wan:

Those were the days. I was the 2nd girl in the family and the government influenced my parents not to have a little brother for me. Our next door neighbor had a 3rd child who was fined and penalized, faced difficulty in enrolling in pri school.


30 years later, they realized the mistake. But the 70s campaign is so successful that I'm stopping at 2. 

Mymum told me, I was having difficulty enrol to primary school because i have 2 younger brothers. She had to enrol me in the least popular school and very ironically, this least popular \"chinese turn to english\" school is top 10 primary school now. So my dd was fortunate to ride on my misfortunate. I find this so amused!

[limlim]

Oppsgal:

daisyt:

For me, 1 is enough, 2nd no need wait because it would never happen. Haha

:rotflmao: :hi5:

With so many external pressure, I also will have only 1.

Got some people ask me when the 2nd one coming, tell me only have 1 kid, kid will be very lonely. I doubt my kid is lonely from the look. Always fighting toys with mummy.

If you're SHAM and can afford a lot of time with the kid, it is fine.

But if both parents are working, and both parents might want some private or personal time to themselves, then, the single child might get very lonely when the parents have no time for him/her. It would be better to have a sibling.

With kids or not, couple needs some romance or private time together.

If the hubby never expect the wifey to spend private time together (like going on a date, watch movies etc..).. w/o the kids.. then, I feel, something could be very wrong in the r/s.. maybe the man got ECAs outside hence no need the wifey to keep him \"company\".....?

[Oppsgal]

limlim:

Oppsgal:

[quote=\"daisyt\"]For me, 1 is enough, 2nd no need wait because it would never happen. Haha

:rotflmao: :hi5:

With so many external pressure, I also will have only 1.

Got some people ask me when the 2nd one coming, tell me only have 1 kid, kid will be very lonely. I doubt my kid is lonely from the look. Always fighting toys with mummy.

If you're SHAM and can afford a lot of time with the kid, it is fine.

But if both parents are working, and both parents might want some private or personal time to themselves, then, the single child might get very lonely when the parents have no time for him/her. It would be better to have a sibling.

With kids or not, couple needs some romance or private time together.

If the hubby never expect the wifey to spend private time together (like going on a date, watch movies etc..).. w/o the kids.. then, I feel, something could be very wrong in the r/s.. maybe the man got ECAs outside hence no need the wifey to keep him \"company\".....?[/quote]Might not be anything wrong if never go on a date or watch movies. Could be overstress working, no time to go date.

[janet88]

Once kids come along, it’s hard to find couple time when kids are very young. My couple-time with hubby now is after dropping off son for tuition and we drink coffee while waiting. Or else we go supermarket to get groceries. 2 hours only before rushing back to pick him.