All About Autism

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slmkhoo:

nugget:

[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]
Nugget,
How do u handle yr feeling when u see yr child is so diff to yr friend child at gathering ?

Sorry I read your qn again.

How I handle? Seriously, my son's feeling matters more to me than my own.

If I choose to bring him to gathering, I will make sure he has a good time. I will make sure he feel comfy and happy to the extend that sometimes I neglect my own adult friends.

My kids' feelings and well being is my top priority if I choose to bring them to such occasions/gatherings.

If i want to have a good time myself, I will leave my kids with my mum's or in laws then hubby and me will enjoy ourselves.

Never compare your child with others. Even if your child is normal, they will always progress at difference pace, different character and different reactions and tantrums.

I have a daughter with Asperger's, now already a teenager. In the early years, I struggled to accept the differences between her and 'normal' kids, and I have another girl who is very 'normal'. It's something you have to come to terms with. Eventually, I have accepted my daughter's make-up, her likes and dislikes, her ways of reacting etc. As long as what she does is not socially unacceptable, I let her be. We had to do some training in early years to work on socially unacceptable behaviours, but now, I just advise her when I see that she is not understanding social cues or norms, or when she making others uncomfortable. She realises that she's a bit 'different' and understands the need to conform to some extent, but then we are all 'different' to some extent.[/quote]hi, you have pm.

[ImMeeMee]

slmkhoo, am asking this question of you cos I dont see a lot of mummies to ASD girls. I am to one.


how do/did you deal with your daughter's puberty issues as she grows? This is still early for me (my dd3 is 5yo this year) but it has always been in my mind.

dont know whether this is the right platform to ask, hope its ok with you.

thanks.

[nugget]

slmkhoo:

I'm strict and conservative. I told my girls 16yo at the earliest, and must be approved by me first. She's 15yo, but shows no interest as yet.

That's very good! My niece only 6 years old. Already helping her barbie doll make up. I don't have daughter, but I remember I was quite hard to handle as a teenager.

[helplessmum3]

Nugget,

My son will sit together n play w my friend kid. Whatever my fren kid play he will play cuz he Peer imitation .and fight for toys .

Just my fren kid k communicate w my fren whenever my fren instruct her kid to do.

[nugget]

Helplessmum, your kid like that also considerd under spectrum? Sounds very mild to me.

[Audvis]

Yuhua:

helplessmum3:

I'm so depress again. I think maybe y some parents here hav stop going for gathering ..

Just to share..

helplessmum3, 2 years back, I send both my DS to kid's yoga. Till today, they are still taking the classes from the same teacher. My elder boy has mild ASD. And today, I am very glad that he is almost like any ordinary child. Except on occasions where he is really upset, he will go all quiet. However, he can express himself well to what he is upset or happy about and answer our questions promptly. You can think about giving the yoga classes a try.

Hi, what is the name of the yoga school? Did u enrol your kids for mass class or 1:1? I am considering to do this but have difficulty fitting in a class to fit both kids' schedules. Thanks!

[Yuhua]

Audvis:

Yuhua:

[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]I'm so depress again. I think maybe y some parents here hav stop going for gathering ..

Just to share..

helplessmum3, 2 years back, I send both my DS to kid's yoga. Till today, they are still taking the classes from the same teacher. My elder boy has mild ASD. And today, I am very glad that he is almost like any ordinary child. Except on occasions where he is really upset, he will go all quiet. However, he can express himself well to what he is upset or happy about and answer our questions promptly. You can think about giving the yoga classes a try.

Hi, what is the name of the yoga school? Did u enrol your kids for mass class or 1:1? I am considering to do this but have difficulty fitting in a class to fit both kids' schedules. Thanks![/quote]Hi there! Its Ohmsantih yoga. My elder DS went for 1-1 initially and the younger one joined the mass class with 4 other children. Well, yes initially I do need to make 2 trips each week as the the teacher is the same. But I would say its all worthwhile. Maybe you can discuss with the teacher for the 1-1 class, how you can fit the children in? My 2 boys loves teacher war war's class :please:

[Audvis]

Hi, thanks for your reply. Hope the teacher can give me a suitable slot soon. I myself tried yoga recently. I must say it is very tiring when u do the poses, but u feel very \"shiok\" after tt due to the lengthening effect.

[Yuhua]

Audvis:

Hi, thanks for your reply. Hope the teacher can give me a suitable slot soon. I myself tried yoga recently. I must say it is very tiring when u do the poses, but u feel very \"shiok\" after tt due to the lengthening effect.

good luck to getting the right slot! I do yoga at the same school as well. Yes feels really good after a good stretch of back, especially shoulders and necks. Desk bound job gives so much problems on the shoulders these days

[ImMeeMee]

slmkhoo:

Like with all things, slowly and specifically! From about 9yo or so, I started talking a bit more about a girl's growth and development, let her read a book or 2, just getting her to understand the issues. When she started menstruating, I showed her what to do, how to manage, as matter-of-factly as I could. Pretty much like we have taught her many things over the years! It's been fine so far.

thanks for the candid sharing, slimkhoo. just out of curiosity, are there any peer interaction or relationship issues that you need to deal with?