All About Autism

[ImMeeMee]

slmkhoo:

I have a daughter with Asperger's, now already a teenager. In the early years, I struggled to accept the differences between her and 'normal' kids, and I have another girl who is very 'normal'. It's something you have to come to terms with. Eventually, I have accepted my daughter's make-up, her likes and dislikes, her ways of reacting etc. As long as what she does is not socially unacceptable, I let her be. We had to do some training in early years to work on socially unacceptable behaviours, but now, I just advise her when I see that she is not understanding social cues or norms, or when she making others uncomfortable. She realises that she's a bit 'different' and understands the need to conform to some extent, but then we are all 'different' to some extent.

slmkhoo, i like the way you quote and unquote 'normal'.

put a community of ASD individuals together with one NT and the NT may become 'abnormal'.

its relativity.

[nugget]

Seriously hor, sometimes I dun understand why they want to single out mild ASD.


Sometimes I dun even deduct my son has ASD. Or maybe I am getting so used to his behaviour.

Like to ask if you all declare your kid as handicap when you all file your tax? Is ASD considered handicapped?

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slmkhoo:

I have a daughter with Asperger's, now already a teenager. In the early years, I struggled to accept the differences between her and 'normal' kids, and I have another girl who is very 'normal'. It's something you have to come to terms with. Eventually, I have accepted my daughter's make-up, her likes and dislikes, her ways of reacting etc. As long as what she does is not socially unacceptable, I let her be. We had to do some training in early years to work on socially unacceptable behaviours, but now, I just advise her when I see that she is not understanding social cues or norms, or when she making others uncomfortable. She realises that she's a bit 'different' and understands the need to conform to some extent, but then we are all 'different' to some extent.

Slmkhoo,

Can share how different your daughter make up is? Heh heh I am just curious. I thought make up is just make up. Normal eyeshadow, lipstick and blusher? How different can it be?

[nugget]

slmkhoo:

I mean personality 'make-up', not the cosmetic kind! I haven't allowed her to start wearing cosmetics yet!

Haha okay. Sorry. I misread. Cos yours is teenager will put make up. I used lipstick and eye liner when I was like 14 hee hee.

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slmkhoo:

nugget:

[quote=\"helplessmum3\"]
Nugget,
How do u handle yr feeling when u see yr child is so diff to yr friend child at gathering ?

Sorry I read your qn again.

How I handle? Seriously, my son's feeling matters more to me than my own.

If I choose to bring him to gathering, I will make sure he has a good time. I will make sure he feel comfy and happy to the extend that sometimes I neglect my own adult friends.

My kids' feelings and well being is my top priority if I choose to bring them to such occasions/gatherings.

If i want to have a good time myself, I will leave my kids with my mum's or in laws then hubby and me will enjoy ourselves.

Never compare your child with others. Even if your child is normal, they will always progress at difference pace, different character and different reactions and tantrums.

I have a daughter with Asperger's, now already a teenager. In the early years, I struggled to accept the differences between her and 'normal' kids, and I have another girl who is very 'normal'. It's something you have to come to terms with. Eventually, I have accepted my daughter's make-up, her likes and dislikes, her ways of reacting etc. As long as what she does is not socially unacceptable, I let her be. We had to do some training in early years to work on socially unacceptable behaviours, but now, I just advise her when I see that she is not understanding social cues or norms, or when she making others uncomfortable. She realises that she's a bit 'different' and understands the need to conform to some extent, but then we are all 'different' to some extent.[/quote]hi, you have pm.

[ImMeeMee]

slmkhoo, am asking this question of you cos I dont see a lot of mummies to ASD girls. I am to one.


how do/did you deal with your daughter's puberty issues as she grows? This is still early for me (my dd3 is 5yo this year) but it has always been in my mind.

dont know whether this is the right platform to ask, hope its ok with you.

thanks.

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slmkhoo:

I'm strict and conservative. I told my girls 16yo at the earliest, and must be approved by me first. She's 15yo, but shows no interest as yet.

That's very good! My niece only 6 years old. Already helping her barbie doll make up. I don't have daughter, but I remember I was quite hard to handle as a teenager.

[helplessmum3]

Nugget,

My son will sit together n play w my friend kid. Whatever my fren kid play he will play cuz he Peer imitation .and fight for toys .

Just my fren kid k communicate w my fren whenever my fren instruct her kid to do.

[nugget]

Helplessmum, your kid like that also considerd under spectrum? Sounds very mild to me.

[Audvis]

Yuhua:

helplessmum3:

I'm so depress again. I think maybe y some parents here hav stop going for gathering ..

Just to share..

helplessmum3, 2 years back, I send both my DS to kid's yoga. Till today, they are still taking the classes from the same teacher. My elder boy has mild ASD. And today, I am very glad that he is almost like any ordinary child. Except on occasions where he is really upset, he will go all quiet. However, he can express himself well to what he is upset or happy about and answer our questions promptly. You can think about giving the yoga classes a try.

Hi, what is the name of the yoga school? Did u enrol your kids for mass class or 1:1? I am considering to do this but have difficulty fitting in a class to fit both kids' schedules. Thanks!