My 3.5 years old girl keep saying she is bored!

[nanana]

Regret that I don't have the intention to bear anymore children.

[Ichigokun]

Wait till she is about P5. She won't have the time to feel bored alr :rotfl: xD


Just joking.

Maybe if she's bored you can get her some educational TV shows or games to play and watch.

Or just buy some puzzles for her. Puzzles can help in visualization and improve our memory and brain capacity. Good for children and kiasu moms who want a head start for their children so they won't feel a sudden stress when they enter primary school.

Don't get those with over a few hundred pieces cos it'll get really boring. Being children, maybe those with 30 to 50 pieces will do.

Don't get those boring puzzles that turn out to not have any picture at all. Buy those with colors that are bright and attention-grabbing.

Just my two cents Hope it helps

[Ichigokun]

ksi:

nanana:

Thanks all for your advices. Yes I agree play dates is good. But I don't have many friends with kids who are available for play dates. Most are working and kids are in childcare or grandparents' care.


Old toys yes, she will get a bit more interested, but after just a while, she gets bored of it too.

Maybe I need to bring her outside for some fresh air cum play, but recently the weather is terrible, she just recovered from viral fever. Need to think of many new things for her to occupy her time. I hope this really is a passing phase!

There are indoor playgrounds you can bring her to. There is one in Paragon. There is one at Junction 8, outside the area next to Haagan Das. Think this is semi outdoor, probably good for evenings. These are the free ones and there are some paid ones which can be found here:
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/content/indoor-playgrounds

Alternatively, sign her up for kids gym, then she will be too tired to feel bored.

Btw, I am curious, where did she learn the word 'bored' or \"boring\"? My blur girl did not know how to say that at the same age.

I know of an indoors playground! Sembawang Shopping Centre has one. As I live in that area I roughly know.

It's just outside Astons and the Hong Kong cafe.

[Funz]

Instead of colour pencils and paper, give her water colour, finger paint and even chalk. Get her to explore the effects on different materials, writing paper, drawing paper, cardboard, old t-shirt, kitchen towel. Still, cannot expect a 3yr old to stay at a task for too long without adult facilitation.


She sounds like a rather active girl too. Bring her out for good outdoor play, go to the park or playground. Bring some paper and pencils along to draw or do rubbings of the different trees and even pavings. Pick fallen leaves and twigs home for a collage. These will engage them.

[nanana]

Thanks all for your help!

Although she has many puzzles at home, will get new ones for her.

Water color is good, just that I am afraid she will make a mess around the house.
Outdoor play is good, pick fallen leaves? She loves it! I ever let her pick some leaves and she enjoyed it very much. Will bring her out more often to the park.

[nanana]

These few days my girl has been extremely cranky. She doesn't mention bored anymore but she develops a lot of nonsense behavior, talk non stop and cry a LOT.

She can talk and talk and talk and demand that we listen to her. I have to acknowledge her by saying \"Ok\" or \"hmm\" or \"ya\" or \"yes\".. etc. If not she will repeat again and again what she just said and cry. She gets irritated when her ideas are not heard and responded.

She used to be good. But now she cries easily. She wants only HER WAY. If not she will make a big fuss out of it.
Example, she wants her pillow and handkerchief to be put on her bed the exact shape and location she placed them. She said I cannot touch it. If I touch it, she will get angry and cry and want me to put it back the exact shape and way it used to be. There are lots more nonsense from her from the time she wakes up till her bedtime. She talks non stop and demands lots of attention. When she wants something, she wants it no matter what. If I don't give it to her, she will cry heavily and create a scene.

She makes me very frustrated these few days and never fails to make me angry.
I have been thinking if there is something that trigger her change in behavior. But there are nothing except that my dad was hospitalized and I had to go to the hospital to visit him and leave my girl with my mother in law or sometimes with my husband if he can take leave.

Is she feeling insecure? HELP......

[ammonite]

It’s not that she used to be ‘good’, and has become bad. It is that she is growing and discovering emotions and opinions (may or may not be due to the recent changes in daily routine) and you are both unsettled by this. She sounds like she wants more attention and interaction, and she needs a rough routine for greater predictability. You should have fixed time when you do things with her and reallyfocus on her, and then time when she has to entertain herself - about half an hour max - but still in the same room as you. let small things go - eg pillow and handkerchief, after all these are HER things. Work in regular outdoor time with her, it is also a good time for you to get out and meet other adults. Consider if she is getting enough sleep. If she has just dropped her nap, she may still not be able to cope with it fully and may need a rest time. If she started school this year, she may be tired/ excited from it and needs to unwind. Some kids need to talk a lot to unwind. Others need to be left alone. This is all normal. If there are other changes in her behavior, try to talk to her to find out if something is unsettling her.

[ammonite]

Oh one more very common one - ask her if anyone said that if she doesn’t behave, she cannot go home, or mummy won’t come back.

[nanana]

ammonite:

It's not that she used to be 'good', and has become bad. It is that she is growing and discovering emotions and opinions (may or may not be due to the recent changes in daily routine) and you are both unsettled by this. She sounds like she wants more attention and interaction, and she needs a rough routine for greater predictability. You should have fixed time when you do things with her and reallyfocus on her, and then time when she has to entertain herself - about half an hour max - but still in the same room as you. let small things go - eg pillow and handkerchief, after all these are HER things. Work in regular outdoor time with her, it is also a good time for you to get out and meet other adults. Consider if she is getting enough sleep. If she has just dropped her nap, she may still not be able to cope with it fully and may need a rest time. If she started school this year, she may be tired/ excited from it and needs to unwind. Some kids need to talk a lot to unwind. Others need to be left alone. This is all normal. If there are other changes in her behavior, try to talk to her to find out if something is unsettling her.

Thanks. I don't have a fixed time when I will play with her and when she will play alone. I think what happened was a passing phase and thankfully now she started to behave better. Yes, I realized when I really focus on her, she gets very happy. But when I need to do my own stuff, she gets upset.

[nanana]

ammonite:

Oh one more very common one - ask her if anyone said that if she doesn't behave, she cannot go home, or mummy won't come back.

Oh. If someone said this to her, she will get affected and behavior changed? I think must be the teachers from her school if someone really said this to her.