Help! My 11 yo Daughter Back in Diapers..

[HiDaddy]

Brought DD to try out TCM today. Doc say she's 'cool' and said avoid barley, watermelon etc.. Am I right to say that it should not be physical (muscle) issue that's causing her loss of control?


In view of her worsening control DW and I that it is best to put her in diapers for the day as well, esp since we go out often for extend period of time. Daughter is very paiseh :oops: , but generally fine with it. She's a good and understanding girl. But we are worried that it could affect her mood. I guess it will take some time for her condition to improve. Any ideas on how to help her cope? I know my wife is the best candidate for the job but she is quite busy, often work late/out of SG.

[Pen88n]

HiDaddy,

Glad to hear that you have brought your gal to the TCM. May not be a bad idea to try out the kegel exercise to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles - these are just exercise and will only have positive effect anyway. Can always go with TCM medication / tonic. Meantime, be positive to her and assure her of your support to cure the condition. Make sure she knows this is not her fault / her problem, just a condition that happens and you all will work with her to improve it.

Hope these work for your gal and keep us informed of the progress later. Good luck!

[HiDaddy]

Thanks for the advice! Intend to get DD to do the kegel exercise mentioned by cmm, but wife is on business trip.

Any tonics to recommend? TCM doc says DD is 'cool' so it means need something warm, is it? Is there any soft or cold drink to avoid?

[longmao.029846irene]

Hi daddy,


Did u go to d one I reccomend? They Sh hv gvn u sm Chinese med powder or capsule.

[HiDaddy]

longmao.irene:

Hi daddy,


Did u go to d one I reccomend? They Sh hv gvn u sm Chinese med powder or capsule.

Hi longmao.irene, I didn't go to the one you recommended :oops:

I went to one that DW went to when she was pregnant with my daughter bcos the clinic is run by a family friend. But was only given some powder, meant to counter the 'cool'.

[Pen88n]

HiDaddy:

Thanks for the advice! Intend to get DD to do the kegel exercise mentioned by cmm, but wife is on business trip.

Any tonics to recommend? TCM doc says DD is 'cool' so it means need something warm, is it? Is there any soft or cold drink to avoid?

Understand TCM doctor will probably discourage cold drink and cold dessert. Always drink warm water.
Food that are considered cooling include all cooling herbal tea, fruits like watermelon and starfruit, vegetables like 大白菜 or even some 瓜 like 冬瓜.
As for the warm tonic, you may want to get list of tonics or tonic food preparation from TCM doctor. At least it will be more specific to her condition (bring warm to the 肾,补肾 I think ).

[longmao.029846irene]

Hi daddy,


Tik d powder Sh b good.

Last time wen my DD hv prob wif respiratory web bk every week for massage n chg Chinese med according to his condition. U might wan to try it out wif ur gal n see how
it helps…

Understd ur gal is P5, hv u consider letting her wear those panty liner for adults / preggy( cannot recall d name) meant for bladder abit loose so wen cough / sneeze will "wet" abit… Asborent quite good.I had those b4 definately better Dan diapers (bulky n u as papa got to wear for her Tik not v approiate, v sorry, no
Offense)

Will try to find d name for tat brand of panty liner for u tomolo, no promises as my pl on Reno now…

Regards,
Longmao

[HiDaddy]

longmao.irene:

Hi daddy,


Tik d powder Sh b good.

Last time wen my DD hv prob wif respiratory web bk every week for massage n chg Chinese med according to his condition. U might wan to try it out wif ur gal n see how
it helps..

Understd ur gal is P5, hv u consider letting her wear those panty liner for adults / preggy( cannot recall d name) meant for bladder abit loose so wen cough / sneeze will \"wet\" abit.. Asborent quite good.I had those b4 definately better Dan diapers (bulky n u as papa got to wear for her Tik not v approiate, v sorry, no
Offense)

Will try to find d name for tat brand of panty liner for u tomolo, no promises as my pl on Reno now...

Regards,
Longmao

No offence taken! Very appreciate that you share the product.

Was also very hesitant to diaper DD myself, but both DD and I understand that its for the best. Normally its DW who's in charge, I only take over when wife is busy or away. We try to keep her in pull-up for day time, so she can change it herself when she wet. Only diapers when she sleeping.

Bulkiness is also a big issue for her. The diaper is very obvious when wear over pants so DD got to resort to wear skirt/dress when go out. Her headache is how to hide the bulk during PE lesson in school..

Sidetrack abit, in SG schools is there a system where there is like a medical staff at the sick bay that allow DD to put her stuff and change there if necessary? Because quite tiresome for her to carry bag around school everytime she need to change. Read on Google that some ang mor schools got this system.

Thanks a lot for your help! Really grateful

[HiDaddy]

Daughter's pull up actually leak in school today!! :shock: Luckily no one notice as her school skirt was only damp a bit. She got two spares in her backpack, but she say she didn't realise that she was wet, she's also scared that her classmate will discover, so she didn't change for the whole day. Poor girl :faint:


The quality and absorbancy of the pullup she's wearing is very poor. Its designed for bedwetting kids but she's wearing it for day use. So far she has been wearing it to school for only one week, and its the first time it leak.

p.s. Sorry if this is like a blog post, just want to give some update

[longmao.029846irene]

Hi daddy,


Tik my earlier post did not go thru…

Anyway, the pantyliner brand is Poise, sorry dun know how to post photo here bt can get in all supermkt n Ntuc, under femaine section.

Bt u jus mentioned tat d pull ups full without her knowing, so I Tik poise may not b a good solution. U might wan to introduce her to night sanitary pads which is quite good, convenient n muc social as compare to diapers… Bt I guess DW got to show her how to do it… Meanwhile, u just got to grabs opportunity to go empty her bladder whenever possible. Also do continue wif western medicine & TCM as tats d ONI way to improve d situation!!

Dun lose heart! 加油！！