Club SAHM
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Blessedwife,
You will learn as you go along! When I first became a SAHM, I had one child but no help coz I was overseas for one year with hubby. I knew how to do housework, coz no maid before that, but it was a huge challenge to manage on my own with one child. 6 years later, I find myself overseas again with no help and with three children!!! I was worried about how I would cope since I had a tough time the last time round. But I guess I have learnt a few tricks over the years! It has been much easier than anticipated. Very tiring coz I am on the job all day long with no help at all, but I am managing!! Have become very efficient! Good at delegating to my minions (DS1 and DS2) too! -
MummyThreeStreams:
:salute:
I knew how to do housework, coz no maid before that, but it was a huge challenge to manage on my own with one child. 6 years later, I find myself overseas again with no help and with three children!!!
I was worried about how I would cope since I had a tough time the last time round. But I guess I have learnt a few tricks over the years! It has been much easier than anticipated. Very tiring coz I am on the job all day long with no help at all, but I am managing!! Have become very efficient! Good at delegating to my minions (DS1 and DS2) too!
Did you homeschool your kids?
I already
with 2 kids. Factory closed permanently for 3rd.
Sometimes my mom would comment that we should have tried for a 3rd child. I asked her 'would you be helping to babysit?' She :siam:
End of discussion :rotflmao: -
fightingmom:
You're right! kind of getting addicted after a while.No worries, it is a matter of getting used to it. After that, you can't do without it cos you can surf the Internet, log in KSP, listen to your favourite music and play some games.
If you have been using the phone to SMS, you can download this free apps called Whatsapp - it is free SMSing as long as the other party that you SMS to has the same apps. You can even do multiple-chat with more than 1 person.
Enjoy your adventure !
Hubby downloaded viber and line for me. So now I'm chatting with my best friend every day on the go and a couple of other not frequent in contact friends.
I got the feeling that I don't have enough friends because now I wanted to chat all the time :rotflmao: -
sleepy:
That's the beauty of technology. Nowadays , I can view photos of my friends and their loved ones, update each other of our current status in fb even though we are countries apart. Of course , personal stuff we still communicate via phone or we try to meet up and talk face to face.
You're right! kind of getting addicted after a while.fightingmom:
No worries, it is a matter of getting used to it. After that, you can't do without it cos you can surf the Internet, log in KSP, listen to your favourite music and play some games.
If you have been using the phone to SMS, you can download this free apps called Whatsapp - it is free SMSing as long as the other party that you SMS to has the same apps. You can even do multiple-chat with more than 1 person.
Enjoy your adventure !
Hubby downloaded viber and line for me. So now I'm chatting with my best friend every day on the go and a couple of other not frequent in contact friends.
I got the feeling that I don't have enough friends because now I wanted to chat all the time :rotflmao:
One thing about SAHM, we need to go out have make friends or make time for our friends. They are our \"support\" group. Used to go aerobic classes with them but since most of the classes are in the evening, I stop for almost a year to keep an eye on my dd for her PSLE this year. Hope to join my kakis soon. -
fightingmom:
One thing about SAHM, we need to go out have make friends or make time for our friends. They are our \"support\" group. Used to go aerobic classes with them but since most of the classes are in the evening, I stop for almost a year to keep an eye on my dd for her PSLE this year. Hope to join my kakis soon.
Agreed!
But don't know why my SAHM friends are so busy till they got no time to meet. They live rather far away too. Then they asked me why I have so much free time :faint: while they felt like they're running in circles everyday
Once a month, I meet up with my best friend who is single for movies and karoke. She is also the one I chat through viber everyday
On a typical week, while kids are in school, I go gym alone, go aerobics/kickboxing classes alone, go shopping alone, watch online drama alone, read manga alone.
Actually during my younger days, I even go travelling alone when I couldn't find anyone whose schedule available to go together.
Fortunately I enjoy ME time very much but it's still good to meet old friends face to face to catch up or even do activities together. I think I need to get to know the neighbhourhood SAHMs but don't know where to start
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sleepy:
For me, I don't dare to make friends with the neighbourhood SAHM . Friendly greeting and hello is ok but friends ... A bit difficult cos there is one incident happened to my neighbour upstairs. Just one small misunderstanding, someone gossip to someone and the word spreaded like fire. Before long, the whole neighbourhood knows about it. Now the children of my neighbours always take the staircase or will run into the lift if no one is taking out of embarrassment. Poor thing.fightingmom:
One thing about SAHM, we need to go out have make friends or make time for our friends. They are our \"support\" group. Used to go aerobic classes with them but since most of the classes are in the evening, I stop for almost a year to keep an eye on my dd for her PSLE this year. Hope to join my kakis soon.
Agreed!
But don't know why my SAHM friends are so busy till they got no time to meet. They live rather far away too. Then they asked me why I have so much free time :faint:
Once a month, I meet up with my best friend who is single for movies and karoke. She is also the one I chat through viber everyday
On a typical week, while kids are in school, I go gym alone, go aerobics/kickboxing classes alone, go shopping alone, watch online drama alone, read manga alone.
Actually during my younger days, I even go travelling alone when I couldn't find anyone whose schedule available to go together.
Fortunately I enjoy ME time very much but it's still good to meet old friends face to face to catch up or even do activities together. I think I need to get to know the neighbhourhood SAHMs but don't know where to start
So I only maintain friendly relationship with them. Lim kopi with them... Ekkk... I will avoid them cos I don't like to gossip. So I usually do my grocery marketing in another NTUC which is bigger and less likely to bump into them.
One GF and I are planning to travel to HK together maybe this year end. Our DH will be taking care of our DC when we two travel. The thought of it really excites me ! :imcool: :boogie: -
sleepy:
I don't fully home-school them. It's the summer vacation now so the kids are at home. But they will go to school in September! I still teach them the Singapore math and Chinese though. But it's so hard to manage it coz the baby is always wanting attention and the older ones will play with each other instead of work!
:salute:MummyThreeStreams:
I knew how to do housework, coz no maid before that, but it was a huge challenge to manage on my own with one child. 6 years later, I find myself overseas again with no help and with three children!!!
I was worried about how I would cope since I had a tough time the last time round. But I guess I have learnt a few tricks over the years! It has been much easier than anticipated. Very tiring coz I am on the job all day long with no help at all, but I am managing!! Have become very efficient! Good at delegating to my minions (DS1 and DS2) too!
Did you homeschool your kids?
I already with 2 kids. Factory closed permanently for 3rd.
Sometimes my mom would comment that we should have tried for a 3rd child. I asked her 'would you be helping to babysit?' She :siam:
End of discussion :rotflmao: -
I agree that no matter how busy we are at home we must go and do our own thing! So I arrange to meet friends at least once a week. Gotta bring kids along now coz no babysitter. In Singapore i used to go meet friends and exercise and leave the kids with the grandparents.
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One headache I have is got to remember the cost of items especially those we use regularly. Where, cost, weight... :slapshead: .
Sometimes can't remember n dh :nunchuk: . :stupid: -
SAHM here too
im a foreigner and we're living here in SG for almost 4yrs now. used to work in my home country but decided to be a SAHM when we relocated here.
it wasn't easy at first. especially with a toddler. but now, it is much more manageable and i get to have some ME time when DD is at school. she'll be in P1 next year so i'll have more ME time. :rahrah:
it is important for us to meet up with friends and have some ME time every once in a while. i go out with my single friend every month. just to eat out or have a massage or go shopping.
i also have some mommy friends but can't always go out with them because they are FTWM. we usually just see each other in birthday parties.
lately, i've been organizing some gimmicks with the GFs/wives of hubby's friends. i do this so i have something else to do with girlfriends. and so i can schedule it on my free time. hahaha. i also like going out with them because i can task hubby (and his friends) to take care of DD and for the guys to just stay home while the girls are out. :rotflmao:
i get burned out sometimes too. especially because we dont have help and i do everything. hubby helps a lot but it can still get very tiring. but if you'll ask me if i still want to be a SAHM on my down days, i'd still say yes. i just need a breather, but i won't give up.
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