Help! My 11 yo Daughter Back in Diapers..

[Lilac66]

HiDaddy:

Hi guys, I want to know your views on whether it is ok for me to change my daughter's diaper.


I put on the diapers for her occasionally, when my wife is busy and when I change her diaper when she comes home from school, since she is at work.

I am concern about whether she feels okay with it, especially since she is reaching puberty, but she seems very comfortable with the current arrangement. She is still unwilling to put the diaper on for herself since she leaked badly the last time she tried it. Now got 'phobia'.

I know this is a rather sensitive topic. I apologise in advance to those who may find this post inappropriate.. I want honest opinion. Thank you!

You are indeed a great father who tries all ways to help your DD. But I also feel that it's inappropriate for you to do it for her at this age. Your DD , with your encouragement, can try to slowly rid herself of this phobia. Maybe when she understands that daddy can't help too much at this stage that she'll try to do it.

Also, fyi, I do remember myself bedwetting when I was about 10 or 11. :oops: I did not feel good then, wondering what was wrong and reprimanding myself for causing so much trouble to my mum. But my mum did not bother too much about it other than airing the mattress (or maybe during those days, they are too busy making ends meet to care), and it just went away.

Hope my case will help you stay encouraged the problem will not be here to stay.But of course the communication betw your DD and DW is still vital.

[TwoTerrificTs]

HiDaddy:

Hi guys, I want to know your views on whether it is ok for me to change my daughter's diaper.


I put on the diapers for her occasionally, when my wife is busy and when I change her diaper when she comes home from school, since she is at work.

I am concern about whether she feels okay with it, especially since she is reaching puberty, but she seems very comfortable with the current arrangement. She is still unwilling to put the diaper on for herself since she leaked badly the last time she tried it. Now got 'phobia'.

I know this is a rather sensitive topic. I apologise in advance to those who may find this post inappropriate.. I want honest opinion. Thank you!

I myself would also think that it is rather inappropriate for you to do the task. I agreed with other mummies here that perhaps you could try to teach her how to put on the diapers herself.

Btw, I have been following this thread and I really think that you are a wonderful daddy. A 48hr daddy and your girl is fortunate to have you around. Sorry for being blunt, but maybe you can have a talk with your DW and brainstorm other options to help her instead. Maybe your DW should travel lesser and spend more time with her? I guess, this is what your DD wants, to have more quality time with her mummy. This is a very crucial age for our kids, am a mummy myself, I will forsake anything for the wellbeing of children.

Just my two cents worth. Hope I didnt offend you.

[HiDaddy]

Until now my daughter is still in diapers. The psychiatrist is monitoring the situation regularly and has said that its normal. Nevertheless I still tend to be worried, but her emotional well being seem to have improved.


I’m dissappointed with my wife though. I have discussed with her that our daughter is growing and that she needs to be more involve in looking after her, yet many times she just leave the checking and handling of the diapers to me.

[ammonite]

As a mother, I find this very strange. Maybe you can get a trusted female friend or relative to talk to her, or tell the psychologist to speak to her. I find it hard to believe that a psychologist would not point out the unusual dynamics if he or she should know of it.


By the way, psychiatrist or psychologist? Psychiatrists give out medication. Psychologists are more counseling and behavioral therapy. In my humble opinion as a layman and an outsider, I think you need a psychologist. If there is no improvement, I will change the psychologist to a more proactive one, especially with the gender tension and my spouse is not stepping up, putting me in a compromising position that does not help my child. at this sensitive age, you should also take steps to protect yourself from any unfounded accusations.

Sorry if I offend, but better be safe than sorry.... :imsorry:

[ngl2010]

Hi. I think your daughter should learn how to check and handle her diapers. She should not depend on you as her daddy. When we (mothers here at KSP) were around her age, we had to learn handling our sanitary napkins for our period. It sure is different but she should start learning otherwise when will she learn? There will be mistakes but we have to learn from mistake.


My son is 11 years old and he is already shy going naked around me.

You are a wonderful father but you must let your daughter handle her diapers herself. I remember my late father said something that he should not have said about sexuality when I was 11 - 12 years old. He did not violate me but the bad impression (I only understood the meaning of what he said years later) etched in my mind until now.

[HiDaddy]

ammonite:

As a mother, I find this very strange. Maybe you can get a trusted female friend or relative to talk to her, or tell the psychologist to speak to her. I find it hard to believe that a psychologist would not point out the unusual dynamics if he or she should know of it.


By the way, psychiatrist or psychologist? Psychiatrists give out medication. Psychologists are more counseling and behavioral therapy. In my humble opinion as a layman and an outsider, I think you need a psychologist. If there is no improvement, I will change the psychologist to a more proactive one, especially with the gender tension and my spouse is not stepping up, putting me in a compromising position that does not help my child. at this sensitive age, you should also take steps to protect yourself from any unfounded accusations.

Sorry if I offend, but better be safe than sorry.... :imsorry:

ngl2010:

Hi. I think your daughter should learn how to check and handle her diapers. She should not depend on you as her daddy. When we (mothers here at KSP) were around her age, we had to learn handling our sanitary napkins for our period. It sure is different but she should start learning otherwise when will she learn? There will be mistakes but we have to learn from mistake.

My son is 11 years old and he is already shy going naked around me.

You are a wonderful father but you must let your daughter handle her diapers herself. I remember my late father said something that he should not have said about sexuality when I was 11 - 12 years old. He did not violate me but the bad impression (I only understood the meaning of what he said years later) etched in my mind until now.

Precisely, I'm worried about her mental development. I cannot possibly handle such a sensitive issue for her. I have decide to let her manage her diapers on her own. I feel that is the only option, and I'll see what happens from here. Thanks for the advice

Also, psychologist, not psychiatrist. Sorry for the dumb mistake. The psychologist was refered to me by a close friend.

[mackiefoto]

hows your DD now