Providing For Parents in Singapore: Can We Give Enough?

[concern2]

Nebbermind:

keroppi:

[quote=\"Nebbermind\"]
even if cheap cheap rent out, still can have a few hundred $$$ and need not rely too much on our kids.

alamak, you undressed like that walk around the house all day, cheap cheap also nobody wants to rent. :rotflmao: Better think of alternative income.

If I see manikam, I sure go and buy bigger leaf 1st!![/quote] :rotflmao: :rotflmao: And make sure you own any fans at home!

[Lilac66]

dolphinsiah:

I have already planned and put my children and elderly parents welfare...if tomorrow I am gone.... :censored: :censored:

I have placed a lump sum of money to my mom's retirement account, which she can withdraw every month about SGD600...
This sum can last her until her 80s.... :roll:

I feel bad used to give her SGD2k....but now I earn ...4 person spend...so cannot afford to give her so much....

But SGD600 to survive in Singapore is not possible.... :gloomy:
But my mom I know she has keep a substantial amount in the FD/stocks... :moneyflies:


I told her about it and she rebutted me....
\"What !!! You are only going to support me until by 80s....I want to live until 100... \"\" :spank:
\"You only want me to live until 80s only....blah...blah....\" :spank:

That moment I felt like an idiot....
Cannot blame Mom... :scared:

She is getting old , uneducated...so money :moneyflies: :moneyflies: is her security.... :love:
She had a very unhappy childhood...was sold to work as a servant when she was 6....

Aged Parents can be so sensitive..... :?:

I put my kids and parents welfare first....
I now fear my retirement....really drain out... :snooze: :snooze:

You are already doing very great!! :salute:
I also feel bad about giving much less now, but at least I have a few siblings who chip in.

[Lilac66]

keroppi:

Lilac66:

Aiyoh Nebbermind, everwhere you appear, topic cannot be serious liao.. I was trying my best to keep a straight face and discuss. :slapshead:

Sorry, Lilac66. :imsorry:

Will try to be serious. Each time I see that Maple Leaf ... reminds me of the times when I used to pick them up and use as bookmarks :please:

Oh it's ok... I like a dosage of humor in serious threads also.. :evil: With nebbermind around, it's fun too.

[dolphinsiah]

keroppi:

dophinsiah, hugs to you. :grphug: Why your mum like that? You spoil her lah.


Some of the cleaners I know make only $600 per month and they are able still survive on it (that's my perception though).

Yes, I agree I spoil her...she's like a Empress at home....

Sometimes my daughter cannot stand her , and will tell her why you don't try to work ...she will reply ...no face....and start all her nagging....

Because of her constant nagging, it has caused me to have a submissive character...she loves $$$ :moneyflies: , so give her $$$$ :moneyflies: and she will feel secure....

She pre warned my kids, next time must give her allowance ...if not will march to their office....and give them a show down.....
Or she will flood our phones with SMS..... :scared:

I went through all these ....so I do not want my kids to go through it....

I survive till today because of my strong faith in karma....

No choice she is my mother... :scared:

So now every week I buy TOTO....just SGD1...
Hope to strike big.... :xedfingers: :xedfingers:

[sleepy]

Lilac66:

But for SAHMs, do you still give any allowance to your parents?

Yes I do.
My parents said only sons need to provide. Furthermore, I'm not working.
I disagreed. Must give la, token sum also better than nothing. I feel guilty if never contribute.

However, my brother provides the biggest chunk. I'm glad he can afford and even more grateful that he is willing to provide.
I'm a small contributor compared to him but a bigger contributor than my youngest brother

[concern2]

sleepy:

Lilac66:

But for SAHMs, do you still give any allowance to your parents?

Yes I do.
My parents said only sons need to provide. Furthermore, I'm not working.
I disagreed. Must give la, token sum also better than nothing. I feel guilty if never contribute.

However, my brother provides the biggest chunk. I'm glad he can afford and even more grateful that he is willing to provide.
I'm a small contributor compared to him but a bigger contributor than my youngest brother

Yes, one of the ways in working things out within the family is 有钱出钱，有力出力。 SAHM has more flexible timing, so can bring parents to hospital, visit them more regularly with kids and bringing them kai kai, - keeping them happy and enjoy 天伦之乐。Believe it or not, these are intangible things that helps keep them in good health and spirits too.

[Lilac66]

concern2:

sleepy:

[quote=\"Lilac66\"]
But for SAHMs, do you still give any allowance to your parents?

Yes I do.
My parents said only sons need to provide. Furthermore, I'm not working.
I disagreed. Must give la, token sum also better than nothing. I feel guilty if never contribute.

However, my brother provides the biggest chunk. I'm glad he can afford and even more grateful that he is willing to provide.
I'm a small contributor compared to him but a bigger contributor than my youngest brother

Yes, one of the ways in working things out within the family is 有钱出钱，有力出力。 SAHM has more flexible timing, so can bring parents to hospital, visit them more regularly with kids and bringing them kai kai, - keeping them happy and enjoy 天伦之乐。Believe it or not, these are intangible things that helps keep them in good health and spirits too.[/quote] :hi5:

[Funz]

I was brought up with these practises. Must give mum and dad allowance, must be home for dinner at least once a week, must celebrate CNY with family, must be present for any formal family gatherings which usually means death anniversaries, qing ming.


These will be some of the norms that I wish to pass on to my kids. Especially the once a week dinners. As for the allowance for parents, I will assume that it will be within their means. Of course if they are having financial difficulties, they have to take care of their own family first and stop giving us that allowance. And we as parents will definitely be happy to extend any help if they really need them.

[concern2]

Funz:

I was brought up with these practises. Must give mum and dad allowance, must be home for dinner at least once a week, must celebrate CNY with family, must be present for any formal family gatherings which usually means death anniversaries, qing ming.


These will be some of the norms that I wish to pass on to my kids. Especially the once a week dinners. As for the allowance for parents, I will assume that it will be within their means. Of course if they are having financial difficulties, they have to take care of their own family first and stop giving us that allowance. And we as parents will definitely be happy to extend any help if they really need them.

These traditions are good to keep. Complication often arises when members choose different religion, or start thinking all these as old-fashioned. That is when values start to differ and the 'system' starts to experience hiccups. In such cases, the individual's character within the family is tested, and you start seeing some true colors showing. Good or bad, But it sure makes things less than ideal and less straight forward.

[concern2]

Funz:

I was brought up with these practises. Must give mum and dad allowance, must be home for dinner at least once a week, must celebrate CNY with family, must be present for any formal family gatherings which usually means death anniversaries, qing ming.