All About Life Without Maids
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slmkhoo:
But won't it spoil the bra, esp those with wire?daranic:
How do you wash underwear? I have to wash all my kids' and my undergarments every day. Girls worse, have the bras too... find it very tiring. Do you use scrub and handwash? Or throw in the WM?
Everything in the washing machine. If stained, we soak with detergent overnight, then it still goes into the machine. -
not "pantang" mix with man’s clothing? i hand wash undergarments… cos since young my mum said woman undies cannot mix with man’s clothing… else they cannot prosperous… muahaha…so my girl will follow this custom…
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I know we all try very hard. Hope this story gives you a little more strength for the week ahead!
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV that the youth’s academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".
The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.
The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother’s hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother’s hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother’s hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth’s eyes, asked: "Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered," I cleaned my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes’
The Director asked,"please tell me your feelings."
The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, "This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company’s performance improved tremendously.
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent’s efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?
You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow grey, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done. — -
2ppaamm:
:thankyou: for sharing ! :lovesite:I know we all try very hard. Hope this story gives you a little more strength for the week ahead!
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.
The director asked, \"Did you obtain any scholarships in school?\" the youth answered \"none\".
The director asked, \" Was it your father who paid for your school fees?\" The youth answered, \"My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked, \" Where did your mother work?\" The youth answered, \"My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
The director asked, \" Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?\" The youth answered, \"Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.
The director said, \"I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: \"Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?\"
The youth answered,\" I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'
The Director asked,\"please tell me your feelings.\"
The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, \"This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop \"entitlement mentality\" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?
You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow grey, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done. — -
Gosh, 2ppaamm, your post makes me cry!
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2ppaamm,
What you’ve written is good! I’ve thought of stop writing here but come back again. Thanks for the effort taken to key in such long story. First question, is this a real one?
No wonder my DH has been asking me to let go my hands to let the children do all those things they can manage by themselves, like folding their own clothes, now including ours, cleaning the floor, tidying the living room & their tables, hanging clothes, going to school on their own, making their own breakfast drinks, washing the dishes & the toilets too. At first, hard to let go cause use to doing them. But later, learn to let go so now I’m more free.
Recalled in my younger days, my mum’s work needs a lot of standing. Happened to c her legs showing green veins, it did pains me when I c my dad rub oilments on her feet. In the end, I also take part, help to rub her feet. She always said you must be tire, can stop already but I told her wait after I rub it 100x and I continue to count 1-100 while rubbing before I stopped. Mothers are always great but I don’t feel I’ve done that much as compare with my mum.
Your story moved me & I’ll remember to spare some time for her while busy with my own family. -
I heard this story many years ago, and don't know whether it is true or not, but my friend shared it with me so I share it here again.
I have a friend who is exactly like that, his mother was a washer woman and he grew up in expensive houses, being the son of the washer woman who will stick around the house. He subsequently went to MIT and became a scholar and now a very famous entrepreneur. If you see him at speeches, he will talk about his past.
Indeed, it is so much easier to get external help than to push ahead and do everything ourselves, and even harder to get the kids involved. At the end of the day, if we refuse to give up, I am sure we will see the fruit of our labour, so will the children. As I look at the burnt marks (careless this week lah), from all the cooking, I sometimes wonder if all those years of education might have been better used to generate more $$$, but when I look at the children, I am reminded we do not exist as a singular, but as a group of people working for the good of the community (or the home), or a bigger whole.
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I must be a slave driver… My child can
- fold his Clothes and towel.
- hang his socks and undies
- unpack his childcare centre bag
- keep his stuff
- set the table for meals
And he is just four. I want him to know how to 生活。and I believes 生活 includes taking care of oneself and doing chores. besides, I don’t have a maid. So it makes sense to get him to help and learn along the way.
But still, I do most of the chores and handle the harsh detergents. -
slmkhoo:
:hi5: oh yes, that little guy was so proud of himself and his stack of folded clothes and towels
I'll join you then! My kids could do these things at 4yo too, and I've added a few more along the way (they are teens now!). I think that it's good for a child to contribute a little to the home, and it makes them feel good too.Imami:
I must be a slave driver.... My child can
- fold his Clothes and towel.
- hang his socks and undies
- unpack his childcare centre bag
- keep his stuff
- set the table for meals
And he is just four. I want him to know how to 生活。and I believes 生活 includes taking care of oneself and doing chores. besides, I don't have a maid. So it makes sense to get him to help and learn along the way.
But still, I do most of the chores and handle the harsh detergents.
Yes, as they progress, it makes sense to assign them new tasks. -
Imami:
:hi5: oh yes, that little guy was so proud of himself and his stack of folded clothes and towels
I'll join you then! My kids could do these things at 4yo too, and I've added a few more along the way (they are teens now!). I think that it's good for a child to contribute a little to the home, and it makes them feel good too.slmkhoo:
[quote=\"Imami\"]I must be a slave driver.... My child can
- fold his Clothes and towel.
- hang his socks and undies
- unpack his childcare centre bag
- keep his stuff
- set the table for meals
And he is just four. I want him to know how to 生活。and I believes 生活 includes taking care of oneself and doing chores. besides, I don't have a maid. So it makes sense to get him to help and learn along the way.
But still, I do most of the chores and handle the harsh detergents.
Yes, as they progress, it makes sense to assign them new tasks.[/quote]Seems like the norm for kids without a maid. Now my eldest (8 yo) resembles me when she scolds her mei-mei(s) for messing up the place or refusing to pack their bags. I am proud to say she is like a little 'mummy' to her sisters, tying their hairs, washing up the dishes and all but the scolding like the mother... hmmm... that i have a sligh issue.
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