In-law problems?

[fifiyeo]

janet_lee88:

fifiyeo:

Anyone out there with in-laws pressure as far as kids' exam results are concerned?

My DS will be condemned if he doesn't do well.

Mine here couldn't be bothered. She is more worried whether she has money to stash and to buy cigarette.

Lucky you! DS, DH and I are going to be condemned and smack with sacarstic remarks. Rather insults.

[janet88]

Hi fifi,

If mine here has anything to compare, it will be which kid gives her the most pocket money :mad: other than that, she knows nuts.

[fifiyeo]

Hi Janet,


Oh same here. If we have a few thousand dollars for MIL instead of a few hundreds to spend every month buying the lastest whatsoever brand, then I’m sure our status would be very different.

[Pinky Piglet]

Seem like I am not the only one who is facing prob with mil…

I try to keep a distance from her nowaday

[janet88]

fifiyeo:

Hi Janet,


Oh same here. If we have a few thousand dollars for MIL instead of a few hundreds to spend every month buying the lastest whatsoever brand, then I'm sure our status would be very different.

If she gets a few K every month, she will be puffing like a chimney.
Don't want to bother about her now...energy level is channelled towards hubby and kids.

[mummy so kiasu]

jedamum:

jawcee74:

I think i agree not to see each other so often, maybe like once a month or durring CNY, Family get together or kids birthday.

How will we as parents feel if our kids only visited us once a month or during CNY and other special occasions only?

Sometime it is not easy to stay with in laws. However, visiting them once a week is not that tough. Our kids are watching & learning from us all the times. By not visiting our parents or in laws will give our kids the same message. (It is OK if I don't visit my parents often or maybe just during CNY) We have to put ourselves in their shoes, we want our kids to visit us often when we grow old too.

[pinky]

fifiyeo:

Anyone out there with in-laws pressure as far as kids' exam results are concerned?

My DS will be condemned if he doesn't do well.

my husband has 11 other siblings and they tend to compare exam results all the time. The worse are his sisters who always ask me 'so how many As did your son score this time?'. Still remember the SMS they sent when the PSLE results were released. My son was still at home but they already asking me how many points he scored??? :slapshead:

[mummy so kiasu]

pinky:

fifiyeo:

Anyone out there with in-laws pressure as far as kids' exam results are concerned?

My DS will be condemned if he doesn't do well.

my husband has 11 other siblings and they tend to compare exam results all the time. The worse are his sisters who always ask me 'so how many As did your son score this time?'. Still remember the SMS they sent when the PSLE results were released. My son was still at home but they already asking me how many points he scored??? :slapshead:

Sound very stressful to both kids & parents. It is very unhealthy to compare your kid's performance with others as all kids have different abilities. Parents should give encouragement regardless how small is the improvement & the kids will do better.

[janet88]

pinky:

fifiyeo:

Anyone out there with in-laws pressure as far as kids' exam results are concerned?

My DS will be condemned if he doesn't do well.

my husband has 11 other siblings and they tend to compare exam results all the time. The worse are his sisters who always ask me 'so how many As did your son score this time?'. Still remember the SMS they sent when the PSLE results were released. My son was still at home but they already asking me how many points he scored??? :slapshead:

:nailbite: just thinking of the comparisons during my time. I hate that feeling because I have a cousin of the same age and her mother compared everything from young :slapshead: damn sickening.
Fortunately my kids only have one cousin.

[pinky]

I hate the comparisons so I always remind my son that he has only himself to compete - making sure that he made efforts to do better than the previous tests/exam.

My husband is the one who get all stressed up especially if my son does better than some of his nephews/nieces and he will go around consoling everyone of them which I find rather :siao: . but if my son performs worse than them he goes :stompfeet: really :slapshead: