Would you keep her?

[verykiasumummy]

hi hiaweh,


my experience is that i’m always slapped in my own face whenever i give chances… u may think that since nothing happen, u should give chance to her… exactly what i have thought initially… but when things happen, that’s too late…

i can understand the dilemma u r having since u cant afford to lose a helping hand… i suggest that u let her go and look for a replacement… if money is not a problem, hire a nanny after ur birth and therefore the new maid with the nanny will be tiding u through the whole period…

[verykiasumummy]

but whatever it is, discuss with your dh and see what he thinks… maybe he has better solution for u since he knows u better…

[peapot]

Hi hiaweh, I will let her go immediately. She left the door unlocked jeopardise your family safety and believe me there will be a second time. Infact inform agent to let her know her mistake so that she won’t repeat it in the new employer’s house. I will always send bad maids back so that they won’t have any chance to try their tricks on new employers.

[Hiaweh]

Actually there have been occasions where she took our kindness for granted but we just let it pass coz it’s a small matter. But this time she really went over the limit and it compromise our safety although our place has security surveillance.


We still have time to find a replacement but it’s just that we might not have enough time to train her and for the kids to get used to the new maid before my bb comes along. And also it’s very tiring for me to run the household all alone given my current condition. But we have decided to let her go but now it’s whether we want to hang on to her a little longer until we find a replacement.

[Sun_2010]

Hiaweh:

Actually there have been occasions where she took our kindness for granted but we just let it pass coz it's a small matter. But this time she really went over the limit and it compromise our safety although our place has security surveillance.


We still have time to find a replacement but it's just that we might not have enough time to train her and for the kids to get used to the new maid before my bb comes along. And also it's very tiring for me to run the household all alone given my current condition. But we have decided to let her go but now it's whether we want to hang on to her a little longer until we find a replacement.

If she is behaving well now, keep her till you find replacement.
Are you a SAHM? Then Take the door keys and access card from her. Hand those to her only when it is necessary for her to go out and then take it back.

While I do trust my maid, every night after checking the main door locked, I take the keys and keep then in my bedroom drawers. Just as a precaution. And when I go on vacations, i add another lock on the door whose keys she never has access to. So no one can have a complete set of duplicate keys to my house. I think so easy for a maid to be manupilated into giving her key to a guy who may get a duplicate set. Maybe I am paranoid. :siao:

[Hiaweh]

Sun_2010:

Hiaweh:

Actually there have been occasions where she took our kindness for granted but we just let it pass coz it's a small matter. But this time she really went over the limit and it compromise our safety although our place has security surveillance.


We still have time to find a replacement but it's just that we might not have enough time to train her and for the kids to get used to the new maid before my bb comes along. And also it's very tiring for me to run the household all alone given my current condition. But we have decided to let her go but now it's whether we want to hang on to her a little longer until we find a replacement.

If she is behaving well now, keep her till you find replacement.
Are you a SAHM? Then Take the door keys and access card from her. Hand those to her only when it is necessary for her to go out and then take it back.

While I do trust my maid, every night after checking the main door locked, I take the keys and keep then in my bedroom drawers. Just as a precaution. And when I go on vacations, i add another lock on the door whose keys she never has access to. So no one can have a complete set of duplicate keys to my house. I think so easy for a maid to be manupilated into giving her key to a guy who may get a duplicate set. Maybe I am paranoid. :siao:

Yes she is still behaving normally but dunno when she will be up to her mischief again. We dun use keys in the estate. All with key access card so even if she doesn't bring our key card, she can still go out but that means leaving our door unlock so that she can come in again without making too much noise. But the only question is that if she had left the lobby then she won't be able to come in again because lobby need card to access unless someone else is also coming in.

[POA Teacher]

straffan23:

I think you can approach this calmly when your DH is back. Just sit her down and ask her nicely. Maybe she did something innocent - like going out to cry (homesick); or to borrow someone's phone? Instead of saying you saw your front door unlocked, can you bluff and say that you have a camera at the front door. You know who comes in and out and when. So if she is up to mischief, she will think twice. Or, if it makes it more believable, you can say your neighbor has a camera on their front door and it caught her going out?

Sorry, but you are a gullible one aren't you?
Going out to cry? borrow someone's phone? ... in the dead of the night?

[hquek]

It sounds like you are leaving in a condo, and based on what’s been shared, I kinda think she may be in the block all that time. If you want to know what went on, and the lobbies have cameras, go to the management office and ask. They should have cctv footage - if she was seen exiting the lobby, you know she went out; else it could be someone who came IN. In that case, you may like to consider if the safety of your family is worth it.


All the best to your impending delivery!

[Power Puff]

I understand your present diffivult condition. That the maid has compromised your family safety intentionally leaving the main door umlocked and hoping to sneak back into the house is enough reason for me to immediately terminate her employment. You’d never know what else she could be sneaking out of or into the house.


It was a good thing you found out before you delivered! Find a local part-time nanny in the meantime while looking for a new helper. The current one may take greater advantage of your vulnerable condition and heavy reliance on her to also start demanding this and that.

hquek could be right that the maid might not have gone out but stayed within the compound or even block. Just to share with you…my cousin who lives in Malaysia was also puzzled how his maid who was married with kids got pregnant despite staying in most of the the time. Found out later that she had been having an affair with the compound’s security guard. They had their nocturnal adventures in the guard’s rest room within the compound.

[Hiaweh]

I have approached the management regarding the cctv but they have yet to come back to me. I think regardless of whether she’s in the compound or not, our safety was compromised and more so during the times when my dh is not in town.