Government, what you really want us to do?
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ksi:
This one I have to agree with vks2010 because having maid off on sunday is not the problem of not coping only but having to deal with maid's lack of responsibility, integrity etc...all these are the excruciating pain. I even let my maid go on long weekend holiday outside Singapore on her own.... In the end.... *sigh*....... I thought it was just one maid but in the end...I realised the mentality all similar..... This is a bigger issue....they need to be educated with work ethics first.
3Boys, you are right.verykiasu2010:
[quote=\"3Boys\"]The title of this thread should really be \"People, what do you really expect the g'ment to do?\"
People expect everything to be laid out on a platter. I luurve PM's riposte during the televised session last week to the young man who said he didn't want to get married. Well, our parents had far fewer resources and safety nets, never stopped them from having hopes and dreams and daring to try right?
Maid off every weekend so difficult to deal with meh?
But maid off every weekend and its related problems are a separate matter which had been debated to death. it is totally not difficult to deal, if the MOM can change the rules that make employer liable for all kinds of troubles created by maids being off, eg unwanted pregnancy and all its related cost and troubles
other troubles like unwanted visitors to employer's residence, maid scooting off in the dark of night to rv with lovers, endless chatting on phone during day time, neglect of duty, addicted to facebook, twitter, sms .....all arise from maids having off day.
we have been through all these debates countless times. not going to go through it again. prefer to keep my peace with you than to argue another time
maid or no maid should not be an issue with marriage / parenthood
In fact I would advocate that raising kids should not rely on maids at all. Better to have parents' or family network to help for adhoc and childcare for daily needs or one parent to look after if there are many kids to care for. If need help for housework, use part time help.[/quote]Agree agree.. I feel blessed that i do not have (or need) a maid..
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sleepy:
9pm ? for lower primary ok, but up to 11pm for p6 is not too bad
I forced mine to sleep early. Problem is she couldn't finish her homework as she returned home around 4pm twice to thrice a week. Next day teacher made her ē½ē«. Her classmates managed to finish theirs so comparatively she seems slacked in her completing her homework. But her classmates slept at 11+pm while my dd's bedtime is at 9+pm. Hence she's cute and chubby which is more important to me than completing homework :evil: -
ksi:
NS has changed.. 2 weeks after enlistment, they can return home weekly...unlike in the past...[/quote]no, what i meant was, NS could not change their 'entitlement mentality', and because these days NS seems \"softer\"
this is the strawberry generation that is sprouting now. even NS is not changing themverykiasu2010:
[quote=\"3Boys\"]
In other words, the yuppie generation need everything laid out on a platter, a bit of sacrifice is a no-no.
they have the entitlement mentality set in at an early stage of their life, much like the 'little emperors' of China in recent decades
:siam: the NS boys feel even more entitled, made worse by molly coddled to be able to return home so soon so frequently
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verykiasu2010:
mine in lowest upper primary is still 9pm.
9pm ? for lower primary ok, but up to 11pm for p6 is not too badsleepy:
I forced mine to sleep early. Problem is she couldn't finish her homework as she returned home around 4pm twice to thrice a week. Next day teacher made her ē½ē«. Her classmates managed to finish theirs so comparatively she seems slacked in her completing her homework. But her classmates slept at 11+pm while my dd's bedtime is at 9+pm. Hence she's cute and chubby which is more important to me than completing homework :evil: -
ksi:
Teacher doesn't accept any 'excuse' or even give her chance to explain. Didn't complete equal ē½ē« :rant:
Like that you can get her to talk to the teacher about how to manage this better. Long term ē½ē« not very good perception on her. I had the same issue earlier and would ask dd to let the teacher know ahead that the hw would be delayed due to 'xxxxx' and ask for another day's grace.sleepy:
I forced mine to sleep early. Problem is she couldn't finish her homework as she returned home around 4pm twice to thrice a week. Next day teacher made her ē½ē«. Her classmates managed to finish theirs so comparatively she seems slacked in her completing her homework. But her classmates slept at 11+pm while my dd's bedtime is at 9+pm. Hence she's cute and chubby which is more important to me than completing homework :evil:
Throughtout term 1 & term 2, I thought she's doing her work too slowly and hence always rushing her to complete quickly so she can go to bed early.
Recently, I have the opportunity to meet quite a number of her classmates and all of them said they slept really late :faint:
Anyway, I insist bedtime is non-negotiable. -
verykiasu2010:
no, what i meant was, NS could not change their 'entitlement mentality', and because these days NS seems \"softer\"
NS has changed.. 2 weeks after enlistment, they can return home weekly...unlike in the past...ksi:
[quote=\"verykiasu2010\"]
this is the strawberry generation that is sprouting now. even NS is not changing them
they have the entitlement mentality set in at an early stage of their life, much like the 'little emperors' of China in recent decades :siam: the NS boys feel even more entitled, made worse by molly coddled to be able to return home so soon so frequently[/quote] :hi5:
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sleepy:
Teacher doesn't accept any 'excuse' or even give her chance to explain. Didn't complete equal ē½ē« :rant:
Like that you can get her to talk to the teacher about how to manage this better. Long term ē½ē« not very good perception on her. I had the same issue earlier and would ask dd to let the teacher know ahead that the hw would be delayed due to 'xxxxx' and ask for another day's grace.ksi:
[quote=\"sleepy\"]
I forced mine to sleep early. Problem is she couldn't finish her homework as she returned home around 4pm twice to thrice a week. Next day teacher made her ē½ē«. Her classmates managed to finish theirs so comparatively she seems slacked in her completing her homework. But her classmates slept at 11+pm while my dd's bedtime is at 9+pm. Hence she's cute and chubby which is more important to me than completing homework :evil:
Throughtout term 1 & term 2, I thought she's doing her work too slowly and hence always rushing her to complete quickly so she can go to bed early.
Recently, I have the opportunity to meet quite a number of her classmates and all of them said they slept really late :faint:
Anyway, I insist bedtime is non-negotiable.[/quote]When teacher behaves like this, I would step in because activities until 4pm I assume is in the school as well, it is also part of school's activities and they have to be realistic with the children. Either teacher has to give some leeway, usually they will understand. I also feel bedtime is non-negotiable because by using bedtime to do this, then each day the lack of rest stack up is even more counterproductive. -
Melodies:
:goodpost:First, you encourage all women to work and make contribution to the society. So, women work.
Second, you want baby. Who is going to look after baby? So, FTWM have few options of either become SAHM or hire maid or get grand parents support, Infant care centre etc. So, most FTWMs have resorted to hire maid and have support from grand parents. Though it is tough to cope, some FTWMs still can manage to coach school goer at night n weekend for homework and revision if school does teach well. However, some FTWMs work long hour, some do not know how to coach, all these FTWMs have no choice but to outsource to Tuition.
Then, you said, maid need weekly off-day and also make it mandatory now. FTWMs have to manage both housework and coaching now. Some have maid problem ever since the maid goes out..
This is not enough, you said old folks need to work until 75 yo. :faint: Left FTWMs with very little supports now.
All those policies have further tightened all FTWMs' hands, legs and minds.. Just wonder how to have more babies?, how not to have tuition and how to further work with piece of mind? :slapshead:
Some becomes a SAHM, as little support from parents (who need to work till old, or stay far away) to help look after their children, cannot trust maids to look after kids without any \"supervision\".
Put in childcare also need someone to pick them up, if the young kids are sick, need someone to look after them. SAHMs till have lesser subsidies compare to FTWMs. -
Oppsgal:
Just mention that, for adhoc, use parents' or family network. Parents' network means have a few SAHM friends staying nearby around the same area to help one another out for adhoc stuff.
Put in childcare also need someone to pick them up, if the young kids are sick, need someone to look after them. -
ksi:
I also don't trust others (except childcare with open concept , and parents) to look after kids in preschool age, incase anything happen.
Just mention that, for adhoc, use parents' or family network. Parents' network means have a few SAHM friends staying nearby around the same area to help one another out for adhoc stuff.Oppsgal:
Put in childcare also need someone to pick them up, if the young kids are sick, need someone to look after them.
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