Need an advice on office relationship matters
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Joule:
coz prc (*)(*) look up on us......
somehow it's always China women. Do they know something local women don't? (why no korean? Japanese? mongolian - getting exotic here)
korean, Japanese (.)(.) look down on us.....
don't
if u disagree with me...
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12:01...
PRC didn't dropped me any messages asking me out for lunch so I was a bit relieved but I would honestly say that I was waiting for her. :oops:
12:02pm..
Walked past my desk, stopped and she asked hurriedly \"you want to go out for lunch or you'll just take it later?\".... split second decision... should I or not................................................................. I saw her nice sweet eyes... I was weak.
Some other guys were at the lobby and I asked them where they are goin', and they said \"Carl's... \" I was thinking that it would be a good excuse for them to be with us but I don't feel like eating burgers especially in a very heavy food in Carl's Jr. I asked her, \"you like to eat burgers...?\" She was like \"... no... you?\" I was honest to say that I also didn't like to go there so we parted ways with the other 2 guys. We were about to go up to Food Court but I was thinking that we always go there so I offered Yoshinoya instead in which she much preferred. When I was about to pay, she said \"Don't worry about it, it's on me\" I hesitated since it's not our culture that a woman will pay for our meal but I thought, \"I paid for our previous meals so...\" I just joked around \"We should have went to more expensive restaurant, not this fast food.\" She just smiled \"yeah....\" The sweetness of her smile's killing me so I'm trying not to look at her too much. I'm starting to feel more 'comfy' to her in the sense that I can be just a friend to her.
We started talking, she was a fast eater, a bit turn off for me but maybe that's just the way she is. She didn't order any drinks since she said that \"Miso soup is enough\" Odd for me, maybe it's a Chinese culture in eating that I don't get. I had Sprite. Anyhow, it's a pretty relax moment... we started talking about how she is on handling our cases in office then the topic about relationships opened. How she only had a BF for like 6 months back in China in a long distance relationship that they just talk everyday but don't meet too much so they had to end it.. that was 4 years ago. She asked about my wife how I met her and I told her that it was similar to her that we were in a long distance relationship but were dating for several years. I think she was ok with this conversation and then we came into discussion about marriage that she prefers to be alone (single). I told her that she's just alone because the \"circumstance of some guy approaching you is zero\" but she said that there's some China architect guy is trying to win her for a while now but she doesn't like him. She said that she doesn't see the point of getting married at an early age, she's 26. At this point of our conversation with our relationship, I guess I'm beginning to know her more. I'm actually becoming to be more of an adviser at this time telling her to actually 'look for you goal in life instead of just saving money with no clear resolution what you want'.
I'm actually much better now that she's opening up more about herself. I still admit that whenever she smile or when I look at her, there's still a bit of physical attraction. I still feel though that there's something more about her, she mentioned as well that she's actually \"Childish\" but she's composed when we speak most of the time... perhaps due to boss / subordinate relationship but today was a bit different.
How do you women digest what happened today? -
BeContented:
not all parents love kids but parents will love their own... u r a gd example of independent women, not to depend on men and let them have their way... its an \"equal\" world now!! i support u and inspires myself to be 1..
Actually I will not fight for custody of my kids if ever we divorced due to 3rd party. But I will demand access.verykiasumummy:
i've heard of 6 cases of office romance with PRCs n i'm really hating it...
the worst case was that the dh hooked with a PRC secretary and in the end preggie.. the dw finally triggered the last straw and left the dh w/o kids.. fyi, she has 3 sons with the dh and has abandon them totally... looking at the dw's actions, u know how much she suffer... where on earth will mum dun want own child!! the dh must be too much so the dw is now taking revenge... see how to PRC is going to take care of total 4 kids...!!
Simple reason. I have given up a good part of my life to be a SAHM & take care of family & his parents so that DH can concentrate on his work without worries. Since DH loves his kids a lot, so I'm sure he would take good care of them in my absence. As for me, I would need to try to re-establish my new life, get a job etc hence it would be tough if I still have to take care of kids. If he has any doubt about his new lover's ability/willingness to take good care or treat his kids well, he better think thrice about EMA. I'm not going to let him have the easy way out by & enjoy best of both world. If he is worried for kids or new lover may not want to 'inherit' the kids, it might serve as a deterrent to EMA. (won't work for those who does not love their kids tho) -
Valvestate, you are toying with fire....
If you are strong enough...then fine....it not you will become like this: :torchme: -
valvestate:
You ARE enjoying yourself.12:01...
PRC didn't dropped me any messages asking me out for lunch so I was a bit relieved but I would honestly say that I was waiting for her. :oops:
12:02pm..
Walked past my desk, stopped and she asked hurriedly \"you want to go out for lunch or you'll just take it later?\".... split second decision... should I or not................................................................. I saw her nice sweet eyes... I was weak.
Some other guys were at the lobby and I asked them where they are goin', and they said \"Carl's... \" I was thinking that it would be a good excuse for them to be with us but I don't feel like eating burgers especially in a very heavy food in Carl's Jr. I asked her, \"you like to eat burgers...?\" She was like \"... no... you?\" I was honest to say that I also didn't like to go there so we parted ways with the other 2 guys. We were about to go up to Food Court but I was thinking that we always go there so I offered Yoshinoya instead in which she much preferred. When I was about to pay, she said \"Don't worry about it, it's on me\" I hesitated since it's not our culture that a woman will pay for our meal but I thought, \"I paid for our previous meals so...\" I just joked around \"We should have went to more expensive restaurant, not this fast food.\" She just smiled \"yeah....\" The sweetness of her smile's killing me so I'm trying not to look at her too much. I'm starting to feel more 'comfy' to her in the sense that I can be just a friend to her.
We started talking, she was a fast eater, a bit turn off for me but maybe that's just the way she is. She didn't order any drinks since she said that \"Miso soup is enough\" Odd for me, maybe it's a Chinese culture in eating that I don't get. I had Sprite. Anyhow, it's a pretty relax moment... we started talking about how she is on handling our cases in office then the topic about relationships opened. How she only had a BF for like 6 months back in China in a long distance relationship that they just talk everyday but don't meet too much so they had to end it.. that was 4 years ago. She asked about my wife how I met her and I told her that it was similar to her that we were in a long distance relationship but were dating for several years. I think she was ok with this conversation and then we came into discussion about marriage that she prefers to be alone (single). I told her that she's just alone because the \"circumstance of some guy approaching you is zero\" but she said that there's some China architect guy is trying to win her for a while now but she doesn't like him. She said that she doesn't see the point of getting married at an early age, she's 26. At this point of our conversation with our relationship, I guess I'm beginning to know her more. I'm actually becoming to be more of an adviser at this time telling her to actually 'look for you goal in life instead of just saving money with no clear resolution what you want'.
I'm actually much better now that she's opening up more about herself. I still admit that whenever she smile or when I look at her, there's still a bit of physical attraction. I still feel though that there's something more about her, she mentioned as well that she's actually \"Childish\" but she's composed when we speak most of the time... perhaps due to boss / subordinate relationship but today was a bit different.
How do you women digest what happened today?
You ARE happily making all sorts of excuse to spend time with her. :spank:
You ARE Definitely enjoying yourself reading all the responses from us
If yours is a real case, my last posting here cos I can't bear to read it anymore. Good luck to your family.
If it's not, you have fun. -
BeContented:
yes i agree too... i cant stand seeing u enjoying to \"just taking a quick look\" and all those reactions like those in εΆεε§... this is so wrong and betraying!!
You ARE enjoying yourself.valvestate:
12:01...
PRC didn't dropped me any messages asking me out for lunch so I was a bit relieved but I would honestly say that I was waiting for her. :oops:
12:02pm..
Walked past my desk, stopped and she asked hurriedly \"you want to go out for lunch or you'll just take it later?\".... split second decision... should I or not................................................................. I saw her nice sweet eyes... I was weak.
Some other guys were at the lobby and I asked them where they are goin', and they said \"Carl's... \" I was thinking that it would be a good excuse for them to be with us but I don't feel like eating burgers especially in a very heavy food in Carl's Jr. I asked her, \"you like to eat burgers...?\" She was like \"... no... you?\" I was honest to say that I also didn't like to go there so we parted ways with the other 2 guys. We were about to go up to Food Court but I was thinking that we always go there so I offered Yoshinoya instead in which she much preferred. When I was about to pay, she said \"Don't worry about it, it's on me\" I hesitated since it's not our culture that a woman will pay for our meal but I thought, \"I paid for our previous meals so...\" I just joked around \"We should have went to more expensive restaurant, not this fast food.\" She just smiled \"yeah....\" The sweetness of her smile's killing me so I'm trying not to look at her too much. I'm starting to feel more 'comfy' to her in the sense that I can be just a friend to her.
We started talking, she was a fast eater, a bit turn off for me but maybe that's just the way she is. She didn't order any drinks since she said that \"Miso soup is enough\" Odd for me, maybe it's a Chinese culture in eating that I don't get. I had Sprite. Anyhow, it's a pretty relax moment... we started talking about how she is on handling our cases in office then the topic about relationships opened. How she only had a BF for like 6 months back in China in a long distance relationship that they just talk everyday but don't meet too much so they had to end it.. that was 4 years ago. She asked about my wife how I met her and I told her that it was similar to her that we were in a long distance relationship but were dating for several years. I think she was ok with this conversation and then we came into discussion about marriage that she prefers to be alone (single). I told her that she's just alone because the \"circumstance of some guy approaching you is zero\" but she said that there's some China architect guy is trying to win her for a while now but she doesn't like him. She said that she doesn't see the point of getting married at an early age, she's 26. At this point of our conversation with our relationship, I guess I'm beginning to know her more. I'm actually becoming to be more of an adviser at this time telling her to actually 'look for you goal in life instead of just saving money with no clear resolution what you want'.
I'm actually much better now that she's opening up more about herself. I still admit that whenever she smile or when I look at her, there's still a bit of physical attraction. I still feel though that there's something more about her, she mentioned as well that she's actually \"Childish\" but she's composed when we speak most of the time... perhaps due to boss / subordinate relationship but today was a bit different.
How do you women digest what happened today?
You ARE happily making all sorts of excuse to spend time with her. :spank:
You ARE Definitely enjoying yourself reading all the responses from us
If yours is a real case, my last posting here cos I can't bear to read it anymore. Good luck to your family.
If it's not, you have fun. -
BeContented:
Hmm... now, this response is a bit uncalled for. Pardon me but, did you really read my post and understand it or just quickly glanced it?
You ARE enjoying yourself.
You ARE happily making all sorts of excuse to spend time with her. :spank:
You ARE Definitely enjoying yourself reading all the responses from us
If yours is a real case, my last posting here cos I can't bear to read it anymore. Good luck to your family.
If it's not, you have fun.
I guess I'm just enjoying the company but that's IT. And what's with \"You ARE Definitely enjoying yourself reading all the responses from us\" I'm glad that you are all participating in this thread but this is not for personal enjoyment but rather to just express out my feelings on this public random people on the net. Am I touching her or making any move... NO. Am I starting a flirtatious relationship? I guess NOT. Especially with what we've just conversed earlier.
Just wow... unsure which emoticon I need to use here. -
Spiderlily:
I totally agreed with you. My friend's sis case was published in the newspaper yesterday. She jumped from her apartment, 15 storey and her children were doing home works at that time. Heard her son called the hb to inform him that mum jumped down. Love DH more than children.. ε°δΈ heard is Vietnamese. Haiz..
Do not pity the dead but the living. Poor kids.chrismei:
Just to share- friend's sis committed suicide recently cos hb had an affair and insisted on divorce. She left behind 2 sons and was SAHM for 2 years. Hb moved back to his mum's place after requesting for divorce. Before she committed suicide, she left a note that identified the 3rd party,hb's friends who encouraged him to divorce n also requested her hb's uncle to celebrate hb birthday after she gone...she loved him so much n wasted 16 yrs with him just becos of this 3rd party..
There is NO POINT looking back unless it is to see how far you have come or to recheck direction. We move forward in life. If she was able to pull herself together and build a new life for herself and her children, I am sure she will win the admiration and respect of her children and regain her self-esteem. If she had wanted to shame the third party, she could have just gone to kick up a ruckus since she knew who that woman was.
I called and scolded the women, and in one case, threatened to go down to the office and track down her parents. She was so scared she hung up on me but I forced her to call me again. I told her to take my husband, I don't want him, but I'm going to make sure that everyone in her office and her family knows about it. I was ready to burn bridges. Two calls. She quit and left.
Wives! Take pride in yourself and your abilities! The world will not, does not, end just because your husband cheat on you! I walk with my head high. We have done nothing wrong, we do not owe anyone an explanation. If you must take revenge, take it out on the credit card, the car, the cheating couple, but never spite yourself and your kids.
Anyway, we are side tracking. Valveestate's saga continues. -
This wow?
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verykiasumummy:
i think this thread has attracted a group of ppl here to follow the story line..... including me of course...
yes i agree too... i cant stand seeing u enjoying to \"just taking a quick look\" and all those reactions like those in εΆεε§... this is so wrong and betraying!!
i can't wait to see how this story develop and end..... hopefully happy ending....
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