Recommendation of changes to reduce Stress for PSLE

[Nebbermind]

Chenonceau:

janet_lee88:

There will be changes to Science, Geography, Math & maybe history for next year 's Sec 1...our kids are just done with PSLE :faint:

Hah? Really ah? Anyway... dun panic yet. Wait and see how the kids cope first lor... gotta let go sometime. In their teens, they also wanna be left alone to feel good about being able to cope. Dun panic yet. Most people I talked to don't think secondary school is too bad at all.

Yalor! Donch need to panic. Whatever change, every kid will be affected. It may just change in the way that will benefit your kid Remember, there are at least 40,000 kids out there facing the same sh!t!

[Brenda10]

mamago:

janet_lee88:

5 days a week - 4 subjects in primary school.

5 days a week - 8/9 subjects in sec school + longer hours. Not quite possible to be easier. Still I have to learn to let go one day.

I give myself time to relax and recuperate in the meantime.

Dear Janet,

In Sec 1, there are new subjects like History, Geography, Design and Technology, Home Econ on top of EL, CL, Math and Science they had taken during the primary school. They are also various CCA with once a week, twice a week or three times a week based on what you have chosen. They are also having group project and may be individual project (I guess). I’m also surprise that they even have to form a team for the PE grading assessment. As you are aware that I have backed to the workforce since last December and in fact I have less time for DD and she has to manage herself. Perhaps due to they are using the slate PC, most of the homework could have done online during the school or before I back home. FYI, I seldom see DD doing homework at home and so far her results are still alright and seems like they have these mini test per subjects after learning a few topics... Beside all these, she is also preparing her piano grade 7 exam for next Feb/Mar and she is still having time to read those EL and CL novels like Harry Potter series and CL novels as well as on line watching her favourite comics.

Therefore, just relax and not to worry too much about Secondary One.

Just my 2 cents thought

[Nebbermind]

janet_lee88:

5 days a week - 4 subjects in primary school.

5 days a week - 8/9 subjects in sec school + longer hours. Not quite possible to be easier. Still I have to learn to let go one day.

I give myself time to relax and recuperate in the meantime.

We also had the same no. of subjects when when were in secondary school. You had a more relaxed secondary school life? :scratchhead:

[Lilac66]

Nebbermind:

janet_lee88:

5 days a week - 4 subjects in primary school.

5 days a week - 8/9 subjects in sec school + longer hours. Not quite possible to be easier. Still I have to learn to let go one day.

I give myself time to relax and recuperate in the meantime.

We also had the same no. of subjects when when were in secondary school. You had a more relaxed secondary school life? :scratchhead:

During my sec days, I remember I had only 7 subjects leh

[janet88]

I admit I wasn't very ON when I took my PSLE :oops:

My mum didn't really push but then stakes weren't so high. Now, it's 'payback' time...short of walking into exam hall to sit for them.

As for sec school, lagi worse...returned to the school after I was done with O levels.

[mummy so kiasu]

DKWhy:

Sec schools, esp Sec 1, are definitely tougher than primary school coz of additional and some more ‘alien’ subjects (history, geography, etc). It is common to see average marks hover around 60s and 70s and for those who just manage to ‘squeeze’ themselves into super schools via extensive and if-never-give-will-die coaching, around 50s if these kids’ coaching is removed.


It is also therefore NOT THE TRUTH to say that sec school will be less ‘stressful’ than PSLE. They are just different.

But kids who have mastered enough self learning skills in their early years will not suffer so much in sec schools coz chances are they will have the ‘inbuilt mechanism’ akin to ‘survival instinct’ to auto learn to adjust, adapt and survive within manageable stress. This ability comes from those chances that were given to them by not-so-KC and not-so-KS parents when they were allowed to learn to swim on own. This natural innate ability either can be built slowly or can also be taken away slowly by their very own parents during their early years.

For those kids who have been hand-held for so long, there is a high chance that they need to be handheld further into sec schools and maybe into JC and perhaps into their uni years as this may seem to be the only way that they KNOW they can float. It is a ‘pattern’, a learnt sense of helplessness that they are so used to that if removing the tuition, they may TANK!

So parents you do have a choice to be KC and KS ttm / face green green or choose to be concerned-enough parents who give only adequate support (never over support) for your children to discover their own path / way. Emphasising here is adequate support when the family and kids still can have a good balanced life that can be fun and fulfilling and not over-support till straining almost everyone.

Real butterflies emerge themselves with their own efforts from their cocoons. Those who are forced to be butterflies will end up in no where.

Sow the seeds and reap your own returns.

I hope more not-so-KC and not-so-KS parents can lend your voices to balance this forum, else it fits the saying of “Three People then Tiger Becomes Real” (I can’t type Chinese). I can read some KC parents fanning some of the KS parents and then all sing together in ‘harmony’. Do new parents a favour to support the motion of primary school education indeed doesn’t need to be so stressful for the family and the children and that it is really manageable.

Sometimes ignorance is a bliss. Cannot imagine highly educated people ‘scared’ of primary school education to the extent of not willing to have kid / more kids when it is just so a tiny part of a child long journey in this wonderful life. New inexperienced parents must be ‘frightened’ by such reading!

Good to give support them in their early years of education. We have to gradually let go as we can't support them forever. It is time to train them to be independent learners as there will be more projects in Sec schools. They have to learn where & how to get the resources they need. Not forgetting that some of us still have a younger one to support.

[mummy so kiasu]

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[janet88]

Hi mummy so kiasu,

After 6 years of hand-holding, I agree with you it’s time for me to learn to let go…can’t be holding his hand till Sec 4. Next stage is how to handle a teenager…another stage in life.

[KSP]

mamago:

janet_lee88:

5 days a week - 4 subjects in primary school.

5 days a week - 8/9 subjects in sec school + longer hours. Not quite possible to be easier. Still I have to learn to let go one day.

I give myself time to relax and recuperate in the meantime.

船到桥头自然直。。。。

(Don't worry too much, whatever will be, will be...)

once i heard one parent jokingly said in education there is no such thing as 船到桥头自然直 only 船到桥头自然沉 :rotflmao:

anyway by the time they reach S1 they are more matured and can learn thing in more effective way....

[janet88]

KSP:

mamago:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]5 days a week - 4 subjects in primary school.

5 days a week - 8/9 subjects in sec school + longer hours. Not quite possible to be easier. Still I have to learn to let go one day.

I give myself time to relax and recuperate in the meantime.

船到桥头自然直。。。。

(Don't worry too much, whatever will be, will be...)

once i heard one parent jokingly said in education there is no such thing as 船到桥头自然直 only 船到桥头自然沉 :rotflmao:

anyway by the time they reach S1 they are more matured and can learn thing in more effective way....[/quote] :xedfingers: hope so.
But I really held his hands tight this year from Jan and even tighter from August. My hubby advised me to let him take over :nailbite: