Working Parents - How much quality time do you get weekdays?
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I must say I am quite fortunate as I get tons of quality time.
I have a maid and she does all the housework. The rest of my time is spent on KSPing and teaching my children their work
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I have a maid and she does all the housework.[/quote]That's right. The truth is that for full time working mothers who have kids, a maid is essential. Unless the hubby can do all the housework, but how many of us have hubbys who can really help ?
Many working mothers gave up after encountering a few bad maids.
I sent away 7 maids before I found a very good one. Read about my maids here :
http://singaporemaid.blogspot.com/2009/08/about-my-maids.html
There are good maids out there. We have to keep looking.
There are full time working mommies who put their kids in infant/childcare, and then still have to do the full load of housework at home. I know I cannot take this type of hardship, and I think it is very unfair for a woman to do everything at work and at home. The hubby must do all the housework, if not, then a good maid is essential. -
EatNonStop:
Wake up at 10. Eat leisurely breakfast that turns into lunch. Go to kino/borders. Swimming, scooting in afternoon if weather permits. Watch a movie on TV together (his choice). Dinner. Read side by side. Read bed time story to him. Sleep at 11/12.Hi mummies
How about Weekends? How do u spend time with the kids?
No enrichment class cos still young/no interest. Assessment worksheet is done on weekdays cos weekend is to chill. -
At my previous workplace, I only reached home at 8pm & I was dead tired from work everyday. My boy attended CCC & my parents or hb will pick him up at 5pm. They’ll bring him to the park to play then go home to shower & have dinner. When I’m home, he’s already showered & fed, so I have my meal and play with him. & I still had to do my work (marking & lesson prep) which could not wait till he fell asleep due to the sheer volume of work.
Now that my boy’s not attending CCC anymore and I’ve changed my workplace plus work arrangements, I reach home around 1-2pm, sometimes 3pm. Just nice my boy will wake up from his nap at 2-3pm, if I’m home early I’ll nap with him or prepare teaching materials for him. When he wakes up I’ll play with him & read with him. Then he’ll head downstairs to cycle with my maid or go off for his enrichment classes while I’m giving tuition. When he’s back, my lessons also end & we hv quite alot of time to play.
I normally do my personal things (surf net, etc) after he falls asleep.
I think my current work arrangement is way better than my previous workplace. Income also slightly more due to tuition & my hb can relax abit & spend more time with my boy. -
tamarind:
The truth is that for full time working mothers who have kids, a maid is essential.
Kekekeke, tamarind, I get my kids to do the housework instead!
Savings for me + training for them... 一举两得
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clarabella:
How about since birth to 2 years old ? I have 2 kids age only one year apart. I do admire those mommies who can manage without any help. However, for myself, I prefer to have some time so that I can live my own life.tamarind:
The truth is that for full time working mothers who have kids, a maid is essential.
Kekekeke, tamarind, I get my kids to do the housework instead!
Savings for me + training for them... 一举两得
My mother told me, even if we devote our entire life to the kids, there is no guarantee that they will look after you at the end. -
tamarind:
How about since birth to 2 years old ?
DH and I struggled to do everything ourselves lor. It was tough as we were overseas when our older kids were just a toddler and an infant; both of us were working and/or studying. -
I can identify with the woes of working moms. I have been a FTWM all this while but now with my 2nd child entering P1 next year I am considering whether to go part-time.
My 2 girls are in morning session, that leaves me with little time in the evenings because they need to sleep early. Managing my elder daughter was ok last year but with 2 its going to be tough. I estimate that I have around 1 to 1.5 hrs with them on weeknights the most. Have asked hubby if he is willing to help with 1 of them
As for the weekday afternoons, I have tried to make a list of things that need to be done before I get home & train them to read the list and complete it - such as homework, assessments & piano practise. I put the list on the board and allow them to tick off once completed..to give them some sense of ownership.So far it has been quite successful abt 70% of the time but there are days when they do not complete the list. I remind them by calling home in the afternoons and I tell them if they finish their work before I come back, we will have extra time to play games or doing fun stuff instead of work.
But its tough balancing work and kids, many of my daughter's friends mums do not work so occasionally I get a bit of the guilt trip from my daughter. -
I’m also considering applying to work part-time when DS1 starts P1 (that’s another 2 more years) as I don’t see how I can split my time between the two of them. Right now I’m already deprived of time with them. As things are really hectic at work these two months, I have not really been able to take leave to spend time with them.
In the meantime, I just continue spending on whatever kids stuff that catches my eye. Will have to be more careful about spending if I eventually work part-time. -
clarabella:
tamarind:
How about since birth to 2 years old ?
DH and I struggled to do everything ourselves lor. It was tough as we were overseas when our older kids were just a toddler and an infant; both of us were working and/or studying.
If the hubby can help out with most of the housework, then it should be manageable without maids.
But many working mommies do not have hubbys who can help, and the mommies end up doing everything themselves.
My hubby was raised by servants, he does not even know how to wash his own cup. He always say that he wants to help, but after he mop the floor, the floor is still dirty
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