Growing old

[Lilac66]

Sarcha ,it must be really fun having such a big family gathering where EVERYONE looks forward to it.

[prancingpony]

Sun_2010:

When your son sees this often, he will imbibe it too. And if he likes it maybe once in a way , he can spend his time too with her doing his thing.

Yes, Sun_2010, hopefully we can all set by example...:)

[SarChar]

Lilac66:

Sarcha ,it must be really fun having such a big family gathering where EVERYONE looks forward to it.

Now I am not sure if it is EVERYONE..... :imcool:

For growing old together, I am very scared of being the last one standing with 22 kids. DH is 8 yrs older. Eldest BIL is 21 yrs older......I am the youngest DIL.

I worry about having to go through 20+ funerals and then having to grieve all of them. DH thinks I am being silly n emo here.

DH once said \" at least after a few times, you will know what to do (to prepare the wake) \"

He also said \"finally you can sit the red table!\" :scared: meaning as each IN-LAW finally passes away, it will soon be my turn to sit at the red table during wedding dinners of our 22 kids's children. So lame, my DH.

[Lilac66]

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I like how your DH turned a grim topic into such a light-hearted one. This one needs special talent you know?

[prancingpony]

Hi SarChar, I have heard this saying that 1 mother can take care of 10 children but not all 10 children can take care of 1 mother. Obviously that is not the case in your big family and it is so nice to know how well you all get along! Both of your parents are truly blessed!

[prancingpony]

I would like to share this video that i came across in YouTube. Some of you may have seen it. It made me cry the first time I saw it.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql5odcCvrbg

[mummy so kiasu]

prancingpony:

I asked my one and only 15 year old child/son whether he will take care of and live with me if I am alone. He says see how and what his wife says!!!! My dh says he's too young and i should not be bothered by the answer!

He is just giving you a very honest answer. Most of us busy with our own families & don't stay with parents or in laws. Even if your boy takes care of you when you grow old, you still need to have
your own friends & keep yourself occupied when he is busy with work.

[mummy so kiasu]

prancingpony:

I asked my one and only 15 year old child/son whether he will take care of and live with me if I am alone. He says see how and what his wife says!!!! My dh says he's too young and i should not be bothered by the answer!

He is just giving you a very honest answer. Most of us busy with our own families & don't stay with parents or in laws. Even if your boy takes care of you when you grow old, you still need to have
your own friends & keep yourself occupied when he is busy with work.

[dun_waste_time]

Kamp:

I think all parents and elders need to have some old age homes and assisted living at some reasonable price, which provide all necessity and luxuries facilites for them to live comfortably. Along with 24/7 nursing facility. As therer are some awesome old age home projects are working around some countries.

although still quite a young couple, at least young at heart :), me and my wife have already started planning what to do during old age. Seriously, i mean we are seriously planning.

We would be working harder now, so that we can enjoy our rewards later in life. Kids would probably have their own world, i mean look at most of us now. I mean, i still have meals 3 - 4 times a week with my parents, but that's about it. I would provide them with allowances as well. But how my mom spends her time? She goes to KTV at CCs, and go for courses and participate in CC activities.

For me and my wife, we know that most probably our kid will have her own life too. We are looking at places for us to really spend our remaining years.

Unfortunately Singapore is slightly too expensive for older folks. We are just looking across the causeway. We have a place in Singapore, but we are just looking around. Especially the Iskandar, Malacca, and Penang area.

What i can say, is that, hopefully we would not have to depend on our kid, and of course my kid does not have to depend on us too...

[SarChar]

Xmas is coming…everyone is excited about the 50-pax party at my place! Then my girl decided to invite her 6 friends to the same party…I was liked…how can I deal with 22 family kids plus 6 extra!


Panic mode!