Is your workplace pro-family?
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straffan23:
hmmm. ah.If the situation is reversed....
I previously managed a team of 5. We were in the IT industry then and life was hectic and forever busy; but I recall how I always made it a point to make sure that one of the female staff knock off early enough to pick her kid up from the nanny. Many times, I ended up being her chauffer, sending her to fetch her kid and dropping her off. Something I can do in 30mins driving, but it would take her over an hour with public transport.
The time-keeper nazi said, no, she will not understand (the issues of a FTWM) because she hasn't got a family yet. But she apparently has been so sick for so long (working all 4 days in the last 4 weeks!!)... she must be either pregnant, else she might be terminal?
Like a colleague pointed out today... precisely, because she was only there one day a week, and that was the day we were late... so all the other days doesn't count! :siao:
And sometimes, people just don't make sense, right? Yes, if I arrive early everyday and start the day with breakfast at the table (like mrs nazi), that is okay... if they cannot have my soul they want my body present, anyway. :rotflmao:
Yes. I totally agree. My situation is sometimes I come in late. But I don't take 1.5 - 2 hr long lunches or teabreaks! Eh hello, don't need to work ah?
back to topic. Sometimes the way boss speaks to you can be misinterpreted. One of my friends had her kid sick and so had to rush off from work to cc to pick up. Her boss was a bit clueless that day and ask her to file time off thru sms(meaning officially report to HR that she left 1.5 hrs early). This lead to her being upset for the whole night and tears in the office the next day. Until the boss explained to her it was a miscomm, he purposely wasn't trying to be anal or give her a hard time.
on the personal side I quite like working with aunties. They talk nicely to people and they can get their work out of you (admin and stuff). Along with that they probably have grown kids so they might be more experienced in settling work disputes which happen time to time. Best part is sometimes they bring food that they make to the office for us to eat. = ) And they give me chance to practice my broken hokkien. -
When I was about 7-8 wks pregnant with DD1, and my boss asked me to take a 2 wk business trip to Honolulu and Chicago. But I said no.
My boss said to me \"do you think pregnant dont need to eat\"
Huh? He meant \"pregnant must also work\".
But I didnt go...in the end, 911 happened! Everyone was struck there with little food for extra 4-5 days and no flight out of Hawaii. I went to Temple and prayed :thankyou: -
Wa! Heng Ah!!
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you all have no idea manh!
Even at 8 months pregnant, he kept me working on some reports till almost 9pm…
Before I left the office, I went to him and said " Actually I am not hungry but she is " pointing to my swollen belly. -
SarChar:
Your boss is a slave driver!!! Crazy!!! Karma..you all have no idea manh!
Even at 8 months pregnant, he kept me working on some reports till almost 9pm....
Before I left the office, I went to him and said \" Actually I am not hungry but she is \" pointing to my swollen belly. -
My ex-boss was very pro-family. He has 3 children and always encouraged me to have three as well. And then he would mumble and grumble about \"but probably not a very smart thing for a boss to say to his staff!\". When I was pregnant, he had a talk with me. He told me, don't take MC if I am not really sick - e.g. if I cannot make it to the office in time, just let him know and let others know. But better come in late or come in 1/2 day than take MC and not come in at all. :evil: Sometimes he sees my face at 4pm, low batt, he just tell me... no point - go home, lah!
On the good days we worked till 9pm and then I told him, \"We are hungry... let's go eat dinner together?\"
The first thing he said to me when he visited me at the hospital was \"Wife said now you are someone's mother... so I cannot take up so much of your time! Otherwise you will leave me. Did you consipire with wife?\" Three months later when I went back to work, the first thing he said to me was a lecture on breastfeeding :oops: and how I can/should continue to express milk and all his wonderful idea how I can do it. :oops: :oops: :oops:
Gotta love this guy, right? Unfortunately, he left the organisation.... -
Your boss is the REAL boss har...like the business owner?
Think most of our bosses still a company employee
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My immediate boss and most colleagues were very kind throughout my two pregnancies. On average, I report late for 1-1.5hours and immediate boss just help me endorsed when computer dept issued late scan in reports weekly. I reciprocate by giving back the hours via shorter lunches and over time. Colleagues no complaints as it is better that I late and still do my share than I quit and they need to take over my load
So when my fellow colleague got pregnant,I extended my help willingly as I had received the same kind of support from others. But this is not workplace family friendly.it only appliesto our team as different managers handle their team differently. I was so lucky! -
I have a love-hate relationship with my boss. He had given me a lot of opportunities at work. But he sure made me work hard! Today I no longer report to him but we still share a bond. He always never fail to remind me \"why did you leave me?\".........ya why....BECAUSE YOU MADE ME WORK LIKE A COW\" :rotflmao:
Actually I used to manage a team of 7 people in my current local office. At any time, only 2 persons can be out of office. I always get a heart attack when I get a SMS in the morning. It usually means someone need to take urgent leave or will be on 2 days MC. I also had to give priority to my team taking off days before I would plan mine.
Imagine once I heard Colleague A said she would have 40 days leave next yr. She meant \"20 days leave + MC 14 days + 6 days Child Leave\" to me. Really got such people okie :yikes:
As a woman, a mother and then their manager, I would not do to them what my boss did to me. To some people, a job is a job and just a job. I can understand and accept that. But for me, it is a career. :oops:
It is definitely not a glam glam job to manage people. After more than 10 yrs, I requested a transfer to another department. Today i report only to HQ and has no more reporting staff. I must say I am much happier. :evil: -
jedamum:
Yes definitely. From what I see, it is always from some individuals. My ex-boss was one such person. He is married but no kid. So there are gaps of understandings when it comes to childcare etc. He was clueless but he always show understanding (even when he acTually didnt understand. Eg he didn't know that hfmd can mean 2 weeks mc and therefore, a working mom may have to take two weeks off work). But he always gave me and our team all the privileges he could extend wihtin his authority.My immediate boss and most colleagues were very kind throughout my two pregnancies. On average, I report late for 1-1.5hours and immediate boss just help me endorsed when computer dept issued late scan in reports weekly. I reciprocate by giving back the hours via shorter lunches and over time. Colleagues no complaints as it is better that I late and still do my share than I quit and they need to take over my load
So when my fellow colleague got pregnant,I extended my help willingly as I had received the same kind of support from others. But this is not workplace family friendly.it only appliesto our team as different managers handle their team differently. I was so lucky!
Because of how he had led by example, I followed his way of doing things. I have to say I am \"not that kind\" as compared to him. Me Being a new manager, he would always tell me to love my subordinates as if they are my siblings. He said he could sit in his place and be freed to do strategy work because he had me manning the operations. So he must treat me well and in turn, I should treat my team well because they \"cheong sua cheong hai\" with me. So I should also treat them well.
Ah..... Great wisdom and kindness.
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