Club SAHM

[Blobbi]

Not at all, autumnbronze. Tks for reminding us we’re doing this for our kids’ future. It’s so heartening to visualize a close and warm relationship with our kids when they’re older.


I’m not a true blue SAHM - have been working to supplement, because there is this joy of going for an occasional spa or buying books and toys for my son that I find hard to justify to my husband. Like a lot of you, I’m too used to earning my own keep from an early age, so it doesn’t feel good to stretch out my hand to ask, sigh.

When I look back I’m sure I made the right decision to quit full time. The time spent with my son is so precious and wonderful - I’m smiling as I type this now. Working part time during the school term is fine, but during school holidays like now, it gets harder because I have to leave him at home in the morning. Tk goodness I’m free from this coming week, hurray!

So I’m considering what I should do next year. I have a more permanent, better paying part time job (the sort that threatens to become full time because of the nature of the job) lined up, but I’m wondering if I’ve bitten more than I can chew, since my son starts P1 next year. I’ll probably delay till we’re settled into the new routine. Yes, there are priorities, sigh.

[sleepy]

blurqueen:

i've 'temporary retired' from work soon after I got married for about 11 years now although my kids didn't come till much later (not our choice but God's).


I miss working so much but with 2 boys on separate sessions, P2 and K2 next year, I simply can't find the time to do anything however, i do try to sneak 1-2hr of self time when i've to wait for kids during their enrichment classes.

Our kids are of the same age

I intentionally place them in separate session so that I can spend individual time with them. Not much me time, I have to bring dd2 along for facial Kids at this age are nice companions though. We can do lots of things together, movies, shopping, run errands, extra hands to carry grocery bags

[sleepy]

autumnbronze:

blurqueen:

Blobbi



I miss the personal $ part on being a SAHM. Find it hard to ask hub for $ to indulge on myself. I feel I need to justify my expenses since I'm not the one earning those dollars. The sacrifice we moms go through, I wonder would our kids appreciate it?

Blurqueen, you echoed my sentiments. I also feel the same way asking him for $$. At the moment though, I am supplementing my allowance from DH by giving tuition - but I can only take in one class, thats all and its only a temporary stint cuz due to past circumstances, if and when I do get pregnant again, I will have to cease what I am doing.

Blobbi:

I'm not a true blue SAHM - have been working to supplement, because there is this joy of going for an occasional spa or buying books and toys for my son that I find hard to justify to my husband. Like a lot of you, I'm too used to earning my own keep from an early age, so it doesn't feel good to stretch out my hand to ask, sigh.
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I must be the most 理直气壮 housewife then. No guilt in spending DH's money

I guess I already way exceeded his expectations by staying home so 'anything also can' as long as I continue to stay home

However, DH knows very well that I'm a thrifty person. So no worries about me spending. More of justifying that purchase to myself rather than him

[blurqueen]

Sleepy,


Actually my kids are 2002 and 2003.

DS2003 was due 2004 but decided to pop 2 months early As if being borned premie is not bad enough, he has to be a year end baby.

DS2003 has loads of issues, not sure if it's a result of being borned premature. As such, we're keeping him back 1 more year to let him mature and nurture his independence and learning abilities. Am glad we get more time to also work with his therapies which takes up at least 3 days a week.

Am also glad they're going to be in sep sessions so I get to spend 1-1 time with them till they finally \"meet\" in school when DS2003 is in P3. No fun trying to make them study together as they always give help to each other! they also fight too much when put together. haha pros and cons i guess.

[Happymoon]

SAHM wannabe here. Can I find out from more experienced SAHP if I should have a timetable everyday for DS who is 5? Can share wif me how you spend weekdays wif ur children?

[kiasimom]

Happymoon:

SAHM wannabe here. Can I find out from more experienced SAHP if I should have a timetable everyday for DS who is 5? Can share wif me how you spend weekdays wif ur children?

Personally, I think at the age of 5, just let your DS enjoy and play at his own free time.
Timetable can wait till he is older, like P1.

I did that for both my children.

Don't wanna deprive them of their childhood.

[Happymoon]

kiasimom:

Personally, I think at the age of 5, just let your DS enjoy and play at his own free time.
Timetable can wait till he is older, like P1.

I did that for both my children.

Don't wanna deprive them of their childhood.

Thks, kiasimom. Was feeling kinda guilty cos my DS plays whole day (during hols) while my colleague sends her 6 yr old DD to 6 different enrichment classes (hols or not) each wk. Wondering if I'm not kiasu enough.

[blurqueen]

Happymoon:

Thks, kiasimom. Was feeling kinda guilty cos my DS plays whole day (during hols) while my colleague sends her 6 yr old DD to 6 different enrichment classes (hols or not) each wk. Wondering if I'm not kiasu enough.

What is wrong with a child playing all day? Being a child, he/she is entitled to play and play and play! What's a childhood without play?

DS1 plays all day too even at P1. He only goes for a Chinese tuition since we're a English speaking family. My neighbor is like your colleague and the drilling started since birth (no kidding!). I too wonder if I needed to be more kiasu? End of the day, both boys got similar results and streamed to the same class in school. 1 boy studied all day, one played all day.

Just ensure the child's play has at least some sort of learning process. I don't encourage too much media games. Still prefer the \"do it yourself\" types which DS invents himself to play with his bro. Since they were 3, I let them have a rather free hand on cutting (yes, even handling childproof scissors), sticking, using everything they get their hands on (with permission of course). They have loads of fun making their own toys!

[Mum_2Gals]

Hi Happymoon,


My dd1 is also 5, going K2 next yr Besides half-day CC, she only attends piano class once a week. Hee, maybe I'm also not kiasu enough Her 6yo cousin has phonics, English, Maths and Chinese classes, all on weekends :!:

[blurqueen]

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