In-law problems?
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verykiasumummy:
haha..i din see it tat way, ok lah i take back my words....
cannot say like tat... next time my dc's spouses will also wish they hv no in laws... means want us to d....i....e.... soon izit?? take back ur words.... take back ur words....contentedSAHM:
actually my issue is not with sil, i am ok with DH footing the bill, it is i am pissed with MIL's comment that 这是应该的...why must she pass this kind of remark, like DH owes it to her ....in the 1st place, she doesnt look after my children and she doesnt even cook for us whenever we visit her
i hv 2 sils, this one who is bringing MIL on hol is reasonable, cant speak for other one who is more well-to-do and takes advantage of my DH !
I wish i have no in laws at all ! -
contentedSAHM:
\"I wish i have no in laws at all \" i like this statement. My friend will also wish that they will pass on peacefully. But it will not happen so soon :rotflmao:actually my issue is not with sil, i am ok with DH footing the bill, it is i am pissed with MIL's comment that 这是应该的...why must she pass this kind of remark, like DH owes it to her ....in the 1st place, she doesnt look after my children and she doesnt even cook for us whenever we visit her
i hv 2 sils, this one who is bringing MIL on hol is reasonable, cant speak for other one who is more well-to-do and takes advantage of my DH !
I wish i have no in laws at all ! -
mommylow:
Try asking your DH whether he minds being taken advantage of by your own parents and siblings. Will he still be so obliging and accommodating and says so petty for what? Bottom line is, blood is thicker than wàter.[/quote]i hv given up talking to DH abt his siblings, if i can tolerate, I just bear with it unless it gets really unreasonable I will air my disagreements with him ,even so he may agree with me (by keeping quiet), he will not proceed to \"correct\" his mother or sisters/brothers...it may stop for a while but the whole nonsense will begin its cycle again after a while....
actually there are days instead of getting mad at Mil and Sils for taking advantage at DH, I sometimes think the main person to blame is not them but DH himself for knowingly allowing himself to be taken as a fool. If highlight these stuff to him, he always asked ahy so petty and that he is willing to be taken advantage of. I want to hot my head against the wall....sorry I needed to vent !!!contentedSAHM:
[quote=\"contentedSAHM\"]actually my issue is not with sil, i am ok with DH footing the bill, it is i am pissed with MIL's comment that 这是应该的...why must she pass this kind of remark, like DH owes it to her ....in the 1st place, she doesnt look after my children and she doesnt even cook for us whenever we visit her
i hv 2 sils, this one who is bringing MIL on hol is reasonable, cant speak for other one who is more well-to-do and takes advantage of my DH !
I wish i have no in laws at all ! -
SAHM Chew:
Just to share, I know of friends and colleagues who will cook for lunch and keep a portion for dinner. They told me it is much more convenient to cook lunch and if the left over is not enough for dinner, they will taobao some other foods to add-on. This way a lot of time saving for cleaning up. It's just the habit of individual.
My mil has tons of tupperware, but she is not using. Not that she do not know, but rather, is her habit. She had been buying food at 12pm for the past 20 -30 yrs n had kept them in this way on the dinning table, eating them at night for dinner. My hb n sil also eat the same food, so they think i am crazy, to get so upset abt food that is kept for more than 4 hrs at room temperature. But the issues are, i have food posioning fm eating the food.
Strangely enough, my mil like to buy more than what she can consume, then kept in fridge one day later, n throw them out after mths n mths in fridge.now, i swear never to eat the food that she bought
For my family, this can't happen as dh and the kids will not want to eat the same food for lunch and dinner. -
pacetone:
pacetone,
Just to share, I know of friends and colleagues who will cook for lunch and keep a portion for dinner. They told me it is much more convenient to cook lunch and if the left over is not enough for dinner, they will taobao some other foods to add-on. This way a lot of time saving for cleaning up. It's just the habit of individual.SAHM Chew:
My mil has tons of tupperware, but she is not using. Not that she do not know, but rather, is her habit. She had been buying food at 12pm for the past 20 -30 yrs n had kept them in this way on the dinning table, eating them at night for dinner. My hb n sil also eat the same food, so they think i am crazy, to get so upset abt food that is kept for more than 4 hrs at room temperature. But the issues are, i have food posioning fm eating the food.
Strangely enough, my mil like to buy more than what she can consume, then kept in fridge one day later, n throw them out after mths n mths in fridge.now, i swear never to eat the food that she bought
For my family, this can't happen as dh and the kids will not want to eat the same food for lunch and dinner.
I am not particular about cooking extra food for dinner. I am VERY particular about how the food is KEPT from lunch time to dinner time... usually, i will placed the leftover in the fridge, n heat it up during dinner time. My MIL bought the food at lunch time, 12pm, and store it at room temperature up to 8pm for herself, FIL, SIL n DH.
To them, they hv been eating like this for 20-30 yrs...... but i RATHER DO NOT take the risk and feed them to my kids... and as you can see... she will not buy my share and the kids' shares as i will prepare food for myself n my kids...
(PIL, SIL, DH are so used to outside food, that they do not take homecooked food, as MIL do not cook even she is SAHM. When i cooked, when i offered, she denied my food as she find it tasteless, she like to put tons n tons of soya sauce in her food. so after 10 yrs of staying with her, n offering numerous times, i know that she will not eat, so i do not ask her anymore.)
But she would like to pinch her food n offered to my kids when i did not see it (her 6-8 hrs room temperature food) and make me real mad!
sometimes, she kept old chang kee's curry puff overnight in room temperature and ask my kids to eat it the next day. :mad: :mad:
Sometimes, she offered mouldy bread to my kids.....
and just to add, last time, when we are still on good terms, she packet curry chicken, or curry veg, she will also buy at 12pm, and kept at room temperature to 8pm. then my kids will start eating dinner 1st, 5 to 10 mins earlier than me, and then, when I tasted the curry, it had gone bad.... and my poor kids.. they ate it as they do not know.... :rant:
I am fine with any food if MIL KEPT the food properly.... but if not, then pls, stay away from my kids.... I am the MAMA BEAR! -
mommylow:
Told hubby many times his old folks' flat CANNOT be sold until both pass on.janet_lee88:
She and her angmoh husband are like vultures. When they came back last year and stayed at parents place...they didn't fork out a single cent.
By no means you mil should ever sell her house, not when she is still alive. Dun let it happen. Where will she stay then? She will become your responsibility once she has no place to stay and your scheming sil will certainly not take her in. Seen a lot of such cases already.
I know one of his brothers said he & wife will house them, then sell the flat. That fella is capable of doing anything. That sister of his is very simple minded, controlled by a scheming husband. His family is like one of those mediacorp productions. -
SAHM Chew:
pacetone,
Just to share, I know of friends and colleagues who will cook for lunch and keep a portion for dinner. They told me it is much more convenient to cook lunch and if the left over is not enough for dinner, they will taobao some other foods to add-on. This way a lot of time saving for cleaning up. It's just the habit of individual.pacetone:
[quote=\"SAHM Chew\"]
My mil has tons of tupperware, but she is not using. Not that she do not know, but rather, is her habit. She had been buying food at 12pm for the past 20 -30 yrs n had kept them in this way on the dinning table, eating them at night for dinner. My hb n sil also eat the same food, so they think i am crazy, to get so upset abt food that is kept for more than 4 hrs at room temperature. But the issues are, i have food posioning fm eating the food.
Strangely enough, my mil like to buy more than what she can consume, then kept in fridge one day later, n throw them out after mths n mths in fridge.now, i swear never to eat the food that she bought
For my family, this can't happen as dh and the kids will not want to eat the same food for lunch and dinner.
I am not particular about cooking extra food for dinner. I am VERY particular about how the food is KEPT from lunch time to dinner time... usually, i will placed the leftover in the fridge, n heat it up during dinner time. My MIL bought the food at lunch time, 12pm, and store it at room temperature up to 8pm for herself, FIL, SIL n DH.
To them, they hv been eating like this for 20-30 yrs...... but i RATHER DO NOT take the risk and feed them to my kids... and as you can see... she will not buy my share and the kids' shares as i will prepare food for myself n my kids...
(PIL, SIL, DH are so used to outside food, that they do not take homecooked food, as MIL do not cook even she is SAHM. When i cooked, when i offered, she denied my food as she find it tasteless, she like to put tons n tons of soya sauce in her food. so after 10 yrs of staying with her, n offering numerous times, i know that she will not eat, so i do not ask her anymore.)
But she would like to pinch her food n offered to my kids when i did not see it (her 6-8 hrs room temperature food) and make me real mad!
sometimes, she kept old chang kee's curry puff overnight in room temperature and ask my kids to eat it the next day. :mad: :mad:
Sometimes, she offered mouldy bread to my kids.....
and just to add, last time, when we are still on good terms, she packet curry chicken, or curry veg, she will also buy at 12pm, and kept at room temperature to 8pm. then my kids will start eating dinner 1st, 5 to 10 mins earlier than me, and then, when I tasted the curry, it had gone bad.... and my poor kids.. they ate it as they do not know.... :rant:
I am fine with any food if MIL KEPT the food properly.... but if not, then pls, stay away from my kids.... I am the MAMA BEAR![/quote]hi, i just wanted to highlight to you that mouldy bread should NEVER be eaten,there was a medical program on TV that happened to discuss abt mouldy food, and the doctors on the panel said that even if 1 slice is mouldy you have to discard the whole loaf, unlike cheese where you can just cut away the mouldy parts. And also a few yrs ago, there was a news article about an old man (dunno in SIN / Msia, I cant recall) who died from poisoning as he had eaten a piece of mould bread. -
contentedSAHM:
Contented,
hi, i just wanted to highlight to you that mouldy bread should NEVER be eaten,there was a medical program on TV that happened to discuss abt mouldy food, and the doctors on the panel said that even if 1 slice is mouldy you have to discard the whole loaf, unlike cheese where you can just cut away the mouldy parts. And also a few yrs ago, there was a news article about an old man (dunno in SIN / Msia, I cant recall) who died from poisoning as he had eaten a piece of mould bread.
Thanks for the reminder. But it was MIL that offered to my kids when i am not looking. By the time i saw, it was too late. -
Read also.. .. :mad: :mad:
Reminds me of my MIL who gave those expired packet nuts from Ching Ming offering to my DS.. ..nicely packed in a bag with all smiles...those joss stick 'ashes' included... :stompfeet: -
seeing so many complaints… i’m beginning to wonder anyone here who has got no in-law problems… no in-laws is not counted ya…
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