In-law problems?
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Glacier:
perspective for best brands differ to lots of pple. u think best brands, the person receiving it might not think that way.
Mooncake does not costs a lot of money. The best brand costs the most $50 per box. If I can afford, I will buy for them to make them happy. The more happy they are, the less likely they will talk behind my back and this makes me happy in return. Mooncake festival is only once in a year. I viewed it as an opportunity for me to know how to 做人 i.e. perform my duty as a dutiful DIL. If they are happy, they will talk nice things about me too. It is a win-win situation for everyone.verykiasumummy:
not forgeting once when a friend call me and i happen to be at home with them... my friend wanted me to help her and her sil buy mooncakes as well, so i purposely say loudly in their presence, \"u trsf the money to me first before i buy ok, and also ask ur sil to trsf me money.. she should pay for her own mooncake what...\"
the sils all pretend not to hear... fine!!
last yr each sil bought 1 box, this yr 2 of them bought 2 boxes each... no more next yr... and it coincides with my dd psle too... i'm going to say it out loud, i'm broke after paying for extra tuition and enrichment... and last 2 yrs u all also nv pay me back... so no mooncake this yr...
my dh will sure be mad at me... but i couldnt care more..
btw, i told my dh about the mooncake thingy yr after yr... he just pay me out of his pocket... like wat?? sugar daddy?? so i commented that he paid for his sisters but not for me la... and he gave me my share, thinking that paying for my share as well will settle the problem... -
SBKS:
perspective for best brands differ to lots of pple. u think best brands, the person receiving it might not think that way.[/quote]yes very true...
Mooncake does not costs a lot of money. The best brand costs the most $50 per box. If I can afford, I will buy for them to make them happy. The more happy they are, the less likely they will talk behind my back and this makes me happy in return. Mooncake festival is only once in a year. I viewed it as an opportunity for me to know how to 做人 i.e. perform my duty as a dutiful DIL. If they are happy, they will talk nice things about me too. It is a win-win situation for everyone.Glacier:
[quote=\"verykiasumummy\"]not forgeting once when a friend call me and i happen to be at home with them... my friend wanted me to help her and her sil buy mooncakes as well, so i purposely say loudly in their presence, \"u trsf the money to me first before i buy ok, and also ask ur sil to trsf me money.. she should pay for her own mooncake what...\"
the sils all pretend not to hear... fine!!
last yr each sil bought 1 box, this yr 2 of them bought 2 boxes each... no more next yr... and it coincides with my dd psle too... i'm going to say it out loud, i'm broke after paying for extra tuition and enrichment... and last 2 yrs u all also nv pay me back... so no mooncake this yr...
my dh will sure be mad at me... but i couldnt care more..
btw, i told my dh about the mooncake thingy yr after yr... he just pay me out of his pocket... like wat?? sugar daddy?? so i commented that he paid for his sisters but not for me la... and he gave me my share, thinking that paying for my share as well will settle the problem...
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wah to me, mooncakes are very ex leh… i bu she de to buy for myself already, why must i buy for others?
anyway what is it about singaporeans who ask you to buy things and then don’t want to return ah? as if i earn a big profit like that! if it was me, i will ask for the money and make sure it is returned. Fair is Fair. i work, you also work. I have kids, u also have kids. we all have our burdens and it’s just chao kwang behaviour. -
nightlone:
absolutely... they are so chao kuan.. so angry with them at times...wah to me, mooncakes are very ex leh... i bu she de to buy for myself already, why must i buy for others?
anyway what is it about singaporeans who ask you to buy things and then don't want to return ah? as if i earn a big profit like that! if it was me, i will ask for the money and make sure it is returned. Fair is Fair. i work, you also work. I have kids, u also have kids. we all have our burdens and it's just chao kwang behaviour. -
Moon cakes not cheap at all…for that lotus paste and salted egg. Old one also has very fussy mouth…can say what and what brand not nice.
Never mind, yu sheng every year also want to eat from certain restaurant (por kee)…bought once for her bcos happen to buy for my parents. Then hubby bought for her from some restaurant…not to her liking.
Each time I ask hubby to buy 2 shares…one for her. She will say her son very filial, know what she likes to eat (I don’t need credit though, she zip up will do). But if not to her liking, she will tell me it is not nice, bring hubby to buy again. What the shit!!! -
Last night, the SIL called (the house!) at 10:30pm. Announced to DH that she was coming over to talk to him. Yes. Super urgent and die die must come over. :siao: :siao: So what is the talk? About how her mother is so naggy and noisy and every morning and night nag her non-stop. She cannot tahan anymore.... pulling her hair out. And this is \"all because my unfilial husband got married and moved out and left the MIL all to her!!\". Must come up with a solution to ... \"like have another baby\" (so that she can come and fuss around 5 times a day), or let MIL stay in my house because then it is more fair...
And this is because recently my youngest started full day nursery not much excuse for MIL to pop by 5 times a day, right? :rahrah: :rahrah:
But hello... to set the record straight, the MIL owns her place, the SIL can afford a place of her own but refuses to. And it is the SIL that from young, refused to let her widowed mother have any friends, talk to the neighbors, or even talk too much to her own siblings!! (yes, then there is the kind of mother that listens to such nonsense)... Then, hor... if you cannot stand your own mother, you pass to me? Oh, wait... I am not part of this situation - I am on ly a by-product of which the children are conceived. :scratchhead: :scratchhead: -
hi straffan23,
your situation looks almost similar to mine...hubby is the 乖乖 one to THEM (before getting married)...at sickening younger siblings' beck and call as drivers and to buy food. after we got married, they were handicapped :rahrah: ...damn sister tried to continue her nonsense by asking hubby to go all the way to the east to send her somewhere :rant: i was fuming when i heard it and made a loud comment that there is such a thing called TAXI. -
and you did not ask back for the money?[/quote]
i did, though i'm not that kind that will confront them for money matters...
i will say, wah this yr after disc still need $55 per box leh, and the champagne is even more expensive... blah blah blah... in front of all of them... and they will say, oh increase price got become bigger piece anot? another will say, ok ok i will tell my boyfriend i buy very expensive ones..
and that's it... take their mooncakes and go off...
1 sil will probably buy me something next day or so, like buy me my fav cold crab, another sil will probably ask me if i hv any clothes to wash together kind... and that's it... nv return me money.!!![/quote]
Why don't you be direct and ask for the money instead of hinting here and there? -
straffan23:
Thats horrible. Thank goodness my DW dont stay with my MIL and that my own mother is not like that. No wonder before I marry my DW, she asked me if we going to have our own condo and not stay with MIL. But i do understand sometimes MIL can be quite a nuisance and try to create problems.Last night, the SIL called (the house!) at 10:30pm. Announced to DH that she was coming over to talk to him. Yes. Super urgent and die die must come over. :siao: :siao: So what is the talk? About how her mother is so naggy and noisy and every morning and night nag her non-stop. She cannot tahan anymore.... pulling her hair out. And this is \"all because my unfilial husband got married and moved out and left the MIL all to her!!\". Must come up with a solution to ... \"like have another baby\" (so that she can come and fuss around 5 times a day), or let MIL stay in my house because then it is more fair...
And this is because recently my youngest started full day nursery not much excuse for MIL to pop by 5 times a day, right? :rahrah: :rahrah:
But hello... to set the record straight, the MIL owns her place, the SIL can afford a place of her own but refuses to. And it is the SIL that from young, refused to let her widowed mother have any friends, talk to the neighbors, or even talk too much to her own siblings!! (yes, then there is the kind of mother that listens to such nonsense)... Then, hor... if you cannot stand your own mother, you pass to me? Oh, wait... I am not part of this situation - I am on ly a by-product of which the children are conceived. :scratchhead: :scratchhead: -
yes sadly. MIL dont understand me and always try to get me and my hubby to quarrel. the good thing is my dh understand what kind of person my mil is so he always ignore. lol
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