In-law problems?
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SAHM Chew:
The old ones always thought that since they raised their kids, they know better than us. But they have forgetten that they are the grandparents n not the parents. My dad know my temper n will ask my permission before offering. N my kids do not see my dad often. But my PIL will offered treats to my kids daily, especially, if i asked them to look after for a while. Since my kids are bigger now, i do not ask my PIL to look after them. Not even for 5 mins, as i know, within these 5 mins, anything can happen.[/quote]how old is ur kids now? mine is just 2 and 4. they are at a age of falling sick and building immune system. so i have problems with them eating tidbits or fried stuff. and plus they are frequently sick.
ya old ones tend to sayang the young ones...we the middle aged ones cant do much but be bad guy..SBKS:
[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]SAHM Chew,
The old ones always want to play the good guys...so that grand kids like them and be angels in front of their children. But when their grand kids fall sick or kids have to go for operation or need their help after giving birth for eg, these 'angels' either go MIA or come up with excuses like don't know how to go to children's place, or where hospitals are.
Sick of their nonsense.
i already told my parents that if they continue to be like this angelic, then i will always be the devil...then my kids will hate me...then how? lol
but if they are older like primary schools, and not sick, i dun mind letting them eat but not too much. everything in moderation. -
mine are 7+ and 12. the food in their place is not handled properly like leftovers are not put in fridge but placed on the table from breakfast till late afternoon...that can cause food poisoning. i hate it when she thinks my kids are so precious and cannot eat the food. she is plain ridiculous :mad:
so i told my kids NOT to eat anything in their house. -
SBKS:
My kids are 9,6 and 4. The incidents of PIL giving them tidits, chocolates, sweets, ice cream when my eldest is between 2-4. Terrible time i have when he was hospitalised, and i need to bring my 2nd boy to stay in the hospital as well as i am breastfeeding him. 1kid is sick, n in the end, 2 kids n me staying in the hospital for 5 days. Nobody can help me that time as DS1 only want me, n DS2 need my milk. After that, i told DH that only me, The mother is allow to give them any tidits as i can contol the amt they eat n force them to drink water. PIL will just shove the whole packet to them, n let them eat. N will not ask them to drink water. Even now, i will still control the amt of tidits my kids can eat. But my PIL, will always give them secretly.... :scared:
how old is ur kids now? mine is just 2 and 4. they are at a age of falling sick and building immune system. so i have problems with them eating tidbits or fried stuff. and plus they are frequently sick.
but if they are older like primary schools, and not sick, i dun mind letting them eat but not too much. everything in moderation. -
SAHM Chew:
poor you...attend to a sick child in hospital and another one nursing.
Terrible time i have when he was hospitalised, and i need to bring my 2nd boy to stay in the hospital as well as i am breastfeeding him. 1kid is sick, n in the end, 2 kids n me staying in the hospital for 5 days. Nobody can help me that time as DS1 only want me, n DS2 need my milk. After that, i told DH that only me, The mother is allow to give them any tidits as i can contol the amt they eat n force them to drink water. PIL will just shove the whole packet to them, n let them eat. N will not ask them to drink water. Even now, i will still control the amt of tidits my kids can eat. But my PIL, will always give them secretly.... :scared:SBKS:
how old is ur kids now? mine is just 2 and 4. they are at a age of falling sick and building immune system. so i have problems with them eating tidbits or fried stuff. and plus they are frequently sick.
my hubby also grew up eating tidbits...he was fat bcos of all the junk and soft drinks...he never drank water. when we got married, i didn't buy canned drinks or tidbits. he had a habit of opening the fridge to look for pepsi then. now he drinks water and even tells son to drink water. :rahrah: -
janet_lee88:
poor you...attend to a sick child in hospital and another one nursing.
Terrible time i have when he was hospitalised, and i need to bring my 2nd boy to stay in the hospital as well as i am breastfeeding him. 1kid is sick, n in the end, 2 kids n me staying in the hospital for 5 days. Nobody can help me that time as DS1 only want me, n DS2 need my milk. After that, i told DH that only me, The mother is allow to give them any tidits as i can contol the amt they eat n force them to drink water. PIL will just shove the whole packet to them, n let them eat. N will not ask them to drink water. Even now, i will still control the amt of tidits my kids can eat. But my PIL, will always give them secretly.... :scared:SAHM Chew:
[quote=\"SBKS\"]
how old is ur kids now? mine is just 2 and 4. they are at a age of falling sick and building immune system. so i have problems with them eating tidbits or fried stuff. and plus they are frequently sick.
my hubby also grew up eating tidbits...he was fat bcos of all the junk and soft drinks...he never drank water. when we got married, i didn't buy canned drinks or tidbits. he had a habit of opening the fridge to look for pepsi then. now he drinks water and even tells son to drink water. :rahrah:[/quote]Oh, my hubby also grew up eating junk food n drinking soft drinks. He will never touch water. Until now, still the same. He does not drink any plain water. But i do not keep any soft drinks in my fridge, only green tea. But my MIL still buy tons n tons of soft drinks. I still do not understand how can a mother allow her kids to eat junk food all day. I will not do that. Dont understand my MIL.
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Hi SAHM Chew,
MILs do not care what junk food is…what matters to THEM is making their children happy thinking that their mother buys them their favourite food/drink. Even if I buy soft drinks, it will be maximum 6 cans of coke…my kids will ask me whether they can drink soft drinks. -
janet_lee88:
:sad: my MIL still stock up on soft drinks. Coke, sprite, root beer, all soft drink 1 dozen each. My SIL also drink soft drinks....Hi SAHM Chew,
MILs do not care what junk food is...what matters to THEM is making their children happy thinking that their mother buys them their favourite food/drink. Even if I buy soft drinks, it will be maximum 6 cans of coke...my kids will ask me whether they can drink soft drinks. -
SAHM Chew:
I told my kids the amount of sugar put into each can of coke...they were shocked...occasionally I indulge them. Hubby used to drink only Pepsi and was really fat from eating junk food, soft drinks and eating out. If the mother made soup, it would be so rich and salty like drinking gravy.
:sad: my MIL still stock up on soft drinks. Coke, sprite, root beer, all soft drink 1 dozen each. My SIL also drink soft drinks....janet_lee88:
Hi SAHM Chew,
MILs do not care what junk food is...what matters to THEM is making their children happy thinking that their mother buys them their favourite food/drink. Even if I buy soft drinks, it will be maximum 6 cans of coke...my kids will ask me whether they can drink soft drinks.
Eating healthy food is necessary bcos health is so impt as we age.
I have NO conversation with her bcos her thinking is hay wired...buying 1 box of economy rice everyday to share with the old man and then washing the styrofoam boxes. Hubby told me the mountain of styrofoam boxes is enough to start a zi char stall. :yikes: he has given up advising them. -
My PILs never restricted soft drinks, fried stuff on their kids. If fall sick just medicate lor. So DH told me they were always sick.
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SAHM Chew:
wow....that episode is enuff..if it happens to me as well. i will draw the line clearly...poor u.
My kids are 9,6 and 4. The incidents of PIL giving them tidits, chocolates, sweets, ice cream when my eldest is between 2-4. Terrible time i have when he was hospitalised, and i need to bring my 2nd boy to stay in the hospital as well as i am breastfeeding him. 1kid is sick, n in the end, 2 kids n me staying in the hospital for 5 days. Nobody can help me that time as DS1 only want me, n DS2 need my milk. After that, i told DH that only me, The mother is allow to give them any tidits as i can contol the amt they eat n force them to drink water. PIL will just shove the whole packet to them, n let them eat. N will not ask them to drink water. Even now, i will still control the amt of tidits my kids can eat. But my PIL, will always give them secretly.... :scared:SBKS:
how old is ur kids now? mine is just 2 and 4. they are at a age of falling sick and building immune system. so i have problems with them eating tidbits or fried stuff. and plus they are frequently sick.
but if they are older like primary schools, and not sick, i dun mind letting them eat but not too much. everything in moderation.
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