Reasons to ask your maid to leave

[tanya]

st2:

tanya:

[quote=\"clovergan\"]omg.. throw the baby on the floor? have to send her to the police! my previous maid is from indo.. i realised that she wore all my clothes (including my tub bra!) and take pics of herself.. most of the time in the toilet..sometime is while we not at home. so almost impossible to catch her doing that. I only found cause i chance upon her FB where she uploaded the pics! from her FB i found out that many of her friends are doing the same thing! so hard to trust the helper to be well behaved when home alone

Yes, she was captured by police on the same day. Locked in the cell for investigation and subsequently stay in retention centre and the judge later decided it was just an accident. I have no choice but to let go of this matter.

I heard one of my friend's relative's maid had a boyfriend and she let her boyfriend have sex with the toddler ard 5-6 yrs old while daddy and mommy is out at work. In the end, the police/judge oso let them off and the parents have no choice but to sack her and let go of this matter.

I wondered how the govt can be so lenient to the foreigners???!!!If you read the news about how maids abuse or murder the owners, you may notice their sentences is usu very light. Police told me that these abuse cases are too common.

Is this for real with proof? Are you saying that the maid watched on as her boyfriend penetrated the 5-6 years old toddler and none of them were charged in court? There has to be some evidence on the toddler (skin torn/scar tissue etc) unless there is no penetration, perhaps can't get enough evidence. No one should get away with this type of crime against children

I can't imagine how the parents feel.....as I was reading.... I was mortified and so angry.

The police should talk to MOM...[/quote]Yup, you are correct. They were not charged even though they commited such a heinous crime and it was not reported in the news too. Thats why i hate how the Singapore laws are so lenient to these foreigners.

[POA Teacher]

Was there proof that the little one was raped?

If so the parents should have insisted that the maid and bf be charged. Contact MP / media etc.

[tanya]

It happened many years ago

[jmtlam]

I’m contemplating to send my maid away. Should I send her bk to the agent or should i buy her a ticket bk Indonesia. She has been with me for 8 mths. No more loan as she was a transfer maid and work for two employers since Nov 2011.


Initially found her to be ok and willing to learn. Lately she’s stubborn and show me black face whenever I ask her why on things that she did wrong. Example she likes to overcook the food, cook too oily, and she don’t eat things that she cooks and expect my kids to finish it. Can’t seems to manage or get along with my kids and she always felt that my kids don’t like her. Come on, my previous maid was with me for 6 years and my kids are very polite with her.

My kids love my cousin’s maid and was able to mingle with her although she only stay with us for 3 months.

I’m sick and tired of trying to talk to her or to see her black face.

According to the agent, her previous employer don’t want her as she can’t handle the two young kids. Thought mine should be ok as they are quite old and can take care of themselves.

[nms1]

It’s up to you whether you think she could fit in with another family. If so, then let her go back to the agent and find another job rather than sending her home.


In cases of dishonesty, lack of trust etc. I would say definitely send her home but this kind of case it difficult as she hasn’t done anything wrong as such and there is a chance she may be able to find an employer that is happy with her. I always feel bad about sending them back and making them start all over again.

Maybe this will be a wake-up call to her if you tell her that you were thinking of sending her back but you will give her the chance to find another employer?

[st2]

Hi jmtlam


It’s always frustrating having this type of maid.
All that you’ve described, clearly shows that she is not willing to follow instructions. For me, that causes me to rethink if I can trust her to take care of my household.
When she does not follow instructions and when questioned, shows blackface…I’d take it that she is no longer willing to learn to do things my way. So that’s the beggining of power struggle. It always does not end well.

Since she is a transfer maid and 2 employers since Nov 11. I’m quite sure it is the same problems and issues. They come in ok at first and when they are familiar, they start doing things their way and think we can’t do without them.

What pisses me off the most is, they are self righteous and think that as long as they don’t steal and ‘do their work’, they have every right to show us face and we are the ‘bad guys’.

I’ve sent maids like that home, your maid has changed employers several times, she knows she can just get another job. If they don’t show black face when questioned why they did not follow instructions, then maybe I’ll send them to agency.

[jmtlam]

I hope that she did not do something wrong and will not do something wrong… The problem is I think I’m very trusting and left her alone at home all day as both hubby and I working… So cannot monitor her in some way. Lately she starts to behave like queen and not happy show black face…


Maybe I didn’t elaborate, she take shower 1hr and I don’t bother cos if she finish her work, I’m ok. Cos I think sometime is she washing her clothes. But recently my aunty came in the evening and only she at home. My aunty have to wait 30min for her to come out from the toilet. And when she was out from the toilet, she don’t show remorse and just black face lor.

She cooks for my kids and she don’t eat. When I ask, she say she full already. Always say she eat salad in the aftnn and dinner she skip. And my kids don’t like the thing she cook… sometime is too oily, sometime too bland… wonder if she don’t even want to eat what she cooks, why she expect my kids to finish it. As I hardly eat at home, don’t really know what she cooks and she always let them have early dinner before I reach home at 6.30…

With my previous maid, i can truely trust but this maid somehow makes me very stress up… haiz…

[tanya]

I feel like scoulding my maid for all the things that I hate about her. She takes my kindness as fool. My mum and mil wont be able to help me. There is no one I can rely on except her hence I always have to swallow my pride and anger and refrain from my outbursts.

[Skyed]

Used to have a maid that tried to seduce my older brother. My mom sent her packing immediately.

[reasonable_family]

I have a transfer maid who was ill-treated by former employer. She was good for the first 2 years so we renewed her contract. A month later, we discovered she has contracted TB. For the past 6 months we had given her the medical treatment she needed including a surgery. Each checkup at NUH costs us abt $250 and she has to go every 2 weeks for first 2 months. Now, her pattern is out. She started by not greeting us when we got home and treated us as invisible. She disregard hygiene when she cooks and disobeyed instructions. She simply dun give a damn about us. I am going to send her back on the grounds that she has TB. I had enough of her treating us as invisible (except when pay day comes). We will give her 3 days notice and hope nothing will go wrong during this period. God be with us.