In-law problems?

[TheAnswer]

vinegar:

now i am no longer enjoy going out wf DH even there is chance for us to go out as couple. Indeed it has created a strain in our r/s. We do things separately nowadays.Coz I no longer wanna share my thought or feelings wf him...knowing that he'll share everything wf his mum. He seems doesn't understand...coz he has lived wf his mum for the past 32yrs.He feels it is a norm for her to call everyday,he feels it is norm to share everything wf her.


I've to learn to accept it...even after 10yrs of marriage...i am still learning to accept.Coz he expects me to accept it.

I understand his difficulties.Coz if one day he ignores her mum's call or doesn't share his daily life wf her,she'll be upset.

I would rather go out wf friends than wf DH nowadays.I would rather share my feelings wf my friends....I would rather do things alone,if i can't find any friends.

How did he manage his clingy mum before marriage? Like say if you guys are out on a date and his mum calls?

[vinegar]

How did he manage his clingy mum before marriage? Like say if you guys are out on a date and his mum calls?[/quote]


That time,he was still staying wf his mum,so seldom call.But called a lot during our wedding preparation.By that time,it was oredi too late to pull out coz we oredi ROM.

During our first few months,after the wedding,my DH went bk to ILs home few days a week.Yes, we stayed separately.I stayed in our new home,while he went bk n stayed there few days per wk…just bcoz my MIL kept telling me that:"our home cannot go without my DH".So i asked my DH go bk.

[vinegar]

vinegar:

How did he manage his clingy mum before marriage? Like say if you guys are out on a date and his mum calls?

That time,he was still staying wf his mum,so seldom call.But called a lot during our wedding preparation.By that time,it was oredi too late to pull out coz we oredi ROM.

During our first few months,after the wedding,my DH went bk to ILs home few days a week.Yes, we stayed separately.I stayed in our new home,while he went bk n stayed there few days per wk...just bcoz my MIL kept telling me that:\"our home cannot go without my DH\".So i asked my DH go bk.[/quote]

[TheAnswer]

I have learnt how to ‘study’ eye rolling and face changing gestures. When I see that, I go on extra alert mode, zips off quickly to do other stuff before things blow up. Things usual subside quickly if I hit the right button!

[TheAnswer]

vinegar:

vinegar:

How did he manage his clingy mum before marriage? Like say if you guys are out on a date and his mum calls?

That time,he was still staying wf his mum,so seldom call.But called a lot during our wedding preparation.By that time,it was oredi too late to pull out coz we oredi ROM.

During our first few months,after the wedding,my DH went bk to ILs home few days a week.Yes, we stayed separately.I stayed in our new home,while he went bk n stayed there few days per wk...just bcoz my MIL kept telling me that:\"our home cannot go without my DH\".So i asked my DH go bk.

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Guess it was a wrong move to allow him to go back and stay for a few days a week after u guys moved out.
Perhaps think positive n make plans with DH for V Day celebration tmr?

[vinegar]

thks for suggestion.but we’ve not talked for days.no mood to go out coz he would probably busy answering his mother’s calls. Quite sick of being leave alone in the restaurant by him.

[vinegar]

seriously,he always asks me not to bother abt it.I reali try hard not to…but…not when esp… i’ve to reheat n reheat the dishes again,coz he nid to go to his mum’s pl last minute or to answer her calls

[TheAnswer]

vinegar:

seriously,he always asks me not to bother abt it.I reali try hard not to....but.....not when esp... i've to reheat n reheat the dishes again,coz he nid to go to his mum's pl last minute or to answer her calls

:grphug: honestly, he needs to put his foot down n stop pampering her as and when she wants. Otherwise really can't do anything about it.

[Imami]

Vinegar, u have got yourself a good hubby. 百行孝为首。a man who is a filial son won't be too bad. If it will make u feel better, don't reheat food anymore :evil:


What/how is your relationship with your mil?

[vinegar]

TheAnswer:

vinegar:

seriously,he always asks me not to bother abt it.I reali try hard not to....but.....not when esp... i've to reheat n reheat the dishes again,coz he nid to go to his mum's pl last minute or to answer her calls

:grphug: honestly, he needs to put his foot down n stop pampering her as and when she wants. Otherwise really can't do anything about it.

Thanks:)All i hv to continue to endure. DH admits that he doesn't handle his mum well.But he also can't change anything coz this is her character.When she wants something,she wanna it now.When she wanna talk now,she wanna talk now,even my DH is in the meeting or i am busy cooking.

During my confinement,she n her relatives went inside my room without knocking the door,and i was in the middle of breastfeeding...When i turned away(coz tried to cover myself),she told my DH i showed her face.

DH says she is sensitive,he advised me to avoid her,coz he sicks of explaining to her whenever misunderstanding occurs.So now we seldom talks.DH also worries she keeps calling n put my life in danger(coz i am driving most of the times to ferry my kids or run errands).