don't really know how to talk to wife

[Augmum]

sleepy:

Augmum:

Yr quoted example reminds me of once when we were in HK.....

Told him that we were walking the wrong direction back to the hotel.....i rmb the landmark....
BUT.... he insisted that he was right, told us (me and gal) to follow him...
After a while, i stopped, told him, \" if u want, u continue walking i shall sit here and wait for u to come back\"
He stubbornly walked for some distance and then kwai kwai walked back to us.....u see.... :evil:

That's only applicable if wife has good sense of direction. Mine very very bad. My dd1 took over the directions whenever we go shopping. I got lost in big malls easily.
Even with a GPS I could still get lost and take a long long time to reach destination. So stressful.
Hence I guess that did wonder to hubby's ego because I always rely on him completely whenever we go out. Even if he travelled in circles I wouldn't realise :rotflmao:

I only speak out when if I am pretty confident that I am in the correct direction, usually when we are overseas.....

But when on SG roads, yes.....i rely on him becos I am poor in reading road maps....often being laughed by him.....

[missk]

I think spouses should all take turns to act dumb… Play to your strength and if you know you are weak in something, it won’t hurt to maybe let someone else be the smart one? Both of us can drive and navigate but only one will do it. Going the wrong way never hurt anyone in Singapore right? Both of us can do housework but we split the chores such that it does not overlap (less chance of conflict) and don’t criticize unless something really serious comes up ( like the time my hb sterilized unwashed milk bottles and I found out!!)



The only exception should be parenting, where both parents are needed to play an active. Sometimes that is the cause of friction for us but we work on it. Usually it never hurts to listen to the other person’s suggestions but the one who spends more time with child should be the one making more decisions.

[missk]

I think spouses should all take turns to act dumb… Play to your strength and if you know you are weak in something, it won’t hurt to maybe let someone else be the smart one? Both of us can drive and navigate but only one will do it. Going the wrong way never hurt anyone in Singapore right? Both of us can do housework but we split the chores such that it does not overlap (less chance of conflict) and don’t criticize unless something really serious comes up ( like the time my hb sterilized unwashed milk bottles and I found out!!)



The only exception should be parenting, where both parents are needed to play an active. Sometimes that is the cause of friction for us but we work on it. Usually it never hurts to listen to the other person’s suggestions but the one who spends more time with child should be the one making more decisions.

[sunflower]

I think the book “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman may help. Read it together with your wife and practise the strategies as described in the book.

[sunlight7]

My DW argues with google map…enuff said.

[ammonite]

Hahaha... But sometimes you should! Some years back a man drove into a river following such maps in Germany. Here are others.


http://www.ranker.com/list/9-car-accidents-caused-by-google-maps-and-gps/robert-wabash

(sorry for slight distraction, but it's so funny)

[buds]

Nebbermind:

ah....so u haven't figure out yet.


When hubbies ask for opinion, we are basically seeking reaffirmation of our decisions. Just like wives asking 'am I fat?'....there is only one answer :siam:

You want to die is it? :siao:
Give our brader this kind of direct answer? :rant:

GEP daddy no less.. got IQ but need to work on EQ? :siam:

Joule, bro... I hear you.
But lemme get back here again once i'm done poking the bird. :pokeeye:

http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?p=962529#p962529

[vinegar]

Nebbermind:

ah....so u haven't figure out yet.


When hubbies ask for opinion, we are basically seeking reaffirmation of our decisions. Just like wives asking 'am I fat?'....there is only one answer :siam:

I think it is human nature to choose to hear what we would like to hear.

Aiya,if the wife does not wanna hear a honest answer(yes,u r fat),just make sure u don't give him the chance to tell u that u r fat...How?.... Either u don't ask or simply stay as slim as possible.

I've been dealing my sensitive DH fr 11yrs. I still learning n trying to improve my communication skills wf him,so I be able to share my ideas or opinion wf him,without hurting his feelings.

For e.g. instead of saying this T-shirt doesn't look good on u,u could say,\"i prefer u wear the other T-shirt,its colour n design fit u nicely n make u look handsome!\"

[Harlequin]

sunlight7:

My DW argues with google map.....enuff said.

Hahaha.... I argue with GPS.... neh, the lady voice that tells me \"take a left turn, NOW!\", \"Keep to the left\", \"recalculating\", \"recalculating, please wait for a moment\".... :rotflmao:

[Jennifer]

sleepy:

Just 嗲 your way through.

Is there a SOP for this skill?