Having an Autistic Brother
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Wow, thanks for the very detailed answer! My boy does not seem to understand the abstract. For example, I had the hardest time teaching him about germs, why he shouldn’t put his hand into his mouth or eat food that has fallen onto the floor. I am also thinking of how to teach him to answer "Why" questions so we could finally know what are causing his tantrums.
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Yes for most autistic kids they are having stronger visual learning skills. Germs can’t be seen with naked eyes so he may not understand the point only with our teaching which is more on auditory way. Did you try YouTube videos?
My boy seems understand germs, however. He watched intensely for a cartoon show called crawford’s corner on YouTube for a period and there is an episode called sneezer pleaser. He watched until he can cite every line. Together with a song clip that Elmo teaches kids to wash hands before eating then he understands more. He sings the song by himself when he washes his hands.
I also find it difficult to teach why-cause and effect to my boy. I made a book which is on this topic. I wrote the content based on our everyday life, like he drinks water with his cup carelessly and as a result his shirt is wet, I drew a pic with him on a wet shirt and unhappy face and water spilling out of his cup and even wet the floor. I wrote the cause and effect sentence and then I wrote the ‘why’ sentence and the ‘because’ sentence. Some how he is able to understand all those. I just started not long ago so I hope as time goes by he may grasp the concept more.
Tantrum is sometimes hard to understand by us NT person indeed. But I am trying hard to understand him and his world bit by bit and wish one day we can be more connected.
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I should do up a cause-effect book like yours. Thanks for the idea!
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Hi Tamama, can you find me on http://www.come-into-my-world.com? I want to ask you more about this cause-effect book of yours.
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Tamama
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ImMeeMee:
Hi mummies,Tamama
Would you consider homeschooling your child when he is 7yo and beyond, and what would be the plans if so?
Would like to join in for this discussion too. My boy is due for registration this coming July for admission next year. Frankly speaking, he is still academically weak and his independence skill is still not convincing for me to feel at ease that he can look after himself. Coupled with his special needs, I guess the teachers will not have the patience, time and divert extra attention on him. Plus school bullying....the list just goes on and on.
I really thought about homeschooling him but when I talked to the MOE officer last week, I u/s that my child has to take the standard level for all 4 subjects by the time he reaches 12. At the back of my mind, I'm looking at exempting him MT and letting him take foundation level instead and all these can only be granted in school not homeschool based.
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Hi phil4v8,
Sure I will pay a visit to your website. I can share you my little book.
How good your boy reads? You may want to consider his reading level before you make your own book for him. Using real pics of your daily life also helps. Read to him every night before bed. He will gradually attached to the little book and will later ask for it on his own. May be good for younger princess as well. Girls are always developing the love for books faster, I think. Haha. -
Hi Luvmum, the other alternative is to defer your boy until he is more ready. You can delay entry to Primary 1 for up to 2 years.
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Hi ImMeemee, luvmum,
My cheeky young man is 5 now. Same as luvmum’s boy he is due to register for the p1 next year.
I work as parent volunteer for my elder girls school (local school). Frankly speaking, after I helped during the first few days of this new school year and observed all the p1 kids, I don’t have the confident that my cheeky young man will fit into the environment. Not mentioning his weakness in writing skill.
I have discussed this issue with the child developmental unit doctor and she suggested us to defer a year for him. She knows that my boy is attending aba from Monday to Wednesday morning, and going to a special preschool on Thursday and Friday morning. She understands his preschool is kind of helping him to improve academic skill. So she suggested us to let him stay there (for higher chance he can be included in the mainstream class next year) to develop his skill some more before he goes to p1. I am a bit reluctant, but I understand more time to prep him would be better. She will help us write the letter to moe to explain his condition to the school so he can register one year later.
Other choices are private schools,but with the long queue and huge school fee, we are in no favour of choosing them. I thought of homeschool. I love the concept. I just did not find out more yet. I am new to Singapore so I will need to sort out things like if homeschooling for primary level, secondary level is accepted or not. I think you will agree that a special needs kid has different learning ways, homeschooling has great benefits for them indeed. Well I don’t know, I will see how things going first.
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Luvmum,
Your boy going to any school now or not? They teach Chinese?
I don't know if my boy can cope with Chinese or not in future. We don't speak Mandarin Chinese at home as well. But I just want him to try first. So I send him to a small Chinese enrichment centre and register him to n2 level. He learn from the basics. I go through the words taught everyday with him (mon to fri only, sat and sun are crazy time for us). Each revision is so short that his attention span is enough. We just start this beginning of the year. So far he memorises well. During the 1 1/2hour lesson he is not quite attentive as expected. He wanders sometimes. But since the centre is small and only 6 kids there, more teachers attention he will gain.
He did express dislike to go to the Chinese lesson. I link the lesson up with ice-cream or a small fries after the lesson finished, so he is so happy to go to the lesson now. Tricky mummy...
I think it would be too early to say he can or cannot learn Chinese at this moment. Wait for a year of learning then from there I can have a clearer idea. May be you can let your boy try first?
Never say never. Cheers! :please:
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