Di Zi Gui 弟子规
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细讲《弟子规》第1集 蔡礼旭老师主讲 - 2005年幸福人生讲座
诸位家长，现在孩子生日，第一个想到什么？蛋糕。还有没有？
What does it come to mind for your children's birthday? Is it Cake? Anything else?
教子使作善也！请问第一个念头想到蛋糕，是善吗？
Teach our children to perform good deed.
If the first thought is cake, is this teaching goodness?
所以孩子很多的反应都已经流露出教育的结果，我们要冷静看看这个种子是播对了，还是播错了，要慎思慎思。
From the reaction of the child will reveal the outcome of the education . We need to examine whether we are Sowing the Right Seed.
这么好的机会教育，应该让他第一个想到的是，生日即是母亲的受难日。
This is a great opportunity to teach our children by enabling him to Associate his birthday as the Day of Suffering for the Mother.![](\"http://i47.tinypic.com/20if79x.png\")
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要谨记母亲怀胎的辛劳、生产的辛苦，让他能够生起知恩报恩之心，这叫教育。
Need to remember the hardship that mother undergone during 9 months pregnancy and labour pain, we educate the child through cultivating the sense of Gratitude in him.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EwL2qZz_glw -
Below are extract during the seminar conducted by 蔡礼旭老师:
有一位老师读了《弟子规》, 有一天他在整理桌子，突然抬头一看，有二、三个孩子跟着他在擦桌子，其他的孩子一看别人在做也跟着做，结果全班同学都动手擦桌子。他说那时内心很感动，以身作则的力量真的很大。
After reading di zi gui, a teacher was wiping the table in the classroom one day, he discovered all his students in the class also mimic his action. The teacher was overwhelmed by the power of setting a role model himself.
那个星期他们去公园做教学考察，在公园里，他很自然的蹲下去捡起一个纸屑，捡了差不多二、三张，他回头一看，发现几十个学生都在捡垃圾。他说那时看了，眼泪几乎要流下来。
That week, they went to the park to conduct teaching, the teacher squat down to pick up a piece of paper, after collecting 2 to 3 papers, he noticed a number of students also followed suit.
他发现一个真理，为人父母、为人老师、为人领导者最重要的是以身作则，教育的力量、教化的力量、感化别人的力量就特别大。
He discovered the truth, by setting a good example ourselves, whether as parents, teachers or leaders, never underestimate our enormous power to influence others. -
Our Jolly Companion:
they do not start straight away (immediately) to 弟子规, because need to prepare the kids aged 4 to 7 (ie. N2 to P1), to be able to concentrate and focus in class first.He attended the recite class at Blossom World.
But he did not start straight for 弟子规 class. They go by stage
if your child's primary school does not teach them 弟子规, it is good to send them early here (preferably K1 / K2), so that your child gets to learn values, from young.
In the past, schools ever taught pupils before - how to be a good citizen or moral civics, ie. \"hao gong min\". But now, Chinese teachers find that they don't have the time to teach civics. They barely have enough time to cover their Chinese lessons, so schools nowadays don't teach \"hao gong min\" anymore. Sad fact. :sad:
because \"hao gong min\" not taught in schools anymore, no more good citizen around. Thus, you witness a situation like this :-
i)
Commuters ignore pregnant woman, who asked for their seats on MRT train :-
http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/sgseen/ugly_commuters/1434930/commuters_pretend_to_sleep_when_pregnant_woman_asks_for_their.html
ii)
http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/sgseen/ugly_commuters/949366/woman_argues_with_old_lady_over_mrt_reserved_seat.html
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10 January, 2013
YOUNG PEOPLE SAY THANKS TO ELDERS ON GRATITUDE DAY
THEY got down on their knees, said emotional words of Thanks, and served their parents tea.
The occasion?
Gratitude Day, organised by non-profit organisation Blossom World Society, for the young to honour their parents for raising them.
About 430 people, comprising members, their families and volunteers, gathered at the Singapore Federation of Chinese Clan Associations’ hall yesterday to celebrate the event.
The young members served their parents lunch, and served tea on their knees. There was barely a dry eye in the hall during the tea ceremony. Many were moved to tears by the emotional outpourings.
Undergraduate Ooi Ching Fei, 23, who was there with his parents and two younger siblings, said he could not stop crying as he served his parents tea.
“I was very touched. I’m glad for this occasion as I would not have done this at home. I said sorry for all the bad things I had ever done to them, and recalled everything that they had done for me,” he said.
Blossom World Society executive director Patrick Yeo said the idea for Gratitude Day came about in recognition of the need to promote family values. “We chose New Year’s Day to celebrate it to signify a new beginning, and also because it is a time for us to bond with our families,” he said. “Family values are eroding, and we need to bring them back.”
Mr Pua Rui Shuin, 19, was there with his uncle and aunt to honour his paternal and maternal grandmothers. His parents are in Sydney, where the family has lived for the last seven years. Mr Pua is back to serve national service,
“I’m a traditionalist at heart, and I think it’s very important and only correct to show gratitude to those who raised you , But it should not be a one-off thing. This event will help me to remember to be grateful to my parents and grandparents every day.”
The Blossom World Society was formed in 2008 by a group of professionals and aims to educate young people, preserve cultural values and promote community services. It has about 100 members.
source:-
http://www.blossomworld.sg/youth/2013/01/young-people-say-thanks-to-elders-on-gratitude-day/ -
The Family Reunion Day was really meaningful in instilling family values & allows more family bonding.
Main Activities like <COLOR color="#0000FF"><span style="color: #0000FF;">Tang Yuan 汤圆 making session, 拜年与奉茶 Mass "Bai-Nian" & Tea ceremony to inculcate gratitude (饮水思源).
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Speech by Ms Sim Ann, Senior Parliamentary Secretary, Ministry of Communications and Information and Ministry of Education, at the <COLOR color="#BF0000"><span style="color: #BF0000;">Blossom World Society Family Reunion Day on Sunday, 24 February 2013, at 2.40pm at the Orchid Country Club.
喜悦世界协会总裁 杨耀平先生
各位嘉宾,
大家下午好！
1. 新年快乐！ 我很开心能够在元宵节和这么多家庭感受共享天伦的乐趣。
2. 新春佳节期间，亲朋戚友相互拜年、齐聚一堂享用美食是一件很有意义的事。喜悦世界协会借着这个春节，让两百多户家庭通过搓汤圆、拜年、奉茶等活动来传递敬长辈、孝尊亲的美德，这份推动传统文化的努力是值得表扬的。
3. 对在场的年轻朋友来说，搓汤圆应该是一件新鲜的事。我虽然算不上特别年轻，但是也只有煮过超市里售卖的包装好的汤圆， 没有亲手自制过。所以很期待一会儿和大家一起动手搓汤圆。<COLOR color="#4000FF"><span style="color: #4000FF;">两三代家人围在一起搓汤圆、话家常，既温馨又有趣，充分体现了吃汤圆，庆团圆的意义。
4. 我们常听人家说，现代人的生活忙碌，与亲友相聚的时间有限。
<COLOR color="#BF0000"><span style="color: #BF0000;"> 我很高兴看到<SIZE size="150"><span style="font-size: 150;">喜悦世界协会的志愿工作者积极地提倡家庭凝聚力，试图通过不同的渠道宣扬这个信念，让大家了解安排家庭活动并非难如登天。
在座出席今天这场活动的家庭就是最好的见证。圆满、和乐的家庭奠定了社会的基石，而安定的社会则是国家昌盛的基础。
5. 今天是一个美好的开始，给平日忙于生活、工作和学业的我们一个共同学习的机会，让传统文化和家庭价值观薪火相传，为我们打造一个更美好、具凝聚力及和谐的家园。
6. 祝福大家在新的一年，阖府平安、家庭美满。谢谢。
7. I will now continue my address in English. I am honoured to be able to celebrate Yuan Xiao with all the families gathered here today.
Underscoring the activities organised by the Blossom World Society today are the values of respect and care.
These are also values MOE wants to nurture in our students, as part of Character and Citizenship Education in schools. In order to succeed, schools partner parents and the community so that these values are reinforced at home and through community activities.
<COLOR color="#BF0040"><span style="color: #BF0040;"><SIZE size="150"><span style="font-size: 150;">As parents, we are our children’s first teachers. I encourage parents to forge a strong partnership with our children’s schools so that our children will receive a holistic learning experience.
8.<COLOR color="#BF0000"><span style="color: #BF0000;"> With the support of the community and organisations, like Blossom World Society, our students can take part in meaningful activities, bond with family and friends, learn life-skills, and pick up the values we cherish as a society. I look forward to seeing more of such activities.
9. I wish all of you happiness, good health and prosperity for the New Year. Thank you.
http://www.moe.gov.sg/media/speeches/2013/02/25/speech-by-ms-sim-ann-at-the-blossom-world-society-family-reunion-day.php -
Video on Family Reunion Day:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DsK19OK16VMlovelydaughter:
The Family Reunion Day was really meaningful in instilling family values & allows more family bonding.
Main Activities like Tang Yuan 汤圆 making session, 拜年与奉茶 Mass \"Bai-Nian\" & Tea ceremony to inculcate gratitude (饮水思源). -
Just to show: there is a cartoon programme on this every Sunday morning at 10.00-1030 am on channel 8. Just happened to chance upon on today and I though it would be a good introductory when discussing values with our little ones
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just registered my younger kid 4Yrs to Blossom World after reading this thread… New class will start in Oct…
Please recommend other nearby pl to Blossom World for 7Yrs kid… They dont have such class for older kids yah… thanks… -
Di Zi Gui (弟子规), (Standards for being a Good Pupil and Child) was written during the reign (1661-1722) of the Qing Dynasty Emperor Kangxi by Li Yu XIu.
The book is based on the Ancient Teaching of the Chinese philosopher Confucius that emphasises the basic requisites for being a good person and guidelines for living in harmony with others. Like the San Zi Jing（三字经）, it is written in three-character verses.
Confucius emphasised that the Basic MORAL VALUES and VIRTUES should be FIRST taught to a child since young;
those values are to
(1) respect elders,
(2) respect brothers and sisters,
(3) respect wife and husband,
(4) respect the society and lastly
(5) respect the country as a whole.
He believed without those values all other learning would amount to nothing.
弟子规 圣人训 首孝悌
First it teaches you How to be Dutiful to your Parents, and to be Respectful and loving to your siblings.![](\"http://i46.tinypic.com/2wcjskm.png\")
次谨信
Then it teaches you how to be Cautious & how to be a Trustworthy person.
泛爱众
Furthermore, it teaches you to Love ALL Equally.
而亲仁
Be Close and Learn from people of Virtue and Compassion
有余力 则学文
After you have accomplished all the above values, you can learn other skills to improve the quality of cultural life.
The teachings in Di Zi Gui has been the standard teaching for the young of China for thousands of years.
弟子规这本书，是依据至圣先师孔子的教诲而编成的生活规范。
首先在日常生活中，要做到孝顺父母
，友爱兄弟姊妹。
其次在一切日常生活言语行为中要小心谨慎，要讲信用。
和大众相处时要平等博爱，并且亲近有仁德的人，向他学习，这些都是很重要非做不可的事，
如果做了之后，还有多余的时间精力，就应该好好的学习六艺等其他有益的学问。Dawnie:
Is it important to know 弟子规? Do they teach 弟子规 in primary schools?
My boy will be in K2 next year, his school doesn't teach him 弟子规 since he is in a Church Kindy. Whereas his cousinsin K1 and P2 were taught 弟子规 in school. -
Have a friend whose p3 son not motivated in study. Come back home from school always watch tv, play.
Is there any verse inside Di Zi GUI that remind kids to be motivated to study, or at least be teachable, willing to learn ? Or explain why they need to study -
宽为限 紧用功
功夫到 滞塞通
译文：学习的时限可以放宽，但要抓紧时间用功。只要功夫下到了，不懂的地方自然就能明白。
宽=长远计划
紧=抓紧时间
滞塞=疑问，不明白之处
故事：纪昌学射
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