桃花谈
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dolphinsiah:
净空法师回答：出家人会看风水吗？
:thankyou: insider -reading what you are sharing in this thread is a good learning journey for me....insider:
Fengshui is true but this 'Truth' can be misleading, like Macbeth and the Witches...
Fengshui can be used to change the Qi of a place to help a person.
As I said before, we are embedded with positive and negative seeds in us. By using Fengshui, we are trying to use the Qi that Fengshui manages to change to activate the good seeds in us so that good things can happen. Hopefully by activating the good seeds (such as family will have lesser quarrels, get more $$$, etc), the family can be more peaceful and more bad seeds will not be sown. This is the positive part of REAL fengshui.
However, by doing so will not get rid of any of the inherent bad seeds already embedded in us.
We take a simple example of someone having the below embedded seeds in him – 10 good and 10 bad:
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With the help of a GOOD Fengshui Master (not 骗吃 type huh), someone may experience the sequence of events as below:
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That person may feel life to be very smooth. Spouse and kids guai guai, career smooth, money comes easy. Please note that that person needs to have these original good seeds in order for the Qi of Fengshui to activate. If no such good seeds, then fengshui is not useful. So, basically, one is just using fengshui to ‘realise’ the ‘maturity’ of good seeds earlier.
But then if this someone does not go on to cultivate more good seeds, then the good seeds will slowly diminish. Or, if the Qi of fengshui is suddenly ‘broken’ due to whatsoever reasons, then the ‘suppressed’ negative seeds will start to show up in consecutive manner and this can be a very scary thing.
For example, someone may experience a very smooth life by using Fengshui, then for a certain period in his life, he suddenly loses his job, loses his child, goes into bankruptcy, enters into divorce, etc, at about the same time. Coz these things happen one by one, this person may not be able to take the blows one after another. If he is not strong, he may die.
Bad things happen now and then for good purposes. If they happen sporadically, it builds strength into us to face more and more challenges coming ahead of everyone of us. If one’s life has always been smooth is not actually a good thing over the long run. Bad things actually let us appreciate good things more instead of having the tendency of taking things for granted...(阴 vs 阳 concept that these two are always relative and balanced).
So in summary, Fengshui activates good seeds but do nothing to the bad seeds. These bad seeds can only delay their maturity time but they will mature sooner or later if the carrier doesn’t want to do anything kind to counter the effects of these bad seeds when they mature……
So, it’s still must do good deeds to cultivate good seeds coz of really you reap what you sow. ..
PS:
I am not against Fengshui per se. I use little items in my office to create money Qi. However, I will not go for full scale fengshui in my house coz I know I can create the Qi myself and to engage other family members to create the Qi to activate our own good seeds naturally. I welcome problems for everyone in my house – coz that builds strength while getting rid of some negative seeds at the same time. Therefore, my strong belief of nothing can kill me. If problems want to come, come lor. See one, solve one…
For those who are using small little things to change the Qi of a house (such as using 文昌塔）, those are OK. Just don't attempt to change too much. There's really nothing better than Nature and we know how powerful Nature is...
Always 可信不可迷......
PS2 as add on:
I go back to my Money Bowl Theory that each of us comes to this world with a Bowl Size more or less fixed (changable by the good and bad things we continue to do).
For example (very simple one), someone's Money Bowl needs to go through the below cycle:
---++++-++-++++++- = net 7 pluses in life
By using Fengshui, one maybe able to activate all the money to come in first:
++++++++++++ ----- = net 7 pluses in life
So this person will have the following probable 下场：
1. got money when young but poor when old.
2. got money throughout his life but all his negatives he has to bring to his next life (or leave to his offsprings to settle).
So, you still can hope to get Money by using small fengshui items but should never go into 强求 extent with a massive 风水阵......
I fully agree with you on thoughts about Fengshui.....
I do not know whether Fengshui Masters will share the side effects about Fengshui....
But what you have pointed out the cons of FengShui ... has happened to my family...
[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KtHn_bb05uA][/youtube] -
mummy so kiasu:
What about scolding kids out of anger but don't really mean what we say? Will we end up hurting them unintentionally (beside emotionally)? Quite tough to change our habit or character within a short period of time.
Yes, it's really very difficult to change our habit or character. I tried to control but failed last week. Out of 5 days, I shouted at the kids for 3 days. Sigh.... My DS2 still so cute leh, told me that I can shout if I'm scared, don't control. -
Giggler1:
ya lor...difficult to control esp knowing that they purposely do it to go against u....But really really try.....mummy so kiasu:
What about scolding kids out of anger but don't really mean what we say? Will we end up hurting them unintentionally (beside emotionally)? Quite tough to change our habit or character within a short period of time.
Yes, it's really very difficult to change our habit or character. I tried to control but failed last week. Out of 5 days, I shouted at the kids for 3 days. Sigh.... My DS2 still so cute leh, told me that I can shout if I'm scared, don't control.
I always told my boy pls don't do things to agitate mummy...U r good boy,right? Can I trust that u'll be obedient today?Sometx,do work if i give him a bit of reward....I find giving stern look wf deep voice warning work \"sometx\", -
I don’t think they really do it purposely to atangonise us the parents. Heehee
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:thankyou: dolphinsiah for the video clips.
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insider:
So one should not curse and swear huh... even silently, when stuck in a traffic jam, etc.?
Busymum & phttp,
Emmm... think have to revisit a bit on Seedling Theory.
Seeds are carried by everyone of us, some positive and some negative.
So, ANYONE who scolds may 'pre-activate' the negative seeds while anyone who blesses may also 'pre-activate' positive seeds. (parents have multiplier effects).
For example, if someone carries the 'short life' seed and then he cut queue and someone scolds him 'Go and die lah'. This one may pre-activate the 'short life' seed and that person may dies shortly instead of maybe have a chance to do kind deeds to delay the 'short life'. If he doesn't carry the 'short life' seed, then curse will not be effective.
Curse can come in verbal or even non-verbal.
For examples of wrong verbal
1) giving someone a very 'fierce' stare while in the heart the 'starer' holds very terrible thoughts in her heart. This 'thought / 念' is sufficient to transmit the 'pre-activation' energy.
2) wrong modelling... (can be non verbal or verbal)
Could you elaborate what do you mean by wrong modeling?
Another question: you once wrote that we will invite bad karma if we hurt someone badly. In the case of BGR, what happens if it is just 一厢情愿 by the other party? Or what happens if after being together for a few years, one party has a change of heart and breaks off with the other party (before marriage), would it activate some bad seeds? -
insider:
Hi Insider,(BTW, I am not familiar with 掌相 but then so far I know about 断掌 for women is having 'man's character, meaning strong and also indirectly will face more challenges. Can be someone highly successful in career but may have to work like a cow. Can be married but then coz character too strong and overpowers husband thereby leading to 阴阳不协调 and end up more quarrels. My three closest best friends ALL 断掌 women. Hahaha...kind of strange... )
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How about a man with two 断掌? -
Fairy:
Hi Insider,
How about a man with two 断掌?
Hihi, my hubby both hands 断掌, my baby girl also, both hands. -
Went to 'reconfirm' my understanding of 断掌 and yes, it's about strong character so 断掌 is better for men than as form women in a way coz basically it means 'strong headed' / determined.
In the past, women needs to be 'gentle' and 'meek' then consider good else would be seen as 克夫, etc. But now society changes and so 断掌 makes no actual difference between a male and a female and the difference maybe as women, we still need to use the 'softness' that we have in ourselves to 'get' what we want, esp from men, incl our spouses and sons (a lot of things cannot get it by 硬硬来 but can get it quite 'effortlessly' if one knows how to 以柔制刚.)
Below summary on 断掌. Want to say again hor, 命, whether good ones or bad ones, though seem fixed, individuals can change themselves... (must find a willingness to change).
有此手相而手比较小的男性，个性强，对善恶均有强烈感，是个不见棺材不落泪的人，如误入歧途将会成为黑社会的主脑人物，如走上正道会是个大事业家；女性 断掌的人，很难要求她持有女性化的魅力，为人心直口快，很重理智，公事公办，丝毫不偏私，不善调情，因此一旦恋爱，婚姻多半不幸福。
http://www.365suanming.com/xiangxue/shouxiang/13931.html
PS kwk:
So your daughter has 断掌 and now you may have a pre-conceived ideas of she will be 'strong headed' and 'determined' and probably one of those who refuses to take advice.
If she indeed really turns up this way, then please accept her else will be a lot of clashes.
While accepting her, you have to model the 柔 part in you for her to learn indirectly (coz you can never teach 柔 directly coz it's an 'abstract' skill).
You cant really change a child's character by hitting or scolding her.
While after hitting and scolding, a parent may feel 'improvement' in child's character and behaviour, those are usually illusions only coz most children would be intelligent enough to suppress their certain traits to avoid punishments, meaning they are still who they are, just that you can't see the 'real' person in them anymore.
So let's say for example your daughter really turned up to be stubborn and she changed on surface coz if she doesn't change, she may 'get it' from you. So, you think that she has changed.
But deep inside her, she doesn't change. She suppresses.
When she grows up, the True Self will start to surface / explode. And the real ones who will kena all these blunts likely will be her husband and kids; thereby making the 'prophecy' true for a 断掌 woman.
I advocate strong emotional connections with a child. So accept the child as what she is, allow her to share her innermost self with you, and exchange your innermost self with them (as they grow bigger). While in the meantime, you practise kindness and your child will be able to learn indirectly.
When my brother started taking drugs when he was about 11 or 12, my parents hit him hard. Subsequently, my mum found that hitting couldn't change him, my mum used love. Whenever my brother came back with a broken leg or arm, she didn't scold anymore. Instead, she nursed so patiently on those wounds. I can still recall vividly how my dad hammered a live fish so that to boil the 生鱼汤 for my brother to recover faster from his wounds). My mum somehow understood the 'theory' by herself, that if she still wants the son, she has to accept him as who he is until he is willing to change by himself... -
insider:
Yes, even at the tender age of just a few months old, she display the character and behaviour as you mention. She will cry until she gets what she wants, I've tried the let her cry it out method but fail. She know how to roll over at 3mths, knows how to control the baby walker at 5mths, abit of crawling at 6mths when we put her on her stomach, a very stronge will girl.
PS kwk:
So your daughter has 断掌 and now you may have a pre-conceived ideas of she will be 'strong headed' and 'determined' and probably one of those who refuses to take advice.
If she indeed really turns up this way, then please accept her else will be a lot of clashes.
[quote]While accepting her, you have to model the 柔 part in you for her to learn indirectly (coz you can never teach 柔 directly coz it's an 'abstract' skill).[/quote]Thanks for the advise, will keep it in mind.
[quote]You cant really change a child's character by hitting or scolding her.
While after hitting and scolding, a parent may feel 'improvement' in child's character and behaviour, those are usually illusions only coz most children would be intelligent enough to suppress their certain traits to avoid punishments, meaning they are still who they are, just that you can't see the 'real' person in them anymore.[/quote]I have observe this in my 2 boys, after canning, they will improve but they will repeat the same mischief again the next day. DS1 being the older one has the intelligent to avoid punishment by not doing it but he will ask DS2 to do it and watch as DS2 received his punishments. It was after some observation that I discover DS1's 'motive' and I told him that he will received the same punishment as DS2 if he instigates the act.
[quote]So let's say for example your daughter really turned up to be stubborn and she changed on surface coz if she doesn't change, she may 'get it' from you. So, you think that she has changed.
But deep inside her, she doesn't change. She suppresses.
When she grows up, the True Self will start to surface / explode. And the real ones who will kena all these blunts likely will be her husband and kids; thereby making the 'prophecy' true for a 断掌 woman.[/quote]I saw real case scenario, one of my cousin since young very obedient, she will always be reading or doing her homework when the other children are playing. Than one fine day she change totally, rebel her mother, play truant..... the mother was heartbreaken.
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