don't really know how to talk to wife

[Jennifer]

buds:

Marriage needs work you know..

Yes, HARD work, harder than my housework

[sleepy]

Jennifer:

buds:

Marriage needs work you know..

Yes, HARD work, harder than my housework

Have you started 嗲ing him ?
No effect huh?

[Jennifer]

sleepy:

Jennifer:

[quote=\"buds\"]Marriage needs work you know..

Yes, HARD work, harder than my housework

Have you started 嗲ing him ?
No effect huh?[/quote]I have stopped talking to him.

Sorri folks, I sms, skype or viber him which he can respond at his convenience.

[TheAnswer]

Jennifer:

I have stopped talking to him

Try to trash things out?

[ammonite]

Actually hard work still need two hands to clap. One must draw the line somehow.


Any effect after not talking to him? If no effect, should consider dressing up and going out more. Do the things you like. And build up your finances.

[Jennifer]

TheAnswer:

Jennifer:

I have stopped talking to him

Try to trash things out?

Nah.

He is very busy working on the marketing materials for a BIG exhibition in April in Germany.

Can see the sign DO NOT DISTURB flashing above him.

My younger boy 小鸟不知 catapult, kena scolded by his papa lor.

[Jennifer]

ammonite:

should consider dressing up and going out more.

Unfortunately, this is not my style.

[Jennifer]

I had a talk with MIl ytd.


FIL was a workaholic, left the house early morning and back at night. MIL was left alone with 3 children n housework.

Hm, so this is the family culture.

Definitely can visual hubby stepping into those shoes.

Me can follow in MIL’s footsteps?

[vinegar]

perhaps add a little humour in the conversation?


my dh is quite workaholic.I rather he remains like this.why? coz if he’s free,he likes to do women stuff…for e.g. listen to my MIL grumble,entertain my MIL unwanted attn,interfere the way i do hsework or cook…

recently,he said he’s going to resign…I’ve mixed feelings.I’ve one more person to help me to ferry the kiddo,but he also gives me another set of probs.Coz if he stays at home,i cannot rest peacefully,my MIL calls VERY OFTEN.Imagine my dh has to entertain her calls while teaching the kiddo.

i rather he works…

[sleepy]

Jennifer:

Me can follow in MIL's footsteps?

Is it possible to talk to your hubby about your expectation of marriage & what role you would like him to take (big picture). It's never too late even if it may feels too late to be having this kind of conversation after being married for ages

The longer a couple is married, the easier it is to be 'lost' and get caught in the current. There are so many nitty gritty things daily to distract so I think it's good to take a step back & look at the big picture every few years.


If my hubby doesn't seem to 'hear' me, I would write him an email to express my thoughts.
As a last resort, I would suggest to him to see a marriage counsellor. That suggestion always make him sit up because he thinks that getting counselling are only for people with failing marriage. So he's super resistant. I told him I view that as prevention, better than snow ball.
We never got around to seeing one because he always started listening intently once I suggest to him to see a counsellor together