2013 Sec 1 Discussions

[janet88]

slmkhoo:

janet_lee88:

We started the March holidays with 2 visits to NUH dental centre...Monday morning and quickie arrangement for op to have 4 teeth extracted on Tue afternoon.

4 in one day? Premolars? Poor thing! I had all 4 premolars removed around this age too, also due to overcrowding, but one at a time. My parents were very relaxed about it - they didn't even go with me, and I took a bus there and back by myself. I recall I used to go on Sat mornings after ECA and then spend the afternoon sitting at home waiting for the bleeding to stop!

2 baby teeth...2 premolars.
Under GA. Get it done and over with since school holidays.
Under hospitalization leave till next Tue. Think he hasn't got over the after-effects of GA yet...still drowsy.

[mummy so kiasu]

janet_lee88:

slaoo:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]We started the March holidays with 2 visits to NUH dental centre...Monday morning and quickie arrangement for op to have 4 teeth extracted on Tue afternoon.

4 in one day? Premolars? Poor thing! I had all 4 premolars removed around this age too, also due to overcrowding, but one at a time. My parents were very relaxed about it - they didn't even go with me, and I took a bus there and back by myself. I recall I used to go on Sat mornings after ECA and then spend the afternoon sitting at home waiting for the bleeding to stop!

2 baby teeth...2 premolars.
Under GA. Get it done and over with since school holidays.
Under hospitalization leave till next Tue. Think he hasn't got over the after-effects of GA yet...still drowsy.[/quote]Poor boy! Should have done it last Nov/Dec holidays. Have longer period to rest. Wishing him a speedy recovery.

[fifiyeo]

Back to school tomorrow…


So nice to have a break. Just stepped on the gas and finished up all the homework today after returning from vacation. Stressed already!

[janet88]

Orthodontist was away…besides, we were feeling a little down after the PSLE results then…so couldn’t think of anything else at that time.

Though son has hospitalization leave till Tue, I will get him to revise and read up before he goes back to school.

Time to top up gas for the new term…but hey, it’s going to be a short week bcos of Good Friday…even shorter week for son (just 2 days). Gotta start ramping him up for mid year exams.

[fifiyeo]

Yes Janet, another 2 more days and it’s a long weekend!

[fifiyeo]

Got a friend her sec 1 son got girlfriend now. How?


I told her to send him to school and pick him up whenever possible so it will cut down the out of school interaction time with the girl and maybe that will make the relationship die a natural death. Upfront confrontation I think is not a good idea.

[kwcllf]

fifiyeo:

Got a friend her sec 1 son got girlfriend now. How?


I told her to send him to school and pick him up whenever possible so it will cut down the out of school interaction time with the girl and maybe that will make the relationship die a natural death. Upfront confrontation I think is not a good idea.

At beginning of the year, we attended DS' school talk. There was a briefing from the school's councillor and were told that BGR is a big No No.

Perhaps, your friend may want to get some advice from the school's councillor?


By the way, my DS has Home Econ test today. Hopes everything goes well. But I was very put off by his teacher's attitude. Before the school holiday, they were told to submit what they want to cook (main dish + drink or dessert). They were also subsequently told to list down the ingrdients required for the test.

When this was duly submitted to the teacher, she said my DS' chicken stew was \"too easy\". So must change the drink that he wanted to make to something else. He and his friend (as they must work in pairs), then went through a cookbook given and they selected Fruit Jelly.

Can't believe the teacher said chicken stew is \"too easy\". This is not all. Yesterday, my DS was told that he would be given chicken drumsticks when his recipe asked for boneless chicken meat like chicken fillet or chicken breast. These could easily be bought from the supermarket. The teacher told him chicken stew MUST USE CHICKEN DRUMSTICK.

What a load of rubbish! Does she expect children who only learnt to cook for 1 term to debone the chicken drumstick for the chicken stew.

I told my DS that his teacher is trying to make things easy for herself as she just needed to buy one type of meat for everyone. My DS then told me that one of his seniors once asked who his Home Econ teacher was. When he told this senior, he said teacher was \"no good\".

[fifiyeo]

kwcllf:

fifiyeo:

Got a friend her sec 1 son got girlfriend now. How?


I told her to send him to school and pick him up whenever possible so it will cut down the out of school interaction time with the girl and maybe that will make the relationship die a natural death. Upfront confrontation I think is not a good idea.

At beginning of the year, we attended DS' school talk. There was a briefing from the school's councillor and were told that BGR is a big No No.

Perhaps, your friend may want to get some advice from the school's councillor?

I also told her that BGR is not good at this age and my friend knows that too. But she feels that by imposing that rule, she is not being fair to her boy. I don't think she will want to talk to the school about this. Anyway, I told her that teens need to feel very loved at home or they will need to find 'love' elsewhere.They don't make good decisions at this age, often full of attitude but we as parents just have to still show a lot of love instead of quarrelling with them.

[kwcllf]

fifiyeo:

kwcllf:

[quote=\"fifiyeo\"]Got a friend her sec 1 son got girlfriend now. How?


I told her to send him to school and pick him up whenever possible so it will cut down the out of school interaction time with the girl and maybe that will make the relationship die a natural death. Upfront confrontation I think is not a good idea.

At beginning of the year, we attended DS' school talk. There was a briefing from the school's councillor and were told that BGR is a big No No.

Perhaps, your friend may want to get some advice from the school's councillor?

I also told her that BGR is not good at this age and my friend knows that too. But she feels that by imposing that rule, she is not being fair to her boy. I don't think she will want to talk to the school about this. Anyway, I told her that teens need to feel very loved at home or they will need to find 'love' elsewhere.They don't make good decisions at this age, often full of attitude but we as parents just have to still show a lot of love instead of quarrelling with them.[/quote]This can be a difficult stage and it is not easy to deal with such problems.

Regarding the school's councillor, I am not saying that your friend should approach him to help solve the \"problem\". What I am suggesting is that maybe, she can have an informal talk (not disclosing too much info about her boy or his girl friend) and get some advice how to go about handling such issues.

Yes, I agree with you that we need to show lots of love and understanding, and try to tackle any problems, if any, amicably. It is a very sensitive stage and teenagers can be full of angst.

[sharonkhoo]

fifiyeo:

I also told her that BGR is not good at this age and my friend knows that too. But she feels that by imposing that rule, she is not being fair to her boy. I don't think she will want to talk to the school about this. Anyway, I told her that teens need to feel very loved at home or they will need to find 'love' elsewhere.They don't make good decisions at this age, often full of attitude but we as parents just have to still show a lot of love instead of quarrelling with them.

What is involved when you say \"BGR\" for this age? Perhaps your friend can set some objective rules based on time - how much time outside school hours spent together, on the phone, online etc. Priority should be on completing homework, family activities etc. Also, maybe she can forbid one-on-one dates and only allow going out in groups. Another way which can quite effectively \"kill\" BGR at this stage, I think, is to invite the girl to visit so that the parents can get to know her. I have 2 girls aged 13 and 16yo, and we have already told them that we don't allow single dates for now (anyway, they haven't shown that kind of interest in boys yet, thankfully!). We also encourage them to invite friends of both sexes over to our home for board games, watching a video etc when we are at home, and I think by seeing their friends interact with us a bit, it becomes less of a forbidden fruit.