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[sembgal]

TheAnswer:

Sembgal, I spend time with my son daily before I go to work. Try to coach him with his studies and play with him.

Don't you start work in the morning?

[vinegar]

haha…i only meet my brother once per "year".not very close wf my brother ever since i married.


Hmm…i’ve frds in accounting…work late all the times.Most of them r still single.

He nid to seriously considers his personality n interests b4 making career decisions.Suggest him to read up on wat he might expect fr. life as accountant,such as working hour,pays,social life(none?),work environment(stressful n fast paced?)

this morning,i just highlighted to my dh if he wanted to switch job(coz he finds his current job very stressful),make sure if he finds out more abt the job b4 deciding to take it up.

[TheAnswer]

sembgal:

TheAnswer:

Sembgal, I spend time with my son daily before I go to work. Try to coach him with his studies and play with him.

Don't you start work in the morning?

I am a full time tutor. The earliest I go to work is 9am and only on Monday, wednesday and Friday I have to leave at 9am. Other lessons are from 3pm onwards.

[TheAnswer]

vinegar:

haha..i only meet my brother once per \"year\".not very close wf my brother ever since i married.


Hmm...i've frds in accounting...work late all the times.Most of them r still single.

He nid to seriously considers his personality n interests b4 making career decisions.Suggest him to read up on wat he might expect fr. life as accountant,such as working hour,pays,social life(none?),work environment(stressful n fast paced?)

this morning,i just highlighted to my dh if he wanted to switch job(coz he finds his current job very stressful),make sure if he finds out more abt the job b4 deciding to take it up.

I will talk to him again. Just find it tough to talk now.

[TheAnswer]

sembgal:

Accounting is stressful and if he can't take stress, how is he going to cope during month end closing reports etc?

That's why he never use his brain and think. Listens to his sister more than me. I already reason the things out for him. Honestly, he always makes the wrong decisions.

[sembgal]

TheAnswer:

sembgal:

[quote=\"TheAnswer\"]Sembgal, I spend time with my son daily before I go to work. Try to coach him with his studies and play with him.

Don't you start work in the morning?

I am a full time tutor. The earliest I go to work is 9am and only on Monday, wednesday and Friday. Other lessons are from 3pm onwards.[/quote]Who will take care of your child if you need to teach in the evenings and he need to do his assignments? Have you consider this? If you were now the one to tell him you want a career switch, how will he feel and how will he react if you say you want to take from the savings for pursuing the course and depend on savings for daily expenses. He needs to empathise with you.

[vinegar]

TheAnswer:

sembgal:

Accounting is stressful and if he can't take stress, how is he going to cope during month end closing reports etc?

That's why he never use his brain and think. Listens to his sister more than me. I already reason the things out for him. Honestly, he always makes the wrong decisions.

Men,sometx,they r like small children.My dh also always makes wrong decision.

[TheAnswer]

We stay near my mum. We do not have problems managing arrangements for our kid. I'm more concerned if he will give up half way.

Now I'm teaching afternoons and evenings also. My mum helps me fetch my boy and prepare his dinner. Usually DH will fetch him once he finishes work as he usually finishes work earlier than me.

You have given me a good idea. I should counter suggest to him :evil:

[TheAnswer]

vinegar:

TheAnswer:

[quote=\"sembgal\"]Accounting is stressful and if he can't take stress, how is he going to cope during month end closing reports etc?

That's why he never use his brain and think. Listens to his sister more than me. I already reason the things out for him. Honestly, he always makes the wrong decisions.

Men,sometx,they r like small children.My dh also always makes wrong decision.[/quote]Sometimes he has no choice but to admit he screwed up several times. He never said that the best decision he made was to marry me. Maybe if he said that I will be less angry

[vinegar]

when u talk to him,don’t mention abt giving up half way,Later he is not happy coz doesn’t show confidence in him.


However,sometx,i can’t help it not to say also.I always tell my dh to focus n prioritize.I remind him that he is a family man,whatever decision he makes,he has to take the family as consideration.But at the same time,he has to consider "himself" too.While we make sacrifices for family,we also muz make sure we do not forget abt our own happiness.