Private Life coaches for children?
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Jennifer:
:rotflmao:[/quote] if he does ask for an ultrasound, and you get him one, can I borrow it for one day? I always wanted to play with in. :please:UncleLim:
[quote=\"Jennifer\"]
He is happy lor - mama said yes to everything he wants to buy. Latest request: a microscope.
Use? See micro-organism.
What for? Just want to see how these look like?
Where to put the microscope? On the TV console lor, still hv space mah
I :slapshead:
So I told him, yes can buy. I will go find a medical one, very powerful one. He goes No need lah, just the Popular one will do :faint: Toys again
Microscope is still ok. Let's hope he does not ask for an ultrasound machine next...
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Jennifer:
He is happy lor - mama said yes to everything he wants to buy. Latest request: a microscope.
Lucky for me, we have a free one from a Burger King Kids' Meal toy.
Comes with some specimens to look at too.
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Jennifer:
Jennifer, my DD has similar problem -- (1) no time mgt & (2) always complaining, blaming others & denying it's her fault. I am also thinking of seeking councillor or profesional life coach for assistance. Many times, I hold myself responsible for not coaching her the correct way. :oops:
I always find him very self centred. It is straining our relationships. His poor time mgt
Similar incidents hv surfaced in the past. All boils down to his forgetfulness n poor time mgt.
When I tried to talk to him about this, he would apologise but these incidents would re-surface again and again.
I tried to treat him like a mini adult, giving him choices and the rights to make decisions. However he disappoints me again and again.
Her poor time mgt is due to her forgetfulness and SLOWNESS. I reject to rush out at night for her or to sch shd she forget anything. She has to be responsible for her own action. Does she learn her lesson after each reprimanding/warning fr teacher or me? Not much. :sad:
She is VERY slow in her hw. Her tutors, sch teachers and even classmates are commenting that she is very slow in writing. An est. 2-hr hw will take her abt 3-4 hrs to finish. :frustrated: There's no time for revision at all. I have no choice but to push back her sleeping time when it is near to exam period. (but surprisingly, she can manage to finish her exam papers in the nick of time - but of course, no time for checking).
She always blaming too. Blame teachers for being strict, giving too much hw. When I push/teach her how to write fast, she blames me for stressing her out. When she is slow, she blames the pen, :faint: ANYTHING... ANYBODY but herself.
I've tried all soft & hard approaches, rewards sys, penalty, time table etc. but none works.
She always promises to change but these incidents will re-surface again.
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yeomaylin:
:hugs:
Jennifer, my DD has similar problem -- (1) no time mgt & (2) always complaining, blaming others & denying it's her fault. I am also thinking of seeking councillor or profesional life coach for assistance. Many times, I hold myself responsible for not coaching her the correct way. :oops:Jennifer:
I always find him very self centred. It is straining our relationships. His poor time mgt
Similar incidents hv surfaced in the past. All boils down to his forgetfulness n poor time mgt.
When I tried to talk to him about this, he would apologise but these incidents would re-surface again and again.
I tried to treat him like a mini adult, giving him choices and the rights to make decisions. However he disappoints me again and again.
Her poor time mgt is due to her forgetfulness and SLOWNESS. I reject to rush out at night for her or to sch shd she forget anything. She has to be responsible for her own action. Does she learn her lesson after each reprimanding/warning fr teacher or me? Not much. :sad:
She is VERY slow in her hw. Her tutors, sch teachers and even classmates are commenting that she is very slow in writing. An est. 2-hr hw will take her abt 3-4 hrs to finish. :frustrated: There's no time for revision at all. I have no choice but to push back her sleeping time when it is near to exam period. (but surprisingly, she can manage to finish her exam papers in the nick of time - but of course, no time for checking).
She always blaming too. Blame teachers for being strict, giving too much hw. When I push/teach her how to write fast, she blames me for stressing her out. When she is slow, she blames the pen, :faint: ANYTHING... ANYBODY but herself.
I've tried all soft & hard approaches, rewards sys, penalty, time table etc. but none works. She always promises to change but these incidents will re-surface again.
:?:
I feel like you are describing my boy
This week Tues is not Science supplementary lesson, so we did not hv another rush out to buy whatever incident. Next Monday, I will hv to remember to ask him what he needs.
I am becoming paranoid- always asking him whether he needs to buy sth whenever we are at a mall.
The recent Monday, he was a very good boy- finished up all school work due or not due the next day, did the Lead.com assignment w/o surfing to his Aircraft Investigation youtube, did not throw any tantrum.
And he came to tell me this: you will be very happy if I behave like this everyday, right?
To which I reply: of course lah, which mother wont be happy? You go find me one.
He laughed so heartily at my reply.
Somehow I feel that he knows in his heart what he should be doing, but somehow he cant behave in the right way all the time. Tues was a down day, partially becos the weather has been raining in the afternoon when he wanted to go out to play.
Ytd was ok until 9.10pm. We had a small argument and he went to sleep shortly.
This morning, he told me that he suspects sb is stealing his pens/pencils in school. I did a simple acknowledgement as I know he is not going to admit that he misplaced the stationery and I also know there is a possibility of theft in school as this has happened many times in the past.
I recently made an arrangement to see a professional who suggested to me that my boy might be suffering from a xx condition based on my email to her describing my boy's behaviour. Our appointment is next Monday. We shall see how it goes from there. -
yeomaylin:
Have you tried these methods since she was 2 or only when she started primary school?
Jennifer, my DD has similar problem -- (1) no time mgt & (2) always complaining, blaming others & denying it's her fault. I am also thinking of seeking councillor or profesional life coach for assistance. Many times, I hold myself responsible for not coaching her the correct way. :oops:Jennifer:
I always find him very self centred. It is straining our relationships. His poor time mgt
Similar incidents hv surfaced in the past. All boils down to his forgetfulness n poor time mgt.
When I tried to talk to him about this, he would apologise but these incidents would re-surface again and again.
I tried to treat him like a mini adult, giving him choices and the rights to make decisions. However he disappoints me again and again.
Her poor time mgt is due to her forgetfulness and SLOWNESS. I reject to rush out at night for her or to sch shd she forget anything. She has to be responsible for her own action. Does she learn her lesson after each reprimanding/warning fr teacher or me? Not much. :sad:
She is VERY slow in her hw. Her tutors, sch teachers and even classmates are commenting that she is very slow in writing. An est. 2-hr hw will take her abt 3-4 hrs to finish. :frustrated: There's no time for revision at all. I have no choice but to push back her sleeping time when it is near to exam period. (but surprisingly, she can manage to finish her exam papers in the nick of time - but of course, no time for checking).
She always blaming too. Blame teachers for being strict, giving too much hw. When I push/teach her how to write fast, she blames me for stressing her out. When she is slow, she blames the pen, :faint: ANYTHING... ANYBODY but herself.
I've tried all soft & hard approaches, rewards sys, penalty, time table etc. but none works. She always promises to change but these incidents will re-surface again.
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TheAnswer:
Have you tried these methods since she was 2 or only when she started primary school?
My P6 boy was an angel when he was a toddler. Other than the usual separation anixety when I walked the elder boy to childcare centre, he was a mild tempered, no the terribles 2 outbursts, always smiling cutie pie.
The only violent displays of behaviour was the initial few days when we sent him to childcare. After which, he was very comfortable and socialised well with all children in the centre.
Never thought that going on to pri sch age would change him so much. -
Jennifer:
When I see this ,Funz:
Seems like what he wanted was mummy's attention.
Not true lah.
All he wants is to make me say yes to buying more toys :moneyflies:
I was thinking along the lines of Wii U , xbox….
but asking for micrsoscope is not a bad thing at all ,
Uncle Lim:
..if he does think of that ..........Microscope is still ok. Let's hope he does not ask for an ultrasound machine next...
jennifer,your kid will be playing with toys for medical professionals :evil: -
Jennifer:
:hugs:yeomaylin:
Jennifer, my DD has similar problem ......
I feel like you are describing my boy
What you both described sounds very, very familiar to me. :hugs:
The only difference is that these traits are shared between my two boys.
So the problem is somewhat diluted for me ,
I can handle them one at a time.
I can imagine what it would be like if they are fused together! :faint: -
yeomaylin:
If you have tried so many methods and nothing works, have you considered that she is really just slow? Some people just can't think as fast or do things as fast as others. I have a daughter who is really slow and disorganised, and we later realised that she has learning difficulties. I'm not suggesting that your daughter does, but such abilities are a continuum, and she may just be on the slower side of the normal range. For my daughter, we have moderated our expectations - we help her do what she can manage to satisfy her teachers, and don't fuss too much if her standard is not very good because the alternative would be to get her really stressed. I can see that she tries, so I cannot bring myself to keep pressuring her to do better at the expense of her self-esteem and emotional health. She doesn't have tuition so she only has school homework. I try to help her say more in fewer words to save writing!Her poor time mgt is due to her forgetfulness and SLOWNESS. I reject to rush out at night for her or to sch shd she forget anything. She has to be responsible for her own action. Does she learn her lesson after each reprimanding/warning fr teacher or me? Not much. :sad:
She is VERY slow in her hw. Her tutors, sch teachers and even classmates are commenting that she is very slow in writing. An est. 2-hr hw will take her abt 3-4 hrs to finish. :frustrated: There's no time for revision at all. I have no choice but to push back her sleeping time when it is near to exam period. (but surprisingly, she can manage to finish her exam papers in the nick of time - but of course, no time for checking).
She always blaming too. Blame teachers for being strict, giving too much hw. When I push/teach her how to write fast, she blames me for stressing her out. When she is slow, she blames the pen, :faint: ANYTHING... ANYBODY but herself.
I've tried all soft & hard approaches, rewards sys, penalty, time table etc. but none works. She always promises to change but these incidents will re-surface again.
:?:
As for blaming everyone and everything, a child who has been told that everyone can achieve the same results as long as they work hard enough will probably feel that since they have worked hard but still can't achieve those results, the fault must lie elsewhere. If you believe that your child is trying her best, then you may need to help her understand her own limitations and moderate your and her expectations. As adults, we know that some people are quicker on the uptake, some more creative, some more physically able, some more social etc, so we need to accept these differences in our kids too. Also, does she here the same 'blame game' around her from adults? Many adults blame the boss, their colleagues, the government... -
CloudeeDaz:
When I see this ,Jennifer:
[quote=\"Funz\"]Seems like what he wanted was mummy's attention.
Not true lah.
All he wants is to make me say yes to buying more toys :moneyflies:
I was thinking along the lines of Wii U , xbox….
but asking for micrsoscope is not a bad thing at all , Uncle Lim:
..if he does think of that ..........Microscope is still ok. Let's hope he does not ask for an ultrasound machine next...
jennifer,your kid will be playing with toys for medical professionals :evil:[/quote]My P6 boy is not a patient person. In fact, I think electronic stuff shocks his brain into outbursts. Not joking. Blames the computer slow, program hang, etc.
This boy is not cut out to be a medical professional - cant sit still :rotflmao:
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