Private Life coaches for children?

[Jennifer]

Funz:

Seems like what he wanted was mummy's attention.

Not true lah.

All he wants is to make me say yes to buying more toys :moneyflies:

[Jennifer]

:thankyou: for all valuable advices.

[UncleLim]

Jennifer:

ammonite:

:rahrah: :rahrah:


Great progress!

He is happy lor - mama said yes to everything he wants to buy. Latest request: a microscope.

Use? See micro-organism.

What for? Just want to see how these look like?

Where to put the microscope? On the TV console lor, still hv space mah

I :slapshead:

So I told him, yes can buy. I will go find a medical one, very powerful one. He goes No need lah, just the Popular one will do :faint: Toys again

Microscope is still ok. Let's hope he does not ask for an ultrasound machine next...

[Jennifer]

UncleLim:

Jennifer:

[quote=\"ammonite\"]:rahrah: :rahrah:


Great progress!

He is happy lor - mama said yes to everything he wants to buy. Latest request: a microscope.

Use? See micro-organism.

What for? Just want to see how these look like?

Where to put the microscope? On the TV console lor, still hv space mah

I :slapshead:

So I told him, yes can buy. I will go find a medical one, very powerful one. He goes No need lah, just the Popular one will do :faint: Toys again

Microscope is still ok. Let's hope he does not ask for an ultrasound machine next... [/quote] :rotflmao:

[Sun_2010]

Jennifer:

UncleLim:

[quote=\"Jennifer\"]

He is happy lor - mama said yes to everything he wants to buy. Latest request: a microscope.

Use? See micro-organism.

What for? Just want to see how these look like?

Where to put the microscope? On the TV console lor, still hv space mah

I :slapshead:

So I told him, yes can buy. I will go find a medical one, very powerful one. He goes No need lah, just the Popular one will do :faint: Toys again

Microscope is still ok. Let's hope he does not ask for an ultrasound machine next...

:rotflmao:[/quote] if he does ask for an ultrasound, and you get him one, can I borrow it for one day? I always wanted to play with in. :please:

[buds]

Jennifer:

He is happy lor - mama said yes to everything he wants to buy. Latest request: a microscope.

Lucky for me, we have a free one from a Burger King Kids' Meal toy.

Comes with some specimens to look at too.

[yeomaylin]

Jennifer:

I always find him very self centred. It is straining our relationships. His poor time mgt

Similar incidents hv surfaced in the past. All boils down to his forgetfulness n poor time mgt.

When I tried to talk to him about this, he would apologise but these incidents would re-surface again and again.

I tried to treat him like a mini adult, giving him choices and the rights to make decisions. However he disappoints me again and again.

Jennifer, my DD has similar problem -- (1) no time mgt & (2) always complaining, blaming others & denying it's her fault. I am also thinking of seeking councillor or profesional life coach for assistance. Many times, I hold myself responsible for not coaching her the correct way. :oops:

Her poor time mgt is due to her forgetfulness and SLOWNESS. I reject to rush out at night for her or to sch shd she forget anything. She has to be responsible for her own action. Does she learn her lesson after each reprimanding/warning fr teacher or me? Not much. :sad:

She is VERY slow in her hw. Her tutors, sch teachers and even classmates are commenting that she is very slow in writing. An est. 2-hr hw will take her abt 3-4 hrs to finish. :frustrated: There's no time for revision at all. I have no choice but to push back her sleeping time when it is near to exam period. (but surprisingly, she can manage to finish her exam papers in the nick of time - but of course, no time for checking).

She always blaming too. Blame teachers for being strict, giving too much hw. When I push/teach her how to write fast, she blames me for stressing her out. When she is slow, she blames the pen, :faint: ANYTHING... ANYBODY but herself.

I've tried all soft & hard approaches, rewards sys, penalty, time table etc. but none works. She always promises to change but these incidents will re-surface again.

:?:

[Jennifer]

yeomaylin:

Jennifer:

I always find him very self centred. It is straining our relationships. His poor time mgt

Similar incidents hv surfaced in the past. All boils down to his forgetfulness n poor time mgt.

When I tried to talk to him about this, he would apologise but these incidents would re-surface again and again.

I tried to treat him like a mini adult, giving him choices and the rights to make decisions. However he disappoints me again and again.

Jennifer, my DD has similar problem -- (1) no time mgt & (2) always complaining, blaming others & denying it's her fault. I am also thinking of seeking councillor or profesional life coach for assistance. Many times, I hold myself responsible for not coaching her the correct way. :oops:

Her poor time mgt is due to her forgetfulness and SLOWNESS. I reject to rush out at night for her or to sch shd she forget anything. She has to be responsible for her own action. Does she learn her lesson after each reprimanding/warning fr teacher or me? Not much. :sad:

She is VERY slow in her hw. Her tutors, sch teachers and even classmates are commenting that she is very slow in writing. An est. 2-hr hw will take her abt 3-4 hrs to finish. :frustrated: There's no time for revision at all. I have no choice but to push back her sleeping time when it is near to exam period. (but surprisingly, she can manage to finish her exam papers in the nick of time - but of course, no time for checking).

She always blaming too. Blame teachers for being strict, giving too much hw. When I push/teach her how to write fast, she blames me for stressing her out. When she is slow, she blames the pen, :faint: ANYTHING... ANYBODY but herself.

I've tried all soft & hard approaches, rewards sys, penalty, time table etc. but none works. She always promises to change but these incidents will re-surface again.

:?:

:hugs:

I feel like you are describing my boy

This week Tues is not Science supplementary lesson, so we did not hv another rush out to buy whatever incident. Next Monday, I will hv to remember to ask him what he needs.

I am becoming paranoid- always asking him whether he needs to buy sth whenever we are at a mall.

The recent Monday, he was a very good boy- finished up all school work due or not due the next day, did the Lead.com assignment w/o surfing to his Aircraft Investigation youtube, did not throw any tantrum.

And he came to tell me this: you will be very happy if I behave like this everyday, right?

To which I reply: of course lah, which mother wont be happy? You go find me one.

He laughed so heartily at my reply.

Somehow I feel that he knows in his heart what he should be doing, but somehow he cant behave in the right way all the time. Tues was a down day, partially becos the weather has been raining in the afternoon when he wanted to go out to play.

Ytd was ok until 9.10pm. We had a small argument and he went to sleep shortly.

This morning, he told me that he suspects sb is stealing his pens/pencils in school. I did a simple acknowledgement as I know he is not going to admit that he misplaced the stationery and I also know there is a possibility of theft in school as this has happened many times in the past.

I recently made an arrangement to see a professional who suggested to me that my boy might be suffering from a xx condition based on my email to her describing my boy's behaviour. Our appointment is next Monday. We shall see how it goes from there.

[TheAnswer]

yeomaylin:

Jennifer:

I always find him very self centred. It is straining our relationships. His poor time mgt

Similar incidents hv surfaced in the past. All boils down to his forgetfulness n poor time mgt.

When I tried to talk to him about this, he would apologise but these incidents would re-surface again and again.

I tried to treat him like a mini adult, giving him choices and the rights to make decisions. However he disappoints me again and again.

Jennifer, my DD has similar problem -- (1) no time mgt & (2) always complaining, blaming others & denying it's her fault. I am also thinking of seeking councillor or profesional life coach for assistance. Many times, I hold myself responsible for not coaching her the correct way. :oops:

Her poor time mgt is due to her forgetfulness and SLOWNESS. I reject to rush out at night for her or to sch shd she forget anything. She has to be responsible for her own action. Does she learn her lesson after each reprimanding/warning fr teacher or me? Not much. :sad:

She is VERY slow in her hw. Her tutors, sch teachers and even classmates are commenting that she is very slow in writing. An est. 2-hr hw will take her abt 3-4 hrs to finish. :frustrated: There's no time for revision at all. I have no choice but to push back her sleeping time when it is near to exam period. (but surprisingly, she can manage to finish her exam papers in the nick of time - but of course, no time for checking).

She always blaming too. Blame teachers for being strict, giving too much hw. When I push/teach her how to write fast, she blames me for stressing her out. When she is slow, she blames the pen, :faint: ANYTHING... ANYBODY but herself.

I've tried all soft & hard approaches, rewards sys, penalty, time table etc. but none works. She always promises to change but these incidents will re-surface again.

:?:

Have you tried these methods since she was 2 or only when she started primary school?

[Jennifer]

TheAnswer:

Have you tried these methods since she was 2 or only when she started primary school?

My P6 boy was an angel when he was a toddler. Other than the usual separation anixety when I walked the elder boy to childcare centre, he was a mild tempered, no the terribles 2 outbursts, always smiling cutie pie.

The only violent displays of behaviour was the initial few days when we sent him to childcare. After which, he was very comfortable and socialised well with all children in the centre.

Never thought that going on to pri sch age would change him so much.