How much should I give my parents?

[SBKS]

would you all reveal honestly how much pay you earn monthly to your parents when they asked?

[UncleLim]

vinegar:

Lavina:

I am SAHM and my hubby gives my mom $600 monthly. One brother gives my dad some $ and another single brother who live with them pay for utility, house etc...


Since my brother has always been my mom's fav son, naturally she loves his two dd more than my ds. I just let it pass. DS gets enough love from hubby and me.... hehehe

I have a friend who was so pissed that the wife's mom \"zhong nan qing nu\" that he made his wife (i think wife agrees too) cut all ties with the family. Ten years and they haven't even gone back once!

my mum also dotes my bro more.He forever an angel to her.

i used to give $$ to my mum even i stopped working for yrs.One day,i casually asked her if $$ enuff if brother got give her $$.Her reply was irritating.She said,\"u think i could i survive wf ur miserable few hundred dollar that u give?? ur bro gives me few thousands to spend.\"

She stays wf my bro n also treat bro's children like precious gems,hack care my children.

She said her savings will give all to my bro coz he takes care of her.it was hurting. :sad: it is not the $$ issue,but i find her too \"practical\".
But i still give her $$ occasionally.

Hi Vinegar, it must be very sad to take that from your mum. But remember that our parents (like us) are not perfect people. Sometimes, older does not necessary mean wiser. And there is a fair bit of money politics in most families, sad to say.

[TheAnswer]

SBKS:

would you all reveal honestly how much pay you earn monthly to your parents when they asked?

My income varies every month so it's hard to tell my parents exactly how much I earn. They only know the range.

[Imami]

SBKS:

would you all reveal honestly how much pay you earn monthly to your parents when they asked?

Of cos. In fact, I made it a point to update my mum on every pay rise, bonus etc. Like reporting my school grades :rotflmao:

With my father, I am more vague. Only volunteering info when asked and always a ball park figure. Becos he has a real bad habit of leaking such info to any Tom, dick and Harry and would always compare our earnings (my siblings and me).

[SBKS]

Imami:

SBKS:

would you all reveal honestly how much pay you earn monthly to your parents when they asked?

Of cos. In fact, I made it a point to update my mum on every pay rise, bonus etc. Like reporting my school grades :rotflmao:

With my father, I am more vague. Only volunteering info when asked and always a ball park figure. Becos he has a real bad habit of leaking such info to any Tom, dick and Harry and would always compare our earnings (my siblings and me).

understand from your point of view.

I just keep thinking that they want to know about it so that they will know whether the amount they received from us is justifiable or not and if they should ask more or not.

[Imp75]

My parents refuse to accept money from me so I usually give in kind ie travel buy stuff etc

[Imami]

SBKS:

understand from your point of view.

I just keep thinking that they want to know about it so that they will know whether the amount they received from us is justifiable or not and if they should ask more or not.

do you hv any examples to support why/how you feel that way?

Not that I don't believe you, but this is something new to me becos both my pil and parents do not operate like that and I hv yet to hear the same from friends.

I am curious. If I hv a chance, I would like to \"interview\" these parents. How much % is justifiable?

[Imp75]

Well I have heard of some parents who ask for more as soon as pay is risen

[popireis]

Imami:

SBKS:

understand from your point of view.

I just keep thinking that they want to know about it so that they will know whether the amount they received from us is justifiable or not and if they should ask more or not.

do you hv any examples to support why/how you feel that way?

Not that I don't believe you, but this is something new to me becos both my pil and parents do not operate like that and I hv yet to hear the same from friends.

I am curious. If I hv a chance, I would like to \"interview\" these parents. How much % is justifiable?

You will be surprised! Some dun say it out openly but if they know how much their kids r earning they will \"calculate\" if what they received is \"enough\". Some even use that to gauge their children's filial piety. Sometimes, they will compare with relatives how much their kids r earning and how much they r receiving and if they find their % lower than their relatives they may not be happy.

My own mum, when I just started work after graduating, expected me to give her 50%-70% of my salary. And no, she is not asking that amount to save up, she will spend it all. And she will want to know how much i earn so she knows if i am giving the right amount. Of course i did not oblige.

[TheAnswer]

Imp75:

My parents refuse to accept money from me so I usually give in kind ie travel buy stuff etc

My parents will accept the money but when I give my grandma some pocket money, she declines (I still stuff it to her). My grandma has old school thinking that tutors do not make much money.