How much should I give my parents?

[Imami]

Hi popireis,


I don’t mean to speak in offense but I really couldn’t help but wonder - how’s your relationship with your mum? Close or not?

The way you say it, sounds like you r talking about your mil. Sorry, too many mil bashing at the other thread…

[popireis]

Hi Imami


Hmm, it’s a very strange relationship…
I was very close to her when i was young, but as i grew up, it became suffocating as she was very controlling in everything. If u understand what i am saying. I am glad i was strong enuf to stand up for myself, ambicably. I have heard stories of pple who were tightly controlled by their parents even up to adulthood, no social life and didn’t get married as a result.

[SBKS]

Imami:

SBKS:

understand from your point of view.

I just keep thinking that they want to know about it so that they will know whether the amount they received from us is justifiable or not and if they should ask more or not.

do you hv any examples to support why/how you feel that way?

Not that I don't believe you, but this is something new to me becos both my pil and parents do not operate like that and I hv yet to hear the same from friends.

I am curious. If I hv a chance, I would like to \"interview\" these parents. How much % is justifiable?

then u are really lucky...

my mum like to compare...with her so call friends....

then she wants more money...

cos i dun see any reason why they would ask how much i earn....

[SBKS]

there are just simply too many types of pple in the world to make it go round.


trust me, we need all types of pple to make the world go round.

[Imami]

SBKS:

my mum like to compare...with her so call friends....

then she wants more money...

cos i dun see any reason why they would ask how much i earn....

面子问题 . Could it be a gauge of \"how established you are\" in your career? The reason why I sometimes feel like I am reporting my grades to my mum when I tell her I have a pay increment is because it makes her feel good that her daughter is \"moving up\" and doing well. So I wonder if other folks think like this too?

[vinegar]

my mum also likes to compare n make unreasonable request.My aunt’s daughter works in US,no kid,gave my aunt a lot $ ,while i am SAHM,no income,my mum still asked me $$ to go travel.My bro is a doctor,own big hse n two cars,she doesn’t dare to ask $$ fr him.

[SBKS]

Imami:

SBKS:

my mum like to compare...with her so call friends....

then she wants more money...

cos i dun see any reason why they would ask how much i earn....

面子问题 . Could it be a gauge of \"how established you are\" in your career? The reason why I sometimes feel like I am reporting my grades to my mum when I tell her I have a pay increment is because it makes her feel good that her daughter is \"moving up\" and doing well. So I wonder if other folks think like this too?

yes they want face...how established? possible. but if i nt established then how? they will noe how to help me? from their behaviour, i really doubt they want to know how i progress.

[popireis]

Feeling good about your offspring’s progress "is not equal" asking for more money.


I have a friend who is a SAHM no income and her parents are still asking her for money, at times even ask her to help clear her sibling’s debts (sibling is earning quite decently but have habit of overspending).

[SBKS]

too bad my parents may not think that way…


so i gt to accept the hard truth…

[popireis]

Same la, in my mum’s eyes $ = filial…