Failing relationship with Son
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school counsellor is trying to fit him in but what is AED LBS? We even managed to talked to the dean to not cane him in public but now he and his best friend are both not allowed to eat recess in the canteen cause of the mischief they cause instead they are to buy pau and east outside the general office each at one side, see the distress they cause, and till now even no one is giving up on them only they them self for god knows what reason.
His assement is at IMH due to age on the 19 April i am trying to be SANE till then with his PSLE this year my upcoming course starting ( i know this is not the best time but i got no choice) i am going insane soon enough and i still got a younger 10yr old to devote my time to. :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: :stupid: -
AED LBS usually works with mild special needs kids in the school but they do work hand in hand with the school counsellor and are equip to handle behavioural issues. You can ask the counsellor to seek help for a school psychologist(each school cluster has a few psychologist assign to them) do an assessment on your son if needed. My sis is one and she’s been called to observe similar situations before. Hopefully it will shed some light. In the mean time, stay strong and seek other avenue to help him.
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sweetbaby:
AED LBS usually works with mild special needs kids in the school but they do work hand in hand with the school counsellor and are equip to handle behavioural issues. You can ask the counsellor to seek help for a school psychologist(each school cluster has a few psychologist assign to them) do an assessment on your son if needed. My sis is one and she's been called to observe similar situations before. Hopefully it will shed some light. In the mean time, stay strong and seek other avenue to help him.
Trying my best before i go crazy which will be very soon see till now so late still trying to finish a assignment started 3hrs ago cause during this time hes wandering around the house finding donno what. -
Hi mummy OnABudget!
:snuggles:
Are you FTWM or SAHM?
I know it is easier said than done.But you only know your son best.We all know cannot shout have to talk heart-to-heart.At times we forgot or think that we did enough talk and give up the talk.I did a mistake in the early of this year.He already stressed out at school,but i was not aware of his stress and gave him more stress by shouting.Finally, I decided to want to know what is his point of view.Then I explained to him and convinced him that his thoughts are wrong.I cooked some favourite food for him and show him I support him instead of nagging.I show more responsiblity in my chores.
When I started to talk him nicely, his argument made me angry.Its took three days.Be patience,and talk constantly.Tell him that \"usually,he is a good boy ,why he does now?\" So he can change this bad behaviour.I took this advise from Chen's(Petunia Lee, Internal drive theory) book.
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I sorry to know about your falling relationship with your son. If I am not wrong, your boy did well in P5 & he is in the top class. Could it be too much stress given by the school & yourself? Try to talk to him to find out his concern. Counseling might help to a certain extend. Try to sort it out as soon as possible so that he could focus on his PSLE.
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sahm but going back for school soon yea i do use that sappooach but hes not listening and all he replies is i dont know why lah >
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Basically we suspect he is doing all this for attention,he knows hes smart but using his smartness in this wy is not right.
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Now don’t talk about his behaviour and I think u have to bring him to some fun activity places. Lego land or any theme park.May be together his friend’s family.or Wild wild wet…Include jogging in his daily schedule.
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mummy OnABudget:
Basically we suspect he is doing all this for attention,he knows hes smart but using his smartness in this wy is not right.
If you are right that he is attention-seeking, then perhaps you can assess how much non-schoolwork-related attention he gets from you? If it's very little, it may be that that is the reason. If he has been doing well in the past, he may feel that he is valued primarily for his results and good behaviour, and this is a way to testing to see how you react when his results dip? He is only a child, and however smart, he may not see that he is actually doing harm to himself and your relationship. It may help for the adults in his life to give him more positive attention aside from schoolwork so he feels valued for himself. Just some thoughts. -
每个孩子都是独特的个人，必须根据他的需要适当地给予关心，给予信心，给予照顾和温暖。不过，无论你用什么方法教导他，照顾他，启发他，你必须让孩子感受到你在关心他，接受他，了解他，支持他；对他的感情和思想，做亲密的肯定的支持。如果在这方面失败了，对孩子而言，爱就成为支配和控制。
孩子需要你关心他的愿望，但不希望你支配他的愿望；需要你了解他的困难，但并不希望你做太多的干预；需要你的同情和支持，但并不希望你责备和凌辱；他也期待你的协助，但不希望你替他做抉择；需要你的指导，但无法接受你严格的管教和训练。
It is like flying a kite, holding the string tightly and keeping the kite near you will be a disaster, going with the wind, letting go of the string lightly but staying in control helps the kite soar.
Just my thoughts on this.
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